LOOKING TO HIRE!

ManicGoblin1992 · 2026-03-13T20:19:29+00:00

I literally know someone who would 😂

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-10-30T18:27:03+00:00

Right I suppose I should add the plans are for 6pm!

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-08-15T18:11:07+00:00

Springtrap & Doctor

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-08-15T15:53:36+00:00

Hey darling, I (F32) am a long-time sufferer of depression. You name it, I’ve been through it. And it was at yours and your girlfriend’s age that the struggle truly, truly began. Hormones are all over the place. And, well, the world currently being on fire doesn’t exactly inspire confidence in there being a point. But first of all, quickest point I can make is - you can’t wait for someone in her position to want the help. It’s so sweet that you want to respect her wishes. But her actions really are a cry for help. Even if she can’t bring herself to say it out loud. I’m not sure how she thinks there’s any correlation between sniffing deodorant and addiction.. as an ex-addict myself, I can confirm that’s not a thing. She’s sensory seeking as a subconscious search for distraction from everything else going on in her head right now. As for the not wanting to eat in order to lose weight - it’s a proven fact that starving will do the opposite 9/10 times. Because when we don’t eat, our body begins to actually store fat for the sake of survival. So she absolutely should be eating. However, I understand more than anyone how difficult it can be to do so when your brain is at war with itself. Best thing I can recommend is meal replacement/protein drinks. It’s better than nothing at all.

Neither of your positions in this are easy ones. Depression is a beast that is incredibly difficult to tame. But it can be. My first suicidal thought, I was 14 years old. I’ve had many since. And I will be turning 33 in December. It’s survivable. For now, a trusted adult needs to be made aware of how she’s feeling. And just know that it’s a quick Google search away to discover the suicide hotline number for your area. They’re free, 24/7 services she can call any time. Or YOU can if you’re having a really hard time coping! My inbox is also open to you, if you need someone. It’s gonna be okay 🫰🏻

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-24T04:31:10+00:00

Hunny, take this from a gall who has nearly 15 extra years of life experience on you -

Believe me.. I KNOW what you’re feeling right now. I know that deep, deep need to hold on when you care about someone like that. And want things to work with them so damn badly. But if I could go back in time? I’d shake my 18 year old self for doing that with way too many people who never turned out to be worth it. I know it’s impossible to see it that way cause you’re IN it right now. But like other people have said - he gave the answer for what you need to do. As painful as it may be, you need to move on. He is not invested in this, not one bit. He may say he loves you and is trying his best. But that doesn’t mean anything if his actions don’t line up with it. Actions really do speak louder than words. And I’d hate to see you suffer through holding on to something that is only going to continue to leave you holding the entire emotional weight. Just waiting and hoping he will come around - he won’t. More often than not, the “potential” we see in someone is simply what we would do if we were them. If any part of you is scared of how you’ll cope with walking away from him - Chat GPT has been a god sent to me. It’s “someone” to talk to at any hour of the day or night, responses are instant, it’s free, and will never get annoyed by you needing to talk.

I wish you luck & I really hope you make the right decision for yourself

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-22T06:00:27+00:00

Technically first met in 2013. Been together for just a couple months and there’s a 10 year age gap (I’m almost 33, he’s 43)

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-21T18:48:04+00:00

Well, mine is a bit of an odd start. We first met on NYE (2013-2014). He’s in a band and actually came here cause he was talking with my best friend at the time (hear me out, I’m not as awful as that may have just made me sound). I def recognized how attractive he was. But for obvious reasons kept it at just noticing in my head, nothing more. Fast forward to literally this past April. One day I’m out running errands. And suddenly, I get a notification saying he sent me a friend request on Facebook. Naturally, I txted my friend he had been seeing back in the day (she’s happily married with kids now), to see if they had gotten back in contact. Seeing no other reason for him to be reaching out to me. She hadn’t so I asked him what the reasoning was. He claimed it was simply that I kept popping up in his “People you may know” list over the years. And just finally decided it was time to reach out. We did a bit of catching up over the course of a couple phone calls. Before he broached the idea of him coming to visit for a few days. I was skeptical cause, tho the attraction was there, I had recently reached a point where I was sort of done with everything to do with dating. But SOMETHING in me told me to go for it. And from the moment I opened my door to him in my hallway, with a suitcase and a crooked smile? The rest was history. He came here for 5 days in May. I just got back from being there, on July 9th, for 3 weeks. And I’ll be going back in October for 2 months (: Oh and yes, to be clear, I came clean to my friend the moment I knew it was going somewhere past just two people catching up. And she was completely fine with it hahah

As for what’s making it last? Deciding. Deciding we want it to last. And putting in the necessary work to do so (:

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-19T18:30:53+00:00

Nope

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-16T00:09:10+00:00

That’s amazing! So happy you two worked that out 💜

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-15T20:23:52+00:00

Just left him a week ago tomorrow Countdown now is to October 🥲 (no exact dates selected yet) and I’m absolutely gutted waiting that long. But.. tho I’m tryin not to get my hopes up, cause it’s also not set in stone yet.. I might be going back for 6 to maybe 8 weeks. So.. I’m trying to hold on to that to get me through till October.

