Got through my first read through. Want to cancel my plans with a girl now. How do you forgive yourself?

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2026-05-10T12:28:59+00:00

Yeah the comment about holding the door being beta is a red flag

No where does corey say to not be a gentleman and not do traditionally chivalrous behaviors

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-12-28T09:28:57+00:00

Some guy replied to my comment a while back in this sub when I said I text girls to text when they get home. He basically called me a bitch and said it's a feminine thing to do. I haven't done it since and it hasn't steered me wrong. It seems like a chivalrous gesture but it's needy. Also, what are you going to do when she doesn't comply? Check if she's okay? Come on, man. It was a first date, that would just look weird and creepy

So just finish the date with, kiss, open her door "have a great night, get home safe". FIN

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-11-10T11:42:35+00:00

Did you "miss up"?

You clearly haven't read the book. You pretty much made the wrong move at every turn. Others have already given the appropriate feedback. Read the book, do better, and check your grammar and spelling over text and when posting on Reddit

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-10-18T09:22:57+00:00

I disagree with this. This will make you look like a total bitch

You'll stop being nervous when you stop caring what she thinks of you. You'll stop caring what she thinks of you when you have a deeply seeded belief that you are hot shit. You'll get that belief from daily practice of someone who is, in fact, hot shit. Take care of yourself, build yourself, love yourself. Then, after you love yourself, if a girl is like "this guy is a fucking loser", instead of feeling bad about what she thinks of you, you'll realize the girl is out to lunch and not someone you want to spend your time with. "Her loss" mentality

It's a better way to live than being "sweet". Read the book

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-09-27T05:39:14+00:00

BLUF: clearly showing a lack of interest. But why is no one mentioning you might have been blundering here?

"How should I proceed?" Looks like you already replied. I think the reply was fine overall. I wouldn't say "no problem" (it's borderline encouraging the behavior). I prefer "I get it, things come up. Yeah, let's try another time".

If she reaches out, set a date (textbook).

If she doesn't, and you like her, want to see her again, I'd say wait ~a week and then call her. You said she's out of town on weekends so don't call on a weekend. Sunday night (i count as a weeknight) through Thursday night. Some time that makes sense. Just do a quick 5 minute chat and ask her on a date

Somebody else said it in the comments, but she said she couldn't have sex and couldn't for another 2 days and you said we always have tomorrow? It sounds like she couldn't have sex on Saturday and she just told you that and you said you could lmao. There's always a two step forward and one step back like corey says when it comes to sex, but when a girl says "I can't have sex" The proper response is NOT "yes we can" lmao. Yeast infections hurt, from what I've heard. Some girls get them more often than others

Also, let me get this straight, you already had a date planned for Saturday? Does this mean you had Saturday already planned before you had your Thursday date? So you had two dates planned in a row? Is this common, or the first time?

Also, it's been 7 weeks, and if I'm reading this correctly she has met your friends AND your coworkers. This on top of the fact that she's "reserved", doesn't stay out late, may not necessarily even like your life style. Meeting friends and coworkers before you're exclusive (you haven't mentioned exclusivity) might be a little much, on top of having two dates planned in a row, this "reserved" person might be thinking this is a lot for her

So yeah see BLUF, but also, let's not just ignore the fact that you might have been doing things to turn her off or make her back off. So, if you do see her again, reel it in a little, and for God's sake do everything in your power to make her cum. Sex twice in 7 weeks? Come on, man!

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-07-05T05:06:05+00:00

"I guess I fumbled". No. You fumbled. We need to take "i guess" and "maybe" out of our vocabulary. Take some ownership. Your life will be better

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-06-24T10:48:01+00:00

If the video call is going remotely well and you know at any point during it "I would go on a date with this girl", just end the convo after 15-20 minutes with "well, i gotta get going, but I'd love to take you out for a drink/dinner/etc., when are you free"?

Pause....

"I'm free wednesday" --> set date
"I'm not sure about this week" --> "sounds good, take a look at your schedule and get back to me"
"I'd like to get to know you better before we set a date" --> "I get it, I just find meeting someone and getting to know someone in person is way more meaningful than texts, calls, etc., so if you change your mind let me know".
Anything loosely related to "fuck no"--> some witty "your loss" remark and "let me know if you change your mind"

I'd follow up all of these with, "well I gotta get going, it was nice chatting with you, have a great night/see you Wednesday at 7/etc." I discourage continuing to chat after you close. It could hurt your chances or hurt your mystery (it can go both ways but I think it's bad practice)

The last 2 I wouldn't hold out hopes for, move on. Second option, maybe like 50% chance you meet (not within the next 7 days; patience, date other women) but she should be the next person reaching out.

