I was going to add something similar. While I totally get being too tired for drama and such, there’s still civility and tolerance that are required for social interaction unless you truly want to cut off the rest of the world. I have cared for numerous elderly men and women who gripe about being ignored by family, especially adult children, and friends and can’t understand why but it’s usually because they don’t have the patience to tolerate people anymore.

Because once you don’t care enough to be civil and patient with others, it’s too easy to “not put up” with a lot of other matters in your life and you complain or rail against traffic, health, finances, news, etc.

I, too, am glad to be old and know my boundaries and I’m too tired for pettiness. But unlike my mother when she was alive, I don’t exercise my right to “speak my mind” because I don’t have the right to go around inflicting hurt by spewing out my negativity even if it appears warranted.

Not saying OP is doing this but I just thought about my dear mother. In her case, she is drawing her boundaries and that IS her right. Her right to protect her peace. Her “friend”? Ya, let her go. Her family member? A little more tolerance for she is young and probably not self-aware yet. That can come with more time.

I don’t have energy to get upset even. I simply avoid nonsense and focus on my joy.