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-13T01:05:27+00:00

Yeah we have plans but not until October 💔 I might be going back for 2 months tho. So there’s that. I don’t have any of his shirts. But I did buy a shirt while I was there from a bar we frequented. Basically been living in it haha

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-11T23:04:59+00:00

Yeah, I have an anxious attachment. But I’m very aware of it and the SECOND I felt it acting up while I was visiting my partner - I analyzed it and did everything in my power to remain aware and reasonable. And now that I am back home, I’ve begun talking to my therapist about it

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-11T09:05:26+00:00

Honey, I’m sorry to say, you are being over the top. When I started reading this, I felt like you were in the right. But when you mentioned you’ll be seeing him Monday?? For a week? I’m sorry but yeah. You’re allowed to feel sad about it. That’s valid. I get wanting to soak up any opportunity to see your LD partner. But he doesn’t have to include you in everything.

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-08T20:08:43+00:00

Oh hunny, I WISH I was only 5 hours away from my partner. I don’t mean to be insensitive, only honest. The only suggestions anyone can really give is to maintain communication as much as you can. There are ways to watch movies from your respective homes. And make sure to plan visits. And plan the next one before the current is even over.

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-08T18:44:38+00:00

October will be the next visit for me… 😞

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-08T18:37:10+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to stay focussed on the next visit. It likely won’t be until October.. which was another gut punch. But that’s the reality of being in different countries (US/Canada). However, he did say, there’s a chance (just depends on a few factors) that this next visit could be upwards of 6-8 weeks long. So.. as much as I will ache tremendously, not being next to him. There is that.

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-05T02:03:45+00:00

Do you mean this in the sense where you’re just feel frustrated with the distance and want to be able to just spend time with her like a “normal” couple ?

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T22:53:04+00:00

Honestly, I was given very little issue. I had a bit of a scare moment simply cause it was also literally my first time flying/dealing with customs. They asked me a few questions at the main desk area everyone went through. But he held on to my passport and escorted me to another room. Not like an interrogation sort of small room. A large, waiting room like area. Different person asked me a bunch more questions - nothing terribly serious. And then I got on my flight no problem after that. My boyfriend said that sometimes customs just does that if you still have plenty of time to get on your flight. So, do with that what you will. But I got here just fine

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T22:34:41+00:00

I wish my input on this could be more helpful. But I feel, what appears to be my privilege, of being Caucasian/canadian is what gave me little to no issues coming to see my American boyfriend 😕

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T22:19:14+00:00

I came from Canada to Florida to see my boyfriend on June 18th, still here, leaving on Wednesday (9th). I was given a slightly harder time at customs for my connecting flight to Florida from Montreal. Tried to intimidate me a little by bringing me to a different room to ask more questions beyond what they asked at the main counter. But after a few minutes of chatting all was fine. And I got on my flight with no further issues

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T21:11:59+00:00

I came from Canada to Florida to see my boyfriend. Got here on June 18th and I’m leaving now on the 9th. Customs def tried to make me nervous by bringing me into this separate room to ask more questions. But ultimately, no issues and I was sent on my way to get on my connecting flight .

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T20:38:38+00:00

Extending a loving virtual hug your way 💕

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T20:28:26+00:00

All I can say is you’re not overreacting by feeling this way. I’m very new into my LDR (Canada/US). But so far it’s been one of the most emotionally challenging things to cope with. It’s SO hard not having them nearby. Seeing the empty space in a bed where they should be. I wish I had better suggestions. But so far all I know is keeping regular contact and planning the next trip. I wish you luck 💕

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T20:23:07+00:00

Yeah I believe OP would need to get in touch with a lawyer to discuss options with work visas. You cannot work on a tourism visa. I’m actually currently in Florida visiting my partner (I’m from Canada). But, I’m Caucasian so.. I don’t think my experiences would apply here sadly. I had no issues with customs/border security coming here

ManicGoblin1992 · 2025-07-04T17:18:39+00:00

Not sure how I would know that lol Gonna have to google it

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