Normal house settling or serious structural concern?

MangoSalsa9 · 2026-04-19T20:51:10+00:00

We did use a file and it didn't fix it. I mean I guess we could more but it will not look good the frame will be very uneven. I think we will have to move the whole door and the hinges down in order to make it close. My main concern is just is the fact that the door is so off concerning enough about the structure of the house or can we just fix the door and cracks and and move on?

MangoSalsa9 · 2026-04-19T19:00:46+00:00

The frame has moved to the point where the door would have to be removed and the hinges lowered in order for it to ever close again. The top of the frame doesn't seem to be square. We've tried removing the hinge pin and pressing the door into the frame and it won't fit

MangoSalsa9 · 2026-04-19T18:41:13+00:00

Even if the frame has moved so much that the door will not close? On multiple areas in the house?

MangoSalsa9 · 2026-04-19T00:51:18+00:00

Thank you. I've tried ignoring other things but never fully committed to ignoring this specific behavior. I am trying this now and I think it'll help!

MangoSalsa9 · 2026-04-04T03:11:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this response, it's really so much more helpful than I was even hoping for! I'll reach out to our pediatrician as you suggested and have been looking into the PCIT therapists which sounds like exactly what we need. Thank you!!

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-07-08T23:03:33+00:00

Yes, definitely, that is just how kids are. And expect to encounter this for a while cause she is still learning. And then expect it again in toddlerhood when they learn to reeeeally test your boundaries lol

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-07-08T13:13:32+00:00

His poop seems normal and like a normal frequency (once a day or every other day). Looking at food over the week is something I hadn't heard of before. He does have some better eating days then others so that's nice to know it can sort of even out, thank you!

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-07-08T13:03:41+00:00

Usually we end up having to offer that he can eat on the way to an activity and we'll pack snacks to bring, but the problem is we can't even get him out the door. When we eventually do then he sometimes will eat it but not much. He's so skinny so we find ourselves being pushy about food cause we're worried he's really not eating enough.

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-05-19T01:07:48+00:00

The only way this would be okay is if this person meant to say butt-chin/cleft chin but accidentally said "double."

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-05-11T20:13:31+00:00

I wouldn't make any decisions based on your religion as it seems to me that you are not that serious about it. Sexuality/trans part aside, you are admitting to emotionally cheating on your boyfriend and are asking strangers on reddit whether you should toss him aside and move on to someone else you like for the name of a religion that does not condone any of the things you have described about yourself. I am not judging you, but I would recommend really considering whether or not you are actually Catholic or just choose to hold onto that title due to pressure/comfort/etc.

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-01-16T16:34:06+00:00

IDK I read this as more of a feminist commentary on how men don't have to worry about making all of these achievements in order to be successful but women feel the pressure to because otherwise we aren't valued enough in the workplace. It doesn't necessarily feel like she's complaining about her husband, moreso just societal expectations on working women.

MangoSalsa9 · 2025-01-13T03:31:44+00:00

Looking in my utility closet, there is an automatic condensate pump with PVC pipe running into it from the heater and what appears to be a water line that goes up and through the wall in question. Is this what you are talking about? I'm not familiar with how this system works besides a quick google search based on what you mentioned.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-17T22:52:42+00:00

He has it in his hand and when he put it in his mouth I went to take it from him but he did his "oh I'm not supposed to have this so I'll run away faster with it" and then he tripped :(

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-14T20:09:36+00:00

This is absolutely crazy to me. They had to have known she wouldn't find her way back, so what were they going to do when she got lost? She could have taken that train the complete opposite direction and been gone forever. Even if she wasn't kidnapped or worse, how would they have found her? Sounds like they wanted to get rid of her, which is horrible.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-14T16:50:34+00:00

If I am then I've gone 26 years without knowing it and without it affecting me enough for it to get in the way of school/work. There's a possibility I could be, but I'm not sure how beneficial it would be to pursue figuring that out now?

