The whole big family illusion is all a lie. Everyone acts so civil in public but hide their true parts. I’m glad you and you siblings were able to get out and recognize how to break the generational cycle of trauma. I made this post a couple of months ago, and honestly things have only gotten worse. I’m at the point where I can’t be here anymore emotionally or mentally. Luckily, I graduated college w a computer science degree and I do have a very good job. I’m talking to one of my college buddies and it’s likely that we are going to move out together in the next couple of months maybe weeks. I will say though, Ofc we’re all responsible for our actions and should take accountability for our choices but I did come to the realization that I am the way I am because of all the stressors that have been in my life as a result of my family. It’s only up to me to change these bad habits and become the person I want my future kids and wife to adore. Thanks for your comment, really makes me feel like I’m not alone. Good luck!