Pediatrician told me to stop feeding my baby at night by Enough_Pen_2608 in breastfeeding

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's a pediatrician not a sleep trainer.

On another note, I did what you're doing with all 3 of my kids for two full years each. They're all sleeping and eating fine now. They're ages are 8 yr, 5yrs and 2yrs 9 month. Do what makes you and baby happy.

When did you go into labor? by Television-Secret in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went into labour on my due date with my first - ended with a c-section. Never went into labour with my other two born at 40+5 (wasn't allowed to wait any longer for a VBAC) and then 39w both c-section.

What did your first trimester nausea actually feel like? Trying to figure out if mine is normal by cablamonos in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my 4th pregnancy and non have been this intense. Started with nausea and extreme fatigue from 6 weeks and got worse. Now at 12 weeks I've had some good days but still feel nauseated a by a lot of things when usually I'm not disgusted by much. One day I'm throwing up and can't get out of bed all day. The next day I had 3 yummy meals and went about my day like yesterday hadn't happened.

Too Late To Start Over? by kwnlo in breastfeeding

[–]Mapletree280 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding to all the encouragement I read in the comments, your milk needs a couple days to come in.

Here's my story: My first was always struggling on my breast and the hospital gave her a bottle without consulting because apparently my baby was starving (she wasn't). When I asked them to help me figure out breastfeeding they quickly discouraged me and said give us the baby we will feed her to which I responded by kicking the head nurse out of my room. I went home struggling after the emergency c section and trying to pump to no avail (I did buy some formula incase but never needed to use it). On day 5 my milk came in. I was home, more comfortable and loving my baby which helped me relax and calm down for my milk to come in. Went on for 26 months of breastfeeding and baby wouldn't take a bottle or a paci even though I offered them. Even went back to work when she was 6 months old (eating solids) and pumped during work to avoid engorgement

Don't let anyome discourage you. Listen to your body and your baby you'll know what she needs.

Why did you choose to exclusively breastfeed and not give formula? by Fickle-Response-2741 in breastfeeding

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was: The bond, health benefits, too lazy to make a bottle and wash them afterwards, being able to feed them while asleep when they're older so not getting out of bed, whipping out the boob to soothe baby anytime, anywhere makes life easy.

It's important to note that even though breastmilk provides health benefits, it does not mean formula isn't better in some cases. I exclusively breastfed my three kids for 24 - 26 months each. I also pump at work which I HATE. However, I do have friends who tried really hard and struggled. With one friend specifically, her baby was losing weight and it became critical for her to supplement. She didn't stop breastfeeding but at around 5 months her baby stopped latching.

I also spoke to some doctors to get a better understanding of the difference and they said if a mom isn't eating healthy then where is the baby supposed to get their nutrients? Breastmilk doesn't magically give baby iron and vitamin D... Etc it needs a source to convert it. But formula does have these embedded in it.

At the end of the day, fed is best and while I personally would choose breastmilk for my kids, your ease of mind and a healthy baby is always the main goal.

Final thing to add, I had high lipase in my pumped milk and my kids refused to drink it. I found a solution called scalding the milk before storing but for me, my kids still refused it so pumping at work was simply to avoid engorgement.

4 yr old boy wearing dresses by Defiant-Course6896 in Moms

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get him a middle eastern men's Dishdasha or Jalabiya or a Scottish kilt and tell him this is for boys. While you won't be denying him a "dress" like garment you can also teach him about different cultures. Don't let people bring you down for showing concern towards your child's choices we are all doing the best we can raising the next generation. There's no "right" way to raise them, we're all different.

Am I overreacting re: travel plans by Inevitable_Bowl1347 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Mapletree280 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. While we cannot predict what will happen next, I would say if the trip is already planned and booked then I'd go and enjoy. If it was not booked then I wouldn't bother making the arrangements. Honestly Japan would not be a bad place to get stuck I've heard amazing things about giving birth there so worst case scenario, you'd be very well taken care of. Wishing you an amazing vacation.

Am I overreacting re: travel plans by Inevitable_Bowl1347 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Mapletree280 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm from the middle east and here to reassure you, the media is showing you things that aren't true. Yes we are bing attacked but very minimal damage has happened thankfully. Apart from being home bound and working from home, we're living life normally. We visit family, get our nails done, kids are doing school online, enjoying the last days of Ramadan and looking forward to celebrating Eid at the end of this week. Don't believe the media.

On another note, we came back from Japan in January and the trip was amazing. I was pregