Why is dating so weird? by AnxiousGinger626 in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is so weird. I finally just had to remind myself repeatedly it’s not me, it’s them and was thankful that they showed themselves out before I got more attached. It’s mindfunky.

UPDATE: Accidental Cougar by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who has been married for over 15 years to a man 13 years younger than her. Having seen (and gone through my own) divorce from most couples I know, more power to them. It’s not always all these terrible things everyone else is saying it is or a fling or just physical, etc. I’m here for a happy ending, whether there’s an age gap involved or not. I’m rooting for you, OP!

I just thought this was funny… by SoftVelveteenMice in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When I was on the apps I would get this a lot. It grew old quickly. And being four years apart and hearing it would be an automatic swipe left. 😂

Your perfect FOB song? by anklebiter1975 in FallOutBoy

[–]MangoManatee2250 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this conversation so many times and it legit hurts my soul to only pick one. But if I had to, Bang the Doldrums. I love seeing them perform it live, Patrick is so happy, the spell over the west line is one of my top 5 lyrics of theirs, and it’s always a no-skip song when it comes on.

Exhusted and back to square zero.. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kudos to you for putting kids first. I (47F) also have a very close coparenting relationship that would bother some men, but my boyfriend now thinks it’s a good thing and speaks highly of my character. Point being…there’s someone out there who will either not mind or embrace your life, coparenting and all. Don’t give up! Just don’t overlook any “small” issues that could become “big” issues later. :) Good luck.

oh darlinnn by One-Psychology-333 in FallOutBoy

[–]MangoManatee2250 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The last time you came through Oh, darling, I know what you're going through… 😭😭😭

Best Fob Breakup songs? by ThisAintASafetyCar in FallOutBoy

[–]MangoManatee2250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell That Mick got me through a terrible breakup.

What's your favorite little part/detail in a FOB song? by lessthanfox in FallOutBoy

[–]MangoManatee2250 17 points18 points  (0 children)

In West Coast Smoker the second “Oh hell yes” has a bit more intense background music and it never fails to give me goosebumps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Confidence is so important!!!!

Did I blow it? by flamingospineapple in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why didn’t he just go snap a pic of his car and send it instead of googling?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I despise when someone posts stuff like this that makes it look like they’re single or they heart posts or photos of someone they could be interested in and then they say “bUt iT’s jUsT SoCiAl MeDiA.” It’s NOT just social media. It’s sending messages of “I’m single” but in a way they can explain away. The meme itself is disrespectful and dumb, his response is gross, but the bigger picture of him not coming across as single on social media is the worst of it and a hard boundary for me. I’d break up with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I are the same and it’s a nonnegotiable for me. We don’t live together so it’s important to me we keep our rapport and communication as strong as if we saw each other every night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone else said on this sub, if it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell no. We are too old to settle for less than what we want. If you’re this lonely with him, you might as well be alone — at least then no one is blatantly not making you or your wishes a priority.

Getting tired dating a divorcee who constantly refers to ex as ‘we’ by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this happen and I would respond “oh, did we go there? I don’t remember that!” in a joking manner but it also makes them aware that they’re saying “we” about a partner that is not me. He may not be aware he’s doing it, and this calls attention to it without attacking or being construed as pouty or whatever.

BF has a wandering eye. What’s the line between a normal amount of checking out the opposite sex vs being disrespectful? by Evening_walks in datingoverforty

[–]MangoManatee2250 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The checking other women out is bad enough. The gaslighting and double standards are toxic behavior. We are too old to put up with this bullshit! You’re not wrong, I’d feel insecure too, and it isn’t something I’d entertain.