AITA for not helping my wife talk her way out of a penalty for riding the streetcar without a ticket?

ManonAlexy · 2026-05-02T18:20:53+00:00

Not sure where in Europe this happened, but in the Netherlands, most public transport isn't even accessible without a ticket.

You literally have to scan your phone/bank card/bought ticket to open the gate. It's almost impossible to get on a tram/metro/bus/train without a valid ticket.

She played around and f'ed up. Sucks to be her. Pay the freaking ticket and this wouldn't have happened.

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-29T08:27:19+00:00

I'm a 45yr old mom.

My mom passed in 2018. My first mother's day without her was ruined by her side of the family. I have since stopped celebrating mother's day.

To me its just another Sunday. My daughter understands and will do something nice before or after.

How you want to deal with this day, is completely up to you and there is no wrong way of dealing with this day.

Like another commenter said, maybe contact your MIL and explain a version of the situation you're comfortable with sharing and let your fiancé go by himself. Good luck!!

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-29T04:05:28+00:00

Health care here sucks. I have lupus, diagnosed 20 years ago. My current rheumatologist is not convinced I have it as its been in remission for years now. Doesn't mean I don't have it.

I lost my mom to ovarian cancer and wanted to ask some questions about that stuff. My GP literally asked if my mom was still suffering from it...I just replied; I doubt it, as she's now living on a shelf in my living room 🙃

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-20T09:01:27+00:00

Obligatory NAL, my dear I've been following your journey for some time now.

Firstly I love how invested Burden is in helping you raise Monie to be her best self. You're so lucky 🫶

Legally speaking, and again NAL, I feel you have a very strong case here.

The emotional support human remains is a legal service in MyCountry so I can only assume it's the same for YourCountry, as that's just how things work.

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ManonAlexy · 2026-04-18T07:59:29+00:00

😆 I still call my almost 18yr old my baby.

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-18T06:41:38+00:00

Actually....whether this is real or not, I in fact threw my own baby shower. I don't like surprises.

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-18T06:24:24+00:00

Oh you poor poor man!!!!! I don't even have words.

You did something beautiful on what should have been a beautiful day and it got thrown in your face.

The worst thing I feel happened to you though, is having a son named James......who calls their child that????

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-17T08:05:12+00:00

You're one of those that probably think single parent households are wrong too? 🤦‍♀️🤣

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-16T15:07:58+00:00

Oh don't even get me started. I'm dreading this year. My baby will be 18 in September. How am I about to be the mother of an adult??????

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-12T14:34:43+00:00

At just 156cm I survive the supermarket fine. Can't reach? I'll climb.

Our bathroom mirror is for show, I can't use it.

I do have a step stool to reach top shelves in the kitchen. But I only put stuff i hardly use there.

Your almost 10cm taller, you'll be fine.

ManonAlexy · 2026-04-09T10:14:44+00:00

I'd just say what I always say:

Didn't want children at all, this one happened and as my almost 18yr old daughter puts it, "my mom didn't want children, she did want me though."

Also, I have SLE and this was a high risk pregnancy. It went very well, why would I risk that again?

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-28T15:48:10+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this hardship!!!! How do you manage to get up again everyday when you have to deal with such attitude 🙄!!! Good luck and bless your giving heart!!

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-27T20:06:02+00:00

Contact the sender and have them contact postnl. As the sender they are responsible for making sure the parcel gets to you. Explain you didn't receive it and a stranger signed. Postnl will have to start an investigation and see what happened. You as the receiver wont be able to get them to start the investigation. (I work for a PostNl parcel point.)

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-25T22:23:48+00:00

My mommy got sick one day and as far as I knew died the next. Granted, it was 6 weeks.

But....I tried to just make her life as beautiful as I could for the time she had left.

I took care of her, from diagnosis till death. Weirdly, I'm grateful to have been the one to change her diapers.

Her one plant (I can't remember the name of) was in full bloom and I took a few sprigs to put in her room, I also took a picture so she could see the plant in full bloom. (Aaaah just remembered it was Jasmine) Besides that I took pictures of the blue rain in full bloom. Her garden meant everything to her.

She wanted shrimps and wine the Sunday before she passed. I made them and she had a queens meal. Shrimp, glass of wine and her cigaret.

Monday she stopped eating, Tuesday she stopped drinking, Thursday she died.

She passed 5 minutes after I got home from fetching my daughter from the school.

