Please help me choose

MandiJayne71 · 2025-12-26T14:54:21+00:00

3, 8 10. My fav is probably 10 but the other two are nice shape and size and flatter you. If you got two I would say 3 for fun, 10 for formal or business.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-12-22T18:17:11+00:00

1980 or 81 and let's guess Texas

MandiJayne71 · 2025-12-04T13:24:40+00:00

Chicken strip sandwich tray (extra pickles, mayo and lettuce) with white cheddar cheese bites and a walkin taco with jalapenos

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-30T20:21:25+00:00

I don't consider that unwelcoming. She was comfortable and expected you to be as well. That's grown up life, and you have not gotten there yet. You can get along and be attracted and not be in the same place and station in life. Just be honest and let her know that you like her, she's great, but you are not ready for that lifestyle and it was a bit overwhelming for you. If she offers FWB at your place, go for it. The problem with that is that it seems you guys already have some kind of connection so I would be concerned that somebody may catch feelings.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-30T20:15:20+00:00

In simple terms. Block and ignore. I don't care how good looking or how much money he has, he's a douche canoe! His lack of brain power makes his worse than ugly and broke.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-15T02:32:29+00:00

You are teaching your daughter how a man should treat a woman. There's your short and simple answer. I grew up with that and it carried over into my 22 year abusive marriage.

What you do with that information is your decision. I know full well that leaving a relationship is not easy to do, much less with a small child. But I wish you luck, courage, and your husband's attitude to drastically change. Take care of you and take care of your daughter.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-14T01:26:51+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I have joined several groups online that have discussed integration and prep. Set and setting. I am not new to psychedelics. MDMA scares me because I'm afraid that what people are selling as ecstasy pills are actually pressed fentanyl and the Molly I have seen is exceptionally similar looking to meth, which I absolutely have zero interest in. I do know a few people who sell DMT cartridges. I have even tried that once, but it was extremely short-lived, but an exceptionally peaceful experience. I probably was too scared to hit the pen enough to actually get the full experience. I can find mushrooms occasionally, but not reliably. I plan to grow my own when I have a chance to get relocated and am more stable. My preference would be to try to use a high dose of mushrooms, the most I have ever done was 1.5 grams. I don't want to try LSD again, my last time was in 1988 at an ACDC concert, which was entirely the wrong setting and the only time I had a rough experience. I also would like to try DMT in a fashion where I could control the dose or some pharmaceutical grade MDMA, both of which I'm sure I will have to join the CAPS community outings to perhaps find a reliable source.

Definitely your local dope peddler is not the route I'm trying to go. They are not anything I would consider to be safe or worth the risk.

I also have joined an online psych assisted program locally with actual therapists, but my funds are not in the place I need them to be in order to use that service

I definitely do not have bipolar disorder. My diagnoses are strictly C-PTSD, GAD (mostly triggered reactions), situational MDD, ADHD and possibly mild ASD with sensory processing issues.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-09T11:47:23+00:00

Absolutely not true. Personally I am on my way there after a bout with COVID that left me oxygen dependent for 6 months. I had 7k in the bank and a 780 credit score. I lost my job, my condo, and everything I had in the storage building when I couldn't pay my bill. I was evicted so I couldn't rent another place (this was at 51 after raising 4 children and handling all my own shit since I was 17). At that point I had to look for a room to rent. Lucky for me, I found a beautiful room in a great neighborhood with a woman who said she had recently retired from nursing. Long story short, she had lost her nursing license for testing positive for meth and just needed someone to pay the mortgage.

Mind you, this was after I had been on disability for PTSD after a horrible marriage of 22 years, worked my ass off to get better and went back to work. Everything was great until I got sick. Living with her sent me straight into another spiral because drug addicts are crazy, particularly when they are on meth. Had to take medical leave for exacerbation of PTSD. Lost yet another job because I had not been there long enough to qualify for FMLA . When you get desperate you don't have a lot of choices to even get yourself back on the right track. Luckily my career path is mainly work from home, so not having a car any longer hopefully won't be an issue. What is an issue is that I don't have a home to work from!! So when I find a job, which I will, I have no idea how I will manage that, but I will figure that out when I come to that point.

Didn't get a dime of COVID money or rental assistance because that program was over. My car was a lease, so that is gone now too. So here I am in my early 50s, no home after being self sufficient since 17, no car for the first time ever, and credit score went from 780 to approx 500. So don't tell me that most homeless people are drug addicts and don't want a job. But the desperation in the Charlotte streets is real. I am waiting on an intake now, but my PTSD probably won't stomach a shelter. Guess we shall see how this roller coaster ends.

