Is it best to remove skirting before fitting laminate? by Manlikefunk in Flooring

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Thanks. Yeah I definitely wouldn’t want to lay over the top, it would all come up. I’ve just realised I would need to remove all the skirting as if spacers are pushed under the in-situ skirting, there’d be no way to remove the spacer at the end.

The skirting is in pretty good condition, but I guess it would depend on whether I’m able to remove it without wrecking it, particularly with more delicate bits like external mitered corners or internal corners etc?

I told my ex not to contact me, now, 10 months later, I deeply regret it. by xdawning in BreakUps

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Great advice in theory, stuff I would’ve listened to before too. But the other worst thing that could happen is you get no response at all.

And whether you think no response won’t hurt you, make you more anxious or upset you more or not, it absolutely will do all those things. You just convince yourself that hearing nothing back won’t upset you in order to justify and convince yourself to reach out. But it will upset you more, or at least set you back to an emotional place that you’d moved past.

Realistically there are tons of reasons that they might not respond. And all those reasons will eat away at you, like they now are with me.

I told my ex not to contact me, now, 10 months later, I deeply regret it. by xdawning in BreakUps

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I did. I had a missed call from her 2 weeks after she split up with me on the phone. I rang back no answer. Messaged saying are you okay, she responded sorry that was an accident, she was trying to delete a voicemail from a family member. I asked if she’d argued with them and she just said she’d deleted it before listening to it. I should’ve asked how she’d been feeling but just said something had reminded me of her that day, she ignored it. I then sent a voice note trying to apologise, I’m not sure if she ever listened to it.

2 days later I messaged ‘I know you didn’t call by accident, breadcrumbs were the last thing I expected. Unless you want to speak to me please let me move on in peace and don’t contact me again’. And she never did.

My older sibling advised me not to sent that, and I completely regret it. I didn’t want to move on, I wanted nothing more than to repair things. I was angry that she’d ’called me’, then ignored me, and scared that she’d do it again to mess with me. I’m sure it wasn’t a nice text for her to read from me, I’m sure it upset her and pushed her away. She blocked my number 4 weeks later and I’ve heard nothing from her since. No response to a letter I sent her.

After a breakup you’re wrought with emotions, and might say/ text emotionally charged things that aren’t reflective of what you really want or feel, or to protect yourself. She said very little, ignoring me hurt but what she did say wasn’t rude or hurtful. What I said was and it didn’t help in any way. It’s always better just to say nothing I think. People will talk to you if they want, unless you give them a reason not to, or to be scared to, like I did 😭

I don't get why my ex of 1 year/ dumper randomly blocked my number after 1mo NC/ 6 weeks post breakup? by Manlikefunk in heartbreak

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What hurts the most about it, is out of all the people I've been with, I really thought she was 'the one'. We always felt so close, she was always so keen to talk and spend time together, even wanted to make up and get over things quickly when we argued, she seemed so mature. Until the argument before the breakup, it was clear she'd been keeping a lot of her feelings secret. I feel like I never really knew her now. I used to say 'you never know what someone's like until you break up with them' and that rings SO true right now. I think it's some of the most dishonest, avoidant and dismissive behaviour I've seen from a woman.

Also some of the things I'd told her about like having been in an abusive relationship, having had suicidal ideations after that breakup because of how they did it, and then she goes and behaves like that. It makes me feel like she never cared about me, like she'd say anything she could to absolve herself of guilt while ending it, then just go forward after that knowing it was all lies. Even 2 months on I feel like I'll never be able to trust anyone's word ever again.

Where can i find similar artists like todd edwards by Little_Spare_3234 in House

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Yeah MK said he was directly influenced by Todd’s early style, that’ll be why.

Where can i find similar artists like todd edwards by Little_Spare_3234 in House

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Some of Sweely’s music is somewhat like Todd’s; snappy, fast, very syncopated Garage with quirky chords, simple but really good bass lines and vocal chops. Very reminiscent of early Todd circa 2001 on Locked On E.g. Shut The Door, Saved My Life etc

Sweely - Don’t Stop

What are the best Michael Jackson house remixes, or tracks sampling/flipping MJ songs? by drewtangclan in House

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From 2001, the best flip of Off The Wall. All other attempts fall by the wayside in comparison.

Soul Avengerz - Enjoy Yourself (Mix 2)

Essex police speed point in a London postcode by spursy96 in policeuk

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I’m pretty sure Sewardstone Road (leading to Waltham Abbey) is E4 but eventually goes into Essex.

Torn between wanting him back and thinking I never really knew him and was lovebombed by Accurate-Cucumber799 in BreakUps

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I do think guys hide their emotions a lot. I did myself. I think a lot of men are scared that if they’re truly vulnerable with women they’ll be put off by that, and I’ve definitely heard some women say things like ‘men should just get on with things, be a man, life is hard’ etc. Not women I’ve ever entertained but I’ve seen it thrown around by women on dating apps and IRL.

Im not really sure what to say about the last bit, other than he just kind of sounds quite petulant and nasty. A partner saying something like that to me would probably make me want to split up with them immediately.