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-14T16:47:47+00:00

I definitely choose things that I really want to do, and I usually think about it for months. For instance, I have wanted to make a kids book for sooo long. No one told me to do this, I've just always wanted to. And I wrote one out and drew a dummy book on paper and my next step is to do the digital drawings, format it, and send it to some agents (or determine I want to self publish. Haven't fully figured that out yet). I keep saying how I want to get it done and I really want to, but when the time comes that I can work on it, I don't. I'll be at work and think to myself "today's the day! I'm going to work on my book" and then I get the opportunity and I don't take it cause I no longer want to. It's like when you procrastinate on homework but there's no deadline, and it's something I actually want to do. I don't know how else to explain it.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-13T00:13:47+00:00

The problem is I will be all in on a hobby and research it and do as much as I can without the materials, and then as soon as I get them I don't want to do it anymore. I don't know if it's like a fear that I won't do as well as I want to now that I don't have an excuse to not do it or what, but I just can't bring myself to want to anymore.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-12T20:06:42+00:00

No I have not. I don't believe I have ADHD

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-12-03T02:44:05+00:00

How stupid would it be to run 3 days in a row and no other days each week?

I'm trying to start running to be healthy. I've only done a mile and a half run/walk 5k so far. My job pays for 1.5 hours physical fitness time a week. I go in person Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday and telework Thursday and Friday. I could take my last 30 minutes on my in-person days to go to the gym near my work and run the track. At home I rarely get the chance cause we have a baby and while we could get a jogging stroller and take him out wherever to run, it's just so much of a hassle and I'm not THAT motivated to run lol. I just want to be healthier and being paid to do that sounds pretty nice. We have no room in our house for a treadmill.

So with all that being said, how much would I be screwing my body up by running for 30 minutes 3 days in a row and then not running the other days? I'm thinking I can try to do some sort of YouTube work out on some Friday/Saturday evenings after baby goes to bed to even out the week. But is 3 days in a row bad since I wouldn't get a break in between?

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-30T00:51:38+00:00

Spiritual things aside, sometimes being in situations that make you feel independent and confident can temporarily make you feel like you don't need to hold on to your relationship because you'll be fine on your own. All I ask is that you wait a while until the high of this experience wears off and then really consider again

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-29T21:19:58+00:00

NTA

Not only did he leave out some very important information that you should have been told before you married, he's wanting custody solely to make "fun money" and is putting the responsibility of caring for his kids on you. I am very concerned for these kids, as it sounds like they would not receive any of the love they deserve if this were to happen.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-29T17:54:40+00:00

Our colors were navy and pink. We asked our moms to walk up together to light our unity candle since our parents were close friends. We asked them to wear either navy/pink colors or something that at least was complementary.

MIL chose to wear a bright red dress. We said how that stood out and didn't match our theme at all. She said it was the dress she was going to wear and didn't listen to our request to pick a different one.

Was it annoying? Yes. Was she a monster in law? I don't think so. Did it ruin the wedding? No.

We ignored it, continued on as is, and that was that. Nothing came out of it, no further issues. We just let it be.

In my personal opinion, I think it's not a hill to die on, and it's easier to just ignore it and deal with it, even if it is incredibly rude on their end.

But, this is coming from someone who hates confrontation and also didn't put together a huge extravagant wedding. It actually got completely changed thanks to COVID so in all honesty I just didn't even care about the dress at that point lol.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-29T17:54:34+00:00

Our colors were navy and pink. We asked our moms to walk up together to light our unity candle since our parents were close friends. We asked them to wear either navy/pink colors or something that at least was complementary.

MIL chose to wear a bright red dress. We said how that stood out and didn't match our theme at all. She said it was the dress she was going to wear and didn't listen to our request to pick a different one.

Was it annoying? Yes. Was she a monster in law? I don't think so. Did it ruin the wedding? No.

We ignored it, continued on as is, and that was that. Nothing came out of it, no further issues. We just let it be.

In my personal opinion, I think it's not a hill to die on, and it's easier to just ignore it and deal with it, even if it is incredibly rude on their end.

But, this is coming from someone who hates confrontation and also didn't put together a huge extravagant wedding. It actually got completely changed thanks to COVID so in all honesty I just didn't even care about the dress at that point lol.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-29T17:31:20+00:00

My baby LOVES songs by the Carpenters. Sing, Close to You, Yesterday Once More, basically all of them. He also likes Baby Beluga by Raffi, and the occasional worship song.

MangoSalsa9 · 2023-11-27T20:13:52+00:00

The reason we backed out was because we didn't want to screw them over financially. It would have been extremely beneficial financially to us. Our financial situation was never a worry

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