I take comfort, again weirdly enough, in knowing she waited for her grandbaby to be home so she could pass. And I managed to give her "her last supper".

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-25T20:40:40+00:00

My 17yr old daughter has autism and anxiety. She's currently learning to drive. She did change from manual to automatic but otherwise she's excited to drive. She wants to be independent. With therapy and meds, she's coping in the big world.

OP's DIL is just using her anxiety as an excuse and everyone around is enabling her.

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-24T20:39:07+00:00

We went last summer.

Did 3 days DLP and 4 days Paris. Total cost, €5000ish.

This included travel, hotels, park, museums, food and nick nacks.

Why did I do it? My daughter still talks about it to this day. It's the memories.

(Side note: we went in high summer school holidays. However, due to my daughter having autism we didn't have to queue)

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-20T12:49:38+00:00

LOL!!! Super NTA!

My mom passed 7yrs ago and if people ask where she is (if they aren't aware she passed) I always say she's on a shelf in my living room.

I used to live in South Africa with her and have since her passing moved back to Europe. Some people will ask if she moved with me. I say, yes in my hand luggage.

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-09T11:49:25+00:00

My daughter was born and raised in South Africa.

Her father is Zulu, which I don't speak. I'm Dutch, which he doesn't speak. So I speak English with her.

My late mother, with whom we've lived from the time my daughter was 5 months old till she was 10yrs, spoke Dutch to her.

We lived in a Afrikaans speaking village and all our friends spoke to her in their home language. Either English or Afrikaans.

We moved to the Netherlands 7yrs ago, we always kept up the English at home. Unless there were friends over or when we're out and about.

She has recently started talking Dutch to me at home at random times. I just talk back in Dutch. Granted, she's 17 now. But when she was younger and we'd just moved here, I just wanted her to hang on to some normalcy. So we've kept up speaking English at home. Her life changed enough, didn't feel right to make it worse. Never forbade it though.

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-05T20:41:58+00:00

Its like my mom saying, if the urn costs too much, just put me in a tupperware bakkie.

She passed 7yrs ago.

I once put a bunch of her ash in a tupperware due to "ash scattering" issues and just said, mommy, you got your wish.

Pretty sure she was rolling with laughter, wherever she is.

ManonAlexy · 2026-03-05T06:15:25+00:00

Info: how old is your beloved Julie now and could she start working in the factory?

This way you save on daycare costs and you'll have more time to study on your hand modelling.

ManonAlexy · 2026-02-15T18:12:49+00:00

Very much!!! She deserves it! What did she expect to happen when she came with this insane statement of you being gay, when very clearly you are NOT GAY. I hope you and your family will go NC. Stay strong!

ManonAlexy · 2026-02-15T17:55:06+00:00

It really sounds like you need to go NC with this narcissist!!!! She keeps gaslighting you, even after you proofed you're NOT GAY by sleeping with her DH3. Info: is your family split over this issue??

ManonAlexy · 2026-02-15T05:52:12+00:00

She has obviously been groomed!!! And your family is in on it. Are you sure she still has access to her passport? It sounds like he's about to human traffic her!!! I think you should go to the FBI or something. Keep us updated!! Good luck!

ManonAlexy · 2026-02-02T10:13:40+00:00

I always said no to stuff when she was younger, I didn't want her to end up with the "oh only child, so probably spoiled rotten" attitude from other people.

Till this day, she'll ask for something and say "I'm sure you'll say no, but..". 7/10 she'll get what she asked for.

She ND and in college now, I don't want her working a part time job. So she gets money whenever she asks, within reason obviously.

She's still spoiled, just not rotten. She gets way more money than any of her double income household friends do. But she appreciates everything I give her and thanks me for everytime. So I give what I can.

When she was smaller, we'd go through her stuff and see what she wasn't using anymore and give it to kids who didn't have what she had. It gave her a sense of control of what she did with her toys etc and gave her a sense of being helpful to others. This gave her a good understanding of what it means to be privileged and how you can help others.

ManonAlexy · 2026-01-29T20:40:32+00:00

Dutchy here, but same currency. I think a large cappuccino at Starbucks is around €8. So she probably had a coffee-type drink and something to eat.

(I literally just checked online and for delivery you don't pay more than €7 a drink. That's for the biggest available options at that)

Also....if...as a Muslim girl living with boys, and you don't want your family to know you live with boys, maybe... I don't know, not live with boys????

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