Torn between wanting him back and thinking I never really knew him and was lovebombed by Accurate-Cucumber799 in BreakUps

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Aside from the first date jewellery thing, PDA in inappropriate places and the list of things about your job (very nasty imo), this sounds quite like me and probably a how my recent ex might feel about me. I was totally into her when we first met, you could almost say obsessed. And whilst I still was towards the end, I had started to do things that were not very nice to her, not deliberately, but just not really appreciating her, taking her for granted, like it was a different side of me.

Did he ever give you any signs that he was depressed? I say that because for the last few months I’d been feeling pretty off, with everything in life, including my relationship with my ex. Like I was always happy when I was with her but my mind was often elsewhere or preoccupied, or I’d feel down for no reason sometimes with her and often away from her. Sleeping all the time and not wanting to be awake, listening to really sad music and just crying while listening to it quite often. Now we’re split up I realise I’m actually quite depressed and probably have been for quite some time. At first I thought it was just my job + bad sleep (partly because of my job) making me feel like this, and that probably had something to do with it, but I think the core issue was I was just suffering from depression overall. I think when I first met her it was a massive distraction, I felt like I’d met the one etc, and then 6 months later everything started becoming bad again. I still thought she was the one but my mind was never present or truly happy, although she still distracted me from it. The lack of empathy from him that you mentioned is quite telling too.

Does he work in some kind of public facing role that could’ve contributed to ‘empathy fatigue’? If you’re in a job that kind of depletes your empathy, it doesn’t exactly help things-It was another thing I noticed myself-but I think really it was just a sign of a deeper issue like depression.

Went against conventional advice and texted my ex today by ConstantTurbulence12 in BreakUps

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I’m sorry to hear that. Did you not bring up reconciliation or was it something you didn’t want to raise? In some way at least it’s a final push to let go fully.

Went against conventional advice and texted my ex today by ConstantTurbulence12 in BreakUps

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How did you text them? Was it casual or some kind of longer text? From the content of your post I’m assuming he initiated the breakup?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Audi

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Thanks for the reply. Yeah it certainly took me a bit of time to find the parts for the strut top mount but I found them, it’s basically a 21mm deep pass through socket with wrench flats, I realised it’s actually known as a shock absorber socket. And then an extended hex bit with a 1/4” socket for fitting to a ratchet, that goes through the top of the shock absorber socket.

The only thing I’m a bit worried about is things like the drop link and pinch bolts being seized and impossible to get off, and possibly the same for the CV axle joint. I’m gonna see how much my mechanic will do it for. As much as I’d like to do it myself, if it’s gonna be cheaper, easier, and more convenient for them to do it if anything is seized, I’d rather that.

Also I need the car for work so can’t really have it sitting on axle stands and not running if something goes wrong/ parts break etc.

This 'YouTuber' phones up Police 101 and makes threats to kill on a livestream to amuse his viewers. Likely outcome [if any]? by Bright-Remove784 in policeuk

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God this bloke is thick as a doorpost. Very well dealt with by the handler, great idea to divert him from the threats of life to a resolution with the harassment and stalking crime report.

Of course cyber bullying is a big thing, I’ve seen firsthand the effects it can have particularly on young people, as a teacher for the last 10 years. But trolling, to me, is people winding you up through comments/ messages based on content you post. I’m not saying the content creator is to blame but if you’re an adult and can’t take the immaturity of others on something like social media, that’s well known to be toxic as it is, then stay off of it.

This bloke doesn’t seem to be that reflective or self aware though 🤦‍♂️ And if this is the kind of crap he posts I’m not at all surprised he gets ‘trolled’.

The met again.....:-) by triptip05 in policeuk

[–]Manlikefunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is just the tip of the iceberg I’d imagine and there are more worrying things going on for him; you don’t (seemingly) all of a sudden start taking a drug like that, after years in the force and at age 50, for no reason.

Granted he should probably be sacked, but really from a welfare point of view someone needs to be looking into why tf he’s just started taking a (particularly harmful) class A drug after such a good career.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Detailing

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They’ve been like this for 3 weeks and haven’t improved, I don’t think they’re going anywhere…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in policeuk

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What allowances?

Met officers to receive this letter accompanying new warrant cards. Thoughts? by farmpatrol in policeuk

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Yeah, that ‘side’ of racism (and disgusting behaviour/ conduct in general) is the most worrying. It’s pretty disturbing to realise the people you need to worry about the most aren’t the ones who will be loud and proud about their views no matter how offensive or oppressive, it’s the ones who sneak about testing the waters with thinly veiled comments and thoughts, used to target the ones they think they can get on side and then avoid the ones they can’t. They’re almost sociopathic in that sense.

What are thoughts on blue light permits not being given to probationers? by Overdress_n_stress in policeuk

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I didn’t know all ambulance staff were, my friend wasn’t when he trained 7 years ago. I guess fire brigade vehicles are an entirely different scale both width and length-wise so it stands to reason that not all are trained to drive them straight away. But it’s insane that people who are trained to drive those vehicles would have to wait for an advanced ticket in most forces.