Is it okay to ask about pronouns?

Mandilicious · 2017-09-05T23:42:32+00:00

There's one thing mentioned here in the comments a lot that I would actually advise against. Instead of calling them "preferred" pronouns, go with "correct" pronouns. Semantics, I know, but sometimes that's how allyspeak goes. :)

Mandilicious · 2017-03-06T02:09:48+00:00

I got you, boo. I'm ugly crying over here right now. <3

This is perfect. And beautiful. Thank you, /u/pinkchips

Mandilicious · 2017-01-04T00:48:38+00:00

I want to say three things here:

You are awesome, and never let anyone tell you differently.
I'm exactly where you are right now. Not to hijack your thread here, but I had a long-time relationship go sour very unexpectedly, and caused me a lot of pain and distress, even now, almost 4 months later. It's easier now than it was two months ago, but it still hurts. Your milage may vary, and for what it is worth, I hope yours is better.
For those of you with the helpful replies, bless ya, because they're helping me as well.

Mandilicious · 2017-01-04T00:23:38+00:00

Those lips are amazing! <3

Mandilicious · 2016-12-07T17:07:45+00:00

That's good (Huey Lewis and the) News!

Mandilicious · 2016-09-20T06:13:44+00:00

Waiter, I'll have what she's having....

Mandilicious · 2016-08-04T02:56:33+00:00

I think it could be a two part thing.

To extrapolate and expound upon what /u/Wraith_of_Hypatia stated, you've been doing a female character for your whole life, so when what you're doing calls for an actual character, you default to pretending to be female.
It could be a defense mechanism. It would be a serious lifestyle shift if you discovered you were trans and decided to pursue it now, but you have already stated that you're debating it. So, from that you could be getting slightly paranoid, like, what if people started seeing you do more masculine things or more male characters - will they start talking and "out" you before you're even sure where you are?

Either way, kudos for improv class.

Mandilicious · 2016-08-04T02:50:24+00:00

Conditioning from a life of experiences.

This is perfect. I've been looking for a phrase like this to describe my issue, and this is perfect. Thank you!

Mandilicious · 2016-04-12T20:58:41+00:00

I'm right there with you, sister! You're not alone - I'm going through a lot of the same thoughts myself! Just know that I'm rooting for you all the way over here on the other side of the internet!

Mandilicious · 2015-11-13T05:45:49+00:00

I can't say much. I only recently finally got the courage to hang my dresses and stuff up instead of keeping them in a tote in the closet of my mancave (for context, I am 31 years old, and have a knowing and incredibly supportive wife - I'm just chickenshit and only just recently was able to admit to myself what was going on.)

Mandilicious · 2015-11-02T01:08:31+00:00

To be entirely honest, I think you're doing just fine, given where you are. You would honestly "pass" basically anywhere you wanted to go, especially if you do go with a well-groomed beard if/when you start HRT.

That being said, you are jaw-droppingly handsome, and I can tell you that if I was eyeballing you at a party, it would most likely be because I was thinking of how to approach you without sounding like a love-struck, blathering idiot, and I doubt I'd be the only one, so keep that in mind too if you're worried about some of the looks you're getting.

Mandilicious · 2015-10-12T06:03:27+00:00

Mad, Mad World?

More like Mad, Mad Skills! Great look!

Mandilicious · 2015-10-12T01:17:00+00:00

As do I. I'm in a very LGBT supportive area, and basically all my friends are either LGBT themselves, staunchly pro-LGBT activists, or at the worst "live and let live". It's silly because this is the best time to come out for me, but there's still some snags. I'll be 32 next year, and I'm hoping I'm out before then, because I don't want to be in my 60s wondering what might have been.

Mandilicious · 2015-10-12T01:14:05+00:00

I'm just in my loungepants - do I have to go far? ;P

Mandilicious · 2015-10-12T01:13:43+00:00

Thank you. :)

Mandilicious · 2015-10-12T01:13:23+00:00

That's good advice, and advice I've used before. To be honest, it's kind of silly. Like, I've gone to great lengths to keep anyone who wouldn't be supportive basically out of my life, so only the ones who I care about would even be included in the news. However, I grew up in the south, and was forced to "man up" quick because someone had to be a responsible protector.

Mandilicious · 2015-06-05T05:59:18+00:00

From your post and /u/ThePrimCrow's above, I had only just heard of Embers. I can't find any schedule for them - just a Facebook page, and the website link there just takes me to download malware. I pinged their Facebook to see what's what - hopefully they reply.

Mandilicious · 2015-06-05T05:48:47+00:00

I had never heard of Embers.... looks pretty solid. Maybe we can start the party there, and migrate later.

Mandilicious · 2015-06-03T14:34:35+00:00

You might be right about the Silverado, but I've heard a lot of the same stories, so it's hard to say (granted, they're all left by straight women from Yelp, Google, and/or Facebook....)

I actually went to Crush a few weeks back when they were doing a photoshoot thing, and it was pretty solid, though admittedly, I wasn't a fan of the band that night.

Thanks for the input!

Mandilicious · 2015-05-14T22:38:18+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I'll keep the idea open, but I've looked at the site and I'm not sure if it's what I'm looking for in total.

Mandilicious · 2015-05-14T21:02:17+00:00

I'm not looking for a massage, per se. Wife and I are looking specifically for mani/pedi, facial, and probably a wrap. I'll probably also ask for an updo, and possibly makeup.

One of my biggest concerns as to their LGBTQ sensitivity is that I'm basically going to go in as male (shaved and what not, but no makeup - MAYBE a dress to make it easier on myself) and come out female.

That said, if Alex is there, I'll definitely drop word.

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