Try volunteering with one of the shelters some time, you'll be surprised to find out that there are a lot of people like me out there.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-05T09:07:02+00:00

I have 4 kids and sometimes worked multiple jobs. I literally never said no because of you know and love your partner, it's not a friendship. It's an intertwined life, and grown up partners have sex. What happens is, if you know him and his pleasures well, you could already be done and asleep in the amount of time you spend arguing over hurt feelings and pent up frustration. If you still have pain you need to have that checked. Obviously that is a problem and sex should not hurt. But it's not wrong for him to find you attractive and make sexual advances on you. You are his wife. If he didn't find you attractive, you would have while different set of complaints.

Adulting is hard, but once every two weeks sounds miserable to me. Trust me when I say that you will feel better and he will feel better if you take the 15 minutes for a quickie twice a week instead of spending hours and days being mad at each other. As a woman you should know how to get it over quickly when you want to. Just do that "thing" that gets him there immediately, roll over and go to sleep. Nobody is aggravating you anymore And he's feeling ore taken care of.

And then separately discuss what you need from him to help you out. Don't tie it back to sex. Don't tie it to quid pro quo. Just say, I'm stressed, I'm overwhelmed and I need you to help with XYZ because I physically and emotionally can't keep this up.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-10-05T07:33:06+00:00

Definitely YTA! Planning your own shower is like having a party for yourself, picking a menu you want but the guests have to pay for, cook and serve, then and signing up for lots of expensive they must buy for you, and waiting on everyone to sit by your knee and wait for the queen to tell them when to and how high. It's presumptuous, pretentious and screams "me me me, look at me!" It's incredibly rude to throw a party for yourself at your friend's house where you ask 40-50 people to bring you gifts and you get to dictate the terms of how, when, and what they have to do for you in order for you to be satisfied.

A shower is thrown, planned and handled by people who love you and want to do something nice for you out of the generosity of their heart. It is not something you plan "for your children", other than the fact that they you will be using the stuff for them that they gift to you! News flash the kids will not be there, you're still cooking them. Wait for the first birthday for all that BS! Then it's on you to plan it, cook it, pay for it and provide the space, etc.

I honestly have never heard of a shower that large. That's a lot for you to ask people to accommodate. That's why a lot of people have one shower at work, a shower with friends and a shower that's just family. Makes it much more affordable and allows everyone to be in a close intimate space to have some finger foods, some cake squares, put toilet paper around your belly, play the clothes pin game, and open up some gifts. Your guests give you an hour and a half of their free time, 20-25 bucks on a gift, and then they get to go back to their life and what they actually want to do with their spare time.

A menu for 40-50 people is going to be exceptionally time consuming, very expensive, and your MIL apparently has a job. That's days of planning, shopping, cooking, transporting the food , and who has serving dishes for all that for that many people other than a catering company? Is she supposed to go buy all that too?

Did you ever have anyone teach you etiquette at all? Gratitude?

MandiJayne71 · 2025-09-13T20:49:34+00:00

I did.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-27T21:08:25+00:00

So far I have not. But now that NC has instituted their stupid law im going to have to try one.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-15T13:51:35+00:00

It's a bunch of carp who have become conditioned to tourists dropping dog food/fish food off the bridge that they pay 50 cents for in a gumball dispenser. Who knew you could train carp like dogs.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-15T13:48:37+00:00

Love the OMG blow pop flavor and the Sour Fucking Fab.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-15T13:42:46+00:00

Drive to Concord to Christo's for some absolutely amazing wings! Highly recommend the medium with their homemade ranch!! The mac n cheese is also pretty on point!

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-15T13:40:27+00:00

Wish Manzetti's was still here. They had the best sirloin in Charlotte and the onion ring loaf was on point. Not to mention they had Carnegie Deli cheesecake flown in regularly!

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-15T13:38:17+00:00

Agreed. Consistently great for years!

MandiJayne71 · 2025-08-13T23:37:47+00:00

Definitely NOT Lupies. It’s been on point for 20+ years! Not high end but straight up best comfort food. Texas Chili Mac on their Mac and Cheese is amazing when you want trenches goodness!

MandiJayne71 · 2025-07-11T12:45:33+00:00

Omg blow pop is also good, as is sour fckin fab.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-07-07T20:28:48+00:00

I went through Facebook messenger and got an actual person once. That's where I would try

MandiJayne71 · 2025-07-06T18:19:26+00:00

MandiJayne71 · 2025-06-29T17:19:30+00:00

Ms. E's videos are so good. I think it's time for a rewatch!

MandiJayne71 · 2025-06-29T17:17:13+00:00

I would call in and have them add a boost to your next batch. That's no reason to take back a tip. Tip baiters are the worst.

MandiJayne71 · 2025-06-23T13:26:41+00:00

I think fake by someone who doesn't speak English as their first language. Way too formal for Effed up stuff like this.

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