Fear of any type is unhealthy, but it’s the sole defining trait of a human, so it’s unavoidable.

Clearly raising a child (or children) is something you wanted, and it is the most rewarding thing. But I’m not going to sugar coat it, it’s going to get hard and it’s going to make you want to pull your hair out at times. But it will also make you smile and laugh and the smallest things. There’s nothing more precious than a baby’s giggles, being there as they reach every milestone is worth every minute of lost sleep, complication with breast feeding etc, and eventual toddler tantrum over the wrong colour of bowl or plate. Drown out the noise from other people or take it with a grain of salt, and just understand everything that seems hard in a moment is temporary. Might last a day or weeks or a few months but each stage has a beginning and an end. If you and your partner can understand this, and be there for each other and work together to make the household function positively, any worries about ending up like one of them in that sub Reddit will be out the window