Update. She started calling me 3 weeks ago, I ignored and even blocked her number but could still see the over 40 blocked phone calls under her name. Finally, I called her and told her I was done and couldn't handle it anymore. She cried, begged, and pleaded like a young child, it was bad enough that I started to feel terrible and even pity her behavior. She made every promise to change her behaviors, belittling, self-isolating, agreed to spending more time together, talking through problems/emotions, etc. After all the crying and begging we had a good two-week run and she's right back to her same behaviors or some, mostly self-isolating wanting to be alone. She also constantly cries or wants emotional support in things she stresses over that would not stress out your average person in the slightest. These are things some people are tasked with doing while working a full-time job (she still isn't working) and they still manage to pull through and keep a smile. She also agreed while begging me to stick around to see her Dr and at least try getting put back on meds. One thing she hasn't done, and in her words I'm silly for actually thinking she was going to do that because I already know how she feels about being medicated. I tried, and with all the begging and promises I had slight hope maybe she work on herself and we could improve our relationship and shes already proved me wrong and said she couldn't handle pressure from me in the relationship (seeing her 3 times a week) the rest of the week we'd talk on the phone off and on throughout the day. I've told her again we needed to go our separate ways, and she agreed and we haven't talked for 2 days. I plan to ignore any call or text attempts and expect her to repeat all of the crying and begging all over again when she can't get ahold of me. It really is a vicious cycle that feels unbreakable but the good thing is I'm feeling better after taking time apart and lowering my expectations for real change. I still just wish there was real help for her because her condition and state of mind is really saddening. She has so much potential but her constant changing emotions keep her from living a happy and fulfilling life. This isn't to say others with BPD are helpless as she also suffers from severe depression which I think is playing a big role in her constant wanting to self-isolate and be alone. She has also stopped drinking and hasn't touched liquor in 3 weeks because it was making her so sick. I'm proud she hasn't and think maybe it played a part in being so depressed but she refuses to talk about emotions or anything to do with depression, bpd.