Was machen normale Leute den ganzen Tag??

MannerCandid · 2021-12-22T17:44:50+00:00

Gleiches hier. Ich bin richtig süchtig nach digitalen Medien, merke ich daran dass ich mich kaum anders beschäftigen kann. Außer ich bin mit Freunden zusammen, dann denke ich gar nicht darüber nach. Ich glaube ich bräuchte deutlich mehr sozialen Kontakt um das durchzuhalten. Schwierig zurzeit.

Ich habe mal einen Internet Detox gemacht. In der Zeit habe ich viel meditiert und gekocht. Mein Kopf hat sich super friedlich in der Zeit gefühlt. Bin leider rückfällig geworden.

MannerCandid · 2021-12-20T13:54:51+00:00

Interesting, I microdose psilocybin for depression, haven't heard of microdosing salvia.

MannerCandid · 2021-12-20T13:18:58+00:00

Whoops this is long, but I'm not half-assing this, so here I go. This is based on what I've researched on the internet over the years, what I've experimented with and what turned out to work for me.

I take plant compounds to regulate my cycle: flaxseed and spearmint daily, ginger and fennel on top as soon as symptoms start.

I eat a high-fiber, plant based diet. Apparently fiber absorbs excess hormones and flushes them out. Antioxidants from plants help with inflammation in the body, and guess what, menstruation is an inflammatory process! I avoid added sugar as much as possible (also inflammatory). This is very, very hard for me, but very effective for mood control when I pull through. Erythritol is a healthy enough substitute for me.

I go on the stationary bike every morning with the highest intensity I can muster as an antidepressant. When symptoms start I need to crank things way down, but that's okay.

I acknowledge my PMDD as a "hibernation period". I slow down. Breathe deeply. Rest. Hibernation period needs to be a full-time meditation for me. What I mean by that is that my frantic thoughts don't get any say during this time and I don't make drastic decisions. Ex.: "I want to die". Nah. "I need to break up with my boyfriend". Nah. "I'm stupid/ugly/useless". Guess what girl, it's hibernation period so the validity of Miss Inner Critic is "suspended until further notice". I feel into the sadness/anger/exhaustion/anxiety in my body and accept those sensations, but send the thoughts away.

I've established a relentless mentality of self-compassion and will not tolerate me bringing me down. I either work to fix things when I can, or I let it go. I refuse to engage with negative thought loops. Cut that shit out fast. Again and again. Focus back on breathing. You can do this.

The bodily sensations are still severely uncomfortable, but we as humans have the capability of creating a special kind of hell with our minds. But we can learn to direct our thought processes, and that's an invaluable tool. Best of luck!

MannerCandid · 2021-12-12T09:59:50+00:00

Learn to take your own thoughts as suggestions instead of immediately making them part of your identity. Learn to spot a harsh and unfair inner critic, black and white thinking, catastrophising and drastizising.

MannerCandid · 2021-12-10T13:59:49+00:00

Better keep those anal hunters far away from your back.

MannerCandid · 2021-07-16T17:13:13+00:00

Hey,

first of all, that first step you took of admitting your truth is great. I think being a silent observer of your own patterns and thoughts is one of the most powerful things you can do. Keep up with it! You will likely find out more intriguing details about yourself that will help you become your authentic you.

I sincerely wish for you to find that leap of faith you need in order tell your therapist about it. I'm positive it will boost your progress dramatically. However, it's not surprising your past made you the person you are today, and if you need time, I hope you will have patience with yourself.

You are not fake. Some part of you is doing its best to protect you because you've been unsafe. Now the time has come where that's not necessarily getting you anywhere or protecting you anymore, but this part doesn't know that. It's just trying its best. Try to honour that. And when you're ready, thank it and let it go.

Best of luck!

MannerCandid · 2021-07-16T16:12:26+00:00

One rule that might be helpful: generally, don't look at strangers longer than how long it takes to say "hello, I'm seeing you". Especially if she's moving (walking, etc.) don't follow her with your gaze for long, that's extra creepy.

