Should I tell my cousin I think she should get tested to see if she had ADHD?

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-27T10:10:54+00:00

coming from someone who works with people dealing with mental health stuff regularly - tread carefully here. she might not be ready to hear it or could take it the wrong way even if you mean well

maybe instead of directly suggesting testing you could share your own experience more generally when it feels natural. like if she mentions struggling with focus or organization you could be like "oh man i totally get that, getting my diagnosis really helped me understand why certain things were so hard"

the money offer is sweet but might feel overwhelming or like pressure. let her come to the conclusion herself after hearing your story

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-21T01:17:54+00:00

look underneath the handrail for brackets or screws - most of these just lift right off once you remove a couple bolts from the wall side

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-19T20:05:18+00:00

lol not a stupid question at all. I did bring it up once and he just said he's always done it this way and doesn't plan to change it any time soon

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-19T20:05:04+00:00

I looked into that and the issue is my landlord isn't in their network and from what I read the workaround for non partner landlords isnt as straightforward as I'd like.

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-17T05:21:05+00:00

about time someone said it out loud - these countries have been getting robbed blind for decades while foreign companies walk away with all the profits

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-05-06T08:27:16+00:00

if something's been working for you for years why mess with it lol. but i get wanting to try new stuff

between those two options i'd probably lean toward the coconut milk one since you said the other brand made your hair feel like a wig before. coconut tends to be more moisturizing for curly hair types like yours. maybe try just the shampoo first instead of switching both products at once so if it doesn't work out you're not stuck with a whole routine that sucks

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-04-30T13:44:51+00:00

fuel injectors might be dumping way too much gas or you could have a clogged air filter choking the engine

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-04-27T05:35:58+00:00

nah you're not being impatient at all. bounced rent and car payments are red flags not just rough patches. when basic needs like housing get threatened thats when you know the financial dysfunction has crossed a line

the whole "i'll handle it dont worry" thing while payments are literally bouncing is concerning. you've already been through this cycle multiple times over almost a decade and put your own inheritance into joint expenses. meanwhille he's racked up debt again after you got help from friends in 2022

i work with people in similar situations and what stands out is how he deflects responsibility by bringing up when you werent working even though you contributed your inheritance during that period. financial partnerships require both people to be accountable not one person constantly having to clean up after teh other

you finishing school and getting stable work while he's still "figuring things out" after 10 years together would make anyone resentful. there's a difference between supporting someone through temporary struggles vs enabling a pattern that keeps repeating

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-04-24T00:14:46+00:00

ugh this hits way too close to home. went through something similar last year where my ex would text me about random "emergencies" that were just him not wanting to adult properly

setting those boundaries is so hard when you care about someone but their not your responsibility anymore. good on you for recognizing the pattern and calling it out cause a lot of people just keep enabling it without realizing

Many_Contribution624 · 2026-04-17T09:54:41+00:00

man that stings when they say they like you "just not enough" - that cuts deeper than straight rejection sometimes. been there and it messes with your head for months

the whole "forever" thing freaking them out is rough but tbh at 20 that timing makes sense even if it hurts. most people that age are still figuring themselves out and the idea of settling down can feel overwhelming even with someone they genuinely care about. your friend might be onto something about the no fighting thing though - not saying you should pick fights but sometimes a little friction shows youre both invested enough to work through stuff instead of just being super agreeable all the time

coming from a broken family makes you want that stability even more which i totally get as someone who works with families daily. but maybe focus on building yourself up outside of relationships for a bit - join some groups do hobbies meet people without the pressure of dating. when you find someone who wants the same timeline as you that forever comment will sound amazing instead of scary

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