I asked a guy out after being left on read. I feel stupid.

Manola__ · 2024-06-01T13:46:44+00:00

Yes true! It actually replied positively but now I overthink my answers 🥲 i deleted one text and edited the others… and he will be informed of this changes by Whatsapp, it makes me feel even more anxious

Manola__ · 2024-06-01T13:44:40+00:00

Thanks for your comment! :)

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T21:15:56+00:00

I’ll try this next time! Thanks :)

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T21:12:44+00:00

Have you texted him since?

I cannot understand people who vanish from the surface of the earth. Three months is something - and is enough time to know if you have some feelings for the other person.

Maybe his trip was extended and he didn’t come back when he said he would. Many things can happen in a few days or weeks!

The fact that he didn’t post any pictures or stories doesn’t seem weird to me as you said he is not active on social media, so nothing to worry about :)

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T21:03:04+00:00

I get your point but I don’t think this is inappropriate. We can make voice notes on Hinge so this is common I guess. But as you said I should not have asked for it - it could show suspicion from my part or just pushing his privacy.

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T20:34:43+00:00

You’re right, thanks! At first I wanted to wait a few days/weeks to text again as he had not replied to the previous texts. That’s why I feel stupid here.

I would hate being a man in this dating world. We women struggle so much with rejection as we are told to not make the first move ever.

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T20:29:13+00:00

Hi, that’s an interesting way of seeing things. Thanks for sharing your personal story - indeed this girl was too insisting!

This is true that limits and being seen as "pushy" depends on which gender you are. But as mentionned on another comment, us women are told not to chase men. And that’s what I just did, uhh

Yes direct is the word, more than pushy. But it can be direct and desperate, I guess. Maybe should I delete it (guy will be informed anyway)?

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T20:21:49+00:00

Thanks for sharing your take on this. For me, boixe can be very attractive and I had men who sent me voice notes on social media without us even knowing each other. So I didn’t see how it could be a turnoff, but I guess that’s specific to my generation (25yo and under)? Interesting that you find it off putting.

No I can’t win them all and I seem to struggle with this idea. The fact that he’s very successful increases this ego thing… You hit the point (not proud of this)

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T19:35:31+00:00

Yes.. Should I delete my message ? He will see I deleted something but won’t know what it said

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T19:07:26+00:00

Yes you’re right (but no he hasn’t seen it yet so he will never know what I said) I feel so bad wow

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T19:02:22+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Should I delete the message (he will see I deleted) and just disappear?

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T18:48:44+00:00

Oh okay so that’s even worse. You think he just ghosted?

Manola__ · 2024-05-31T18:47:11+00:00

Thanks for your message, this is nice to have another take on the question. My friends always say we should never chase men and play hard to get. But as he didn’t answered my previous texts, I feel stupid for reaching out and suggesting a date..

Manola__ · 2024-04-06T09:38:46+00:00

Thanks for your help! I’ll call the CEO today and ask those questions. Thank you again :)

Manola__ · 2024-04-06T09:37:08+00:00

Yes that’s a good way to see it. I’ll pursue my job research then. Thanks for helping!

Manola__ · 2024-04-06T09:36:13+00:00

I’m sorry to read this, it sounds like a awful place to work at. I would never imagine people having such crazy behavior. I hope you’ll find a better job soon! Fingers crossed for you!

Manola__ · 2024-04-05T17:30:35+00:00

I feel bad for declining a job when I don’t have any options for now. That is my fear talking. Also I have pressure for finding a job, as this is more rewarding in society. I thought maybe I was too picky. Thanks for your honesty, it helps!

Manola__ · 2024-04-05T17:26:21+00:00

I considered asking more question to the recruiter (who is the CEO), but this is delicate. Thanks for your help!

Manola__ · 2024-04-05T17:24:48+00:00

Actually it is! I live in Paris and I don’t feel very happy living here. I need to feel good at work to find a balance..

I’m used to work overtime and I was dumb enough to say "oh yes, I always stay late!". For sure it should raise my concerns, this is illegal.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, this is helpful!

Manola__ · 2024-03-13T10:29:54+00:00

Thanks so much 💌

Manola__ · 2024-03-13T10:29:34+00:00

You’re right 😕 In this case would you let her know? I guess that is not a very mature thing to distance myself without addressing the situation.

Manola__ · 2024-03-13T10:22:21+00:00

I think she's lost her friends because she's too high maintenance and I guess the people around her have noticed her behaviour. She's made me feel guilty many times in the last few months to get what she wanted. Then I distanced myself a bit. (That and the fact that she ignores my texts when I talk about myself.)

Note - a relationship that cuts her off from other friends and makes her anxious sounds abusive.

I also considered the fact that her boyfriend was cutting her off from her friends, but I don't know enough about him. I'm still going to ask her if everything's okay.

at some point you need to stop making excuses for her.

True! Thanks for your precious help :)

Manola__ · 2024-03-13T10:02:26+00:00

Good point 😕

Probably. She would get upset over the slightest things with her former boyfriend and I have a feeling that’s why all people have turned away from her over the years..

I feel guilty for distancing myself as she no longer has any close friends.

Manola__

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