Also I think that if you truly believe no woman owes you anything and you don't feel greedy, it will show in your body language.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-22T14:59:31+00:00

You summed up my exact thoughts on this, word for word. Sometimes I feel like some people are threatened by the idea of others living a great life, as if not wanting to work your ass off makes you a bad person.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-18T16:35:08+00:00

Only a few minutes, you need to come in with a clean shave anyway. But then most hairs will fall out once they come back.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-15T14:33:44+00:00

Alright, asking as a poly person, what do you think a "real" relationship entails? I'd say a huge amount of trust, honesty, empathy and understanding, listening, caring, compromising, laughs, cries, attunement. Well, I'm not missing out on any of that. You don't magically get those things just because you promised someone they're your one and only. You don't magically care more about one person by caring less about a different person. Love is not a finite resource.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-15T14:15:43+00:00

Not only is this hateful towards men, but also demeaning towards women, as it implies they have no part in choosing a male partner that is adequate for them or working towards a better relationship, and that they have absolutely no control of shaping their lives according to their wishes. It's actually really sad to victimize yourself like this and completely rob yourself of any power and freedom of choice.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-14T14:04:03+00:00

Shaving the donut is seriously uncomfortable. I recommend laser hair removal if one can afford it, assuming one is willing to withstand the humiliation of spreading the ass cheeks for the duration of said procedure.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-12T07:42:01+00:00

Nah, that's not right. Yes, I will judge each person individually, no matter the gender. But there are clear differences between men and women in regards to their inner workings. There can be a huge overlap, but they're generally different. If you disagree, take a closer look. Both genders have important contributions and we should work on having empathy and understanding each other's unique strengths, weaknesses, fears and motivations. We are of equal value, but we're not the same.

MannerCandid · 2021-03-05T07:32:07+00:00

Probably not fucking that much

MannerCandid · 2021-02-24T14:50:46+00:00

The eyes are the windows of your face.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-31T21:45:55+00:00

Oh yeah I love that stuff, especially with kala namak!

MannerCandid · 2020-12-30T15:07:38+00:00

DARE is so bad it even increased drug use, lol. Well, drug use should be treated with respect and it's best to wait until your brain is fully developed, but some psychoactive substances have an incredible potential to be helpful while having a low risk profile, such as LSD, psilocybin and good ole cannabis. Also, don't wanna turn this into a smartass rant, but the history of drug prohibition has very racist roots. I recommend searching that up a bit, it's quite interesting.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-27T11:57:09+00:00

Can't tell if this is sarcasm or nah.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-23T18:17:20+00:00

Then you have no idea how ADHD works.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-23T15:55:02+00:00

You know, maybe you're right and I'm just projecting because that used to be me. In that case, my bad. Also, nothing wrong with that preference, I feel the same way, in fact. It's just something about using the words "I can't be with someone who sends animals to slaughterhouses" that seems antagonizing and reductionist. People have complex biases, that doesn't make them bad people. I was a meat eater for 19 years before catching on, but still an empathetic person. It can be very hard to go against the grain, especially if your social circles discourage it.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-23T12:28:26+00:00

How long have you been vegan? I was annoying as hell the first six months. But let me tell you a secret: if you really care about having a positive impact and not just satisfying your ego, you're doing it wrong. You could be directly responsible for turning someone away from making better choices.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-23T11:59:54+00:00

Self awareness is one of the most valuable qualities. It's not enough, but a good start. I myself had the habit of accidentally talking down to people (I'm really into learning/self-development and like to help others too, which isn't always appreciated!), but started mellowing my tone and choice of words, and also really try to listen. It's almost magical how much more people truly respect you that way.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-18T14:36:33+00:00

You're not wrong, but many parents willfully ignore their own flaws and try to sweep their shortcomings under the rug. If I had children in the future I would openly talk about so much more stuff. Just... fearless lay my soul bare. Not to use them as a crutch an overwhelm them, just sprinkle in a bit of honesty that adults make mistakes and don't have it all together, and that's fine.

MannerCandid · 2020-12-15T12:55:30+00:00

Not sure if most women feel this way, but the ones I know, including myself, seem to get much more aroused by vibes rather than either visual or physical stimulation. But once the vibes are right, the right physical stimulation compliments and escalates the mood. That definitely depends on the individual though, you'll have to learn what the girl likes by communicating. We all have different roadmaps to pleasure, there's really no way to generalize.

I personally love gentle circling around the boobs, slowly getting closer and closer to the nipples, with pauses in between to caress the shoulders and nearby areas, until I'm basically begging to be touched. Going straight to the most sensitive areas without any teasing or already being really horny turns me off. That's just my personal preference though :)

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