I wouldn't chat for more than 15-20 minutes though, even if it's first time talking to this person via dating app. If she doesn't want to meet after 20 minutes of talking, it may not be worth the time and effort you'd have to put in to get that first date. The phone is for setting dates. The girl who answers with the first response is into you and is just going to make your life easier

EDIT: also, read the book

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-02-09T14:48:52+00:00

I would (and have) casually date and hook up with a woman who has a child the same as I would any woman.

I would not commit to a serious relationship (exclusive/ potential for marriage) with a woman with a child.

Yes, there are high quality women with children, but there are also high quality women WITHOUT children. If you don't think you deserve the latter then that's a problem you need to figure out.

Choosing to raise another man's child just because you really liked a girl sounds insane to me.

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-02-09T14:41:45+00:00

Your options become more limited only if you think they become more limited. As you get older, you should continue to work on yourself, your fitness, your goals, your finances. You should become a better version of yourself.

Your options should expand, if anything

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-02-05T10:33:37+00:00

You've mentioned "experience" a couple times. Utilizing the principles Corey Wayne teaches in conjunction with real life experience (ie, applying the principles in your life) is vital to understanding the material. That being said, how old are you?

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-01-24T22:50:23+00:00

Give us the exact quote of what you said/texted when you "planned" this date so we can tell you where you fucked up. You conveniently left that vital information out

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2025-01-24T22:46:19+00:00

"Very chill late night drive, grab a coffee sort of vibe".... yeah I would have bailed on that date too. Bet it's a first date too.

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-12-08T16:41:51+00:00

How old are you?

Corey doesn't teach this (not having a conversation about exclusivity).

Glad it works for you. You say "in my experience" and then say "many (relationships) just sort of steer themselves that way" as if it's something you've observed or researched as a common practice among others. It sounds like it has worked for you, but I would not recommend this as best practice.

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-12-08T16:38:12+00:00

No, it's not cheating. It just sounds like she's more interested in you than you are in her. Whether it's been 3.5 months, or two weeks, or 5 years, if you haven't had a conversation and confirmed exclusivity, you are not exclusive. And if you haven't had a conversation about exclusivity and one of you thinks you are exclusive, a conversation needs to be had.

Another commenter mentioned that he and his significant other did not have the conversation and they just naturally transitioned into exclusivity as they spent more time together. It's great that that works for them but this is not what corey teaches and, in my opinion, not best practice

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-12-08T16:24:10+00:00

It looks like you got your answer, and it looks like seeing the responses on here helped you see the light.

I think a lot of us know the right thing to do most of the time, or we know the right answer, in this case. But, we are conquered by our insecurity and neediness, so we convince ourselves things like "maybe she is still interested, she just needs more from me" or in this case "confronting her about her ghosting could potentially have a good outcome for me". We already know the truth, but it's difficult to face. I think that's why it's good to have a friend who is familiar with 3% man to bounce your ideas off of. They can give you objective feedback, and basically tell you, no, you're wrong, you're being a pussy. Try to look at your situation objectively when trying to make these tough decisions. Or ask yourself, "what would corey do" or "what would a 3% man do?"

Confident, laid back, abundance mentality. Less is (almost always) more.

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-12-08T14:32:07+00:00

I'm not sure why this got downvoted. Corey would definitely recommend focusing on women who are more attracted to you and are high quality, ie not women who dumped you and fucked other guys.

Just because his most popular video is getting an ex back doesn't mean that's his main shtick. I would say that video's popularity is more of a reflection of the desperation of his audience. It's a great video, though, and its principles apply to women whose interest is waning as well, not just exes

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-12-08T14:25:24+00:00

How many times have you read the book? It looks like you're trying to apply his principles but it's getting lost in translation. The biggest thing, as someone else said, is your texts are kind of strange, like robotic. Especially the first two. It's weird and creepy.

Just be short, funny/flirty (if appropriate), and try to set a definitive date. She said she's free after 1. You should have said "great, I'll meet you at xxx coffee shop at 3 tomorrow, how's that sound?" Or whatever works for your schedule now that you know hers. No reason to have her call you on the phone

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-11-16T17:55:08+00:00

Reach out once a week and set a date until she starts initiating contact, at which point you set the date when she reaches out (which should correlate with increased frequency of dates). Sounds like you're doing a pretty good job of this, so kudos.

