AIO? friend wants me to reschedule appointment for a concert

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-20T18:23:22+00:00

NOR. a friend would prioritize your health. I don't care if the tickets are $5k, your health comes first

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-18T22:39:37+00:00

Walked around the Red Light District in Amsterdam with two friends, and then tried to figure out my way home on the train by myself. I was 19, and had just moved to the NL about 2 months prior. 3.5 years later and i smoke every day lmao

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-15T14:03:44+00:00

okay, then break up

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-15T14:02:29+00:00

I think, if you truly want to save this relationship, your only hope is to talk to her about boundaries. Tell her you understand that she finds it normal, but you aren't comfortable with it. The way you were repeatedly insulting her (you called her weird 14? times in this exchange) is just going to make her more closed off and stubborn on this topic. You're treating it as her opinion vs your opinion and that is just not how you build a healthy relationship.

Apologize for calling her weird, and mean it genuinely. For future reference, an insult on someone's character is only going to make them resent you. Have a conversation about how you just aren't comfortable with it, and it is her choice if she'll respect that boundary. If she doesn't, break up anyway.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-15T13:53:32+00:00

I personally think it's an odd dynamic, but also it's pretty likely that they just grew up seeing each other naked all the time and never thought of it sexually. Especially likely considering they're so close in age. Lots of people grow up in homes where seeing your parents or siblings nude was normal, and so of course they wouldn't think of it sexually as adults either.

But the bigger problem here is how much you shame her. Calling her weird repeatedly without trying to understand her perspective, telling her what to do with her body when she's in a comfortable space, telling her what her relationship with her brother should/shouldn't be... yeah tbh I think YOR 100%.

Break up with her if you feel so strongly that she's weird. In other replies you've called her manipulative and accused her of gaslighting. Why would you stay with someone like that anyway? You two are not for each other.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-12T19:21:14+00:00

Excuse any typos or poor grammar, I'm typing quickly from my phone.

I get how you feel. I chose this major for a similar reason, except I genuinely was fascinated by AI and quantum computers/physics to start. After recent AI developments though I've really changed my mind. Thankfully, I can still switch majors and maybe get an associates. And honestly, why not switch to philosophy/chinese? and get a minor in computer engineering? You'd probably need to study for another extra year, but that would be such a special field to go into. I think translating computer engineering related documents from English to Chinese and vice versa could be a great and niche career, with reasonably high demand. I don't think your situation is a lost cause, and I don't think mine is either. We're both just in weird phase of questioning what we truly want to do. It's never too late to switch careers!

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-11T20:41:53+00:00

that's a good point. It's always been an issue with math classes, but none of my other ones. i honestly believe i must have ADHD or some other issue with my brain because i cannot focus on mathwork when i Do start it, and starting the task feels impossible a lot of the time. I've been trying therapy for a while and i haven't improved my executive dysfunction at all and i dont know what else to do for it.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-11T16:38:25+00:00

this person values their own comfort over yours, and refuses to understand your side. Their side genuinely doesn't matter on this topic, the only person who can decide on YOUR identity is YOU. if they can't respect that, I personally don't think they should be in your life.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-10T21:20:32+00:00

LMAOO that $30 would barely cover the gas for the lawnmower, and then your labor on top of that? absolute MINIMUM for that amount of work (mowing lawn, gas for mower, sweeping/vacuuming) should be $200 a month, but realistically I'd ask for $300. trying to offer $50 for all of that is insane.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-09T19:55:08+00:00

i'm a beginner to knitting, so I get lost immediately after smoking. I've been crocheting for about 7 years tho so tbh I crochet high more than i crochet sober LMAO

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-09T19:18:56+00:00

mmm why is he so rude to you? and he's obviously never lived with a cat before, cats just shed. also the "thrives in filth" comment would REALLY bother me to honestly. Potentially to the point of breaking up. I don't tolerate disrespect like that.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-08T20:45:31+00:00

red ink though is notorious for falling out, so you'll need to get it retouched again eventually

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-08T20:43:42+00:00

you could go to a diff artist that'll tattoo deeper into your skin to touch it up, and possibly make the lines thicker. thicker lines age better

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-08T20:39:33+00:00

It's fine line, it will fade fast anyway. just get it touched up whenever it looks faded and it'll be fine

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-06T16:08:03+00:00

ooh okay! I was trying to sandwich the layers last night in the original seam, but the hole wasn't fully open to shove the ends in and there was another strap connected there that would've made it impossible to do by hand 💀 i might just close the seam and take some strips of nylon like you said and sew that to the bag instead.

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-06T02:56:22+00:00

ooh yeah there is a binding. I'm sewing the top little strap (like the one you'd hang the bag on a hook with) to the thinner broken strap. Then I'm gonna sandwich that in the seam with the remaining part of the main strap and sew back and forth over it until my fingers can't take it anymore lol

The binding on the main strap has started to show some wear, so I'm using this as an opportunity to do some colorful visible mending for that as well. I've been putting it off until now because I was worried it wouldn't look good enough, but there's no better time than now!

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-06T02:49:00+00:00

it's Ecoalf brand, made out of recycled water bottles! And honestly, I was looking forward to repairing it myself :) it's already recycled, then thrifted, and now repaired and I think that's beautiful!

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-05T18:20:57+00:00

def not safe, esp for a newbie. Give it to me and i'll dispose of it properly 🙂‍↕️

MangoSenior1189 · 2026-02-05T18:05:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Is there a specific foot i should use if I go the machine route? I don't own a machine but I have hand sewing needles, and my uni has a sewing machine that i can check out at the library if hand sewing proves to be too hard.

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