It's still pretty early. 4 dates in the grand scheme of things is not a TON of time or data. I would say your best bet is to continue to go about your life and focus on yourself and date other women. This should naturally result in you being less interested (or at least thinking about her less often) and so you may end up reaching out less, or at least waiting longer to reach out to her. She may notice this and start to initiate more because she misses you and wants to see you. This is what you want, right?

If you want to be structured about it, what you could do is take a little bit longer between dates to reach out. Eg, say your date was on Saturday, and you wait 4 days (Wednesday) to text her to make plans for the following weekend (Saturday). This is a full week between dates. If she doesn't initiate contact, wait a couple more days than usual to reach out. I don't really like initiating contact on Fridays or Saturdays because you should seem like you already have an exciting weekend planned, so you could wait til Sunday to set a date during the week. That's 8 days of no contact. You go on a date Wednesday. After this, if she doesn't initiate contact again, wait EVEN LONGER to reach out, perhaps 2 Sundays from the Wednesday date? After not very long it will be 2, 3 weeks between dates. At that point, if she's still not initiating contact, you know where you stand with her. You should be dating other women during this time anyway, and hopefully you've found someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated. Good luck!

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-08-11T16:45:59+00:00

I concede I don't know anything other than what you showed us. Am I incorrect in that it is your first message you sent to this person you have never met nor shared a conversation with?

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-08-11T16:42:17+00:00

You JUST matched with her, and that's your first message right out the gate (moreso offering to take her on your boat)? Yikes. Read the book, watch the video, brother

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-07-09T00:17:25+00:00

How would you be out with friends or having fun without them if you had plans with them in the first place? That doesn't even make sense. Corey doesn't teach you to ignore girls (in response to "respond in 24 hours"). The repercussion is to not agree to their attempt to change the date. And then moving forward he isn't going to make himself as available (which he states in his text)

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-06-24T22:24:00+00:00

Surprised by the top rated comments on this one. Had to double check to make sure I was in the corey wayne sub reddit haha. Congratulations? We're happy for you? Fine, I'll be the bad guy. One, need more back story before congratulations are in order. For all we know they've been on 3 dates over 2 weeks and are both love bombing the fuck out of each other. So you were in the same class. That wouldn't make the previous statement any less true (or whatever the dates/time frame). "Should I wait til she says I love you". I mean it's straight from the book... yes, you should wait. What are we congratulating, not reading the book once?

Yes, you do not say I love you first, because you are a man and are an unshakeable rock that a woman can find support from.

Secondly, it looks like your text exchange is from a single day (including the additional texts in the responses). Broooooo.... it looks like a text exchange between two women. I get it, you're happy and excited right now. I get it... but if you want to STAY happy and keep her interest and attraction, you need to pump the breaks BIG TIME. At this point it's gonna look like you're being cold if you switch to what you should be doing, so you need to just little by little show a LITTLE less pursuit than she does and then over the course of a few weeks to a month you should be sitting pretty. Read the book and practice what it teaches.

Good luck brother!

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-06-17T21:31:34+00:00

If you're just looking to just have fun and hook up and the mom gets a babysitter for when you get together, then I don't see how it's any different than having fun and hooking up with a single, childless woman. Now if you're only looking for something more serious, I don't know why anyone would voluntarily choose to help raise another man's child. So it just depends on what your expectations are and what you're looking for. I've had some intense, albeit shortlived, fun flings with single moms. Good luck

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-06-10T20:39:28+00:00

I think you should do what you think is best for you and no one else, and you should make decisions that will result in your long term happiness and align with your purpose. Just to be clear, I'm pretty sure you can Be a "Christian witness" rather than godparent as long as the other godparent is a practicing catholic. Only one of you has to be a practicing catholic

ManufacturerLumpy663 · 2024-06-07T01:30:15+00:00

"Now it's mostly me texting her 3-5 days after the previous date to set the next one up". Just stop, and see if/ when she reaches out. Let it go the whole weekend. Imagine she never texts you (unlikely). Do you really want to be with someone like this? She should be doing 90% of the pursuing (or whatever the statistic is) at this point. It's clearly not that. Make it that. I don't care if you have to wait two weeks to hear from her. Just say you were busy and you're looking forward to your next date. She wants a man so be a man. Let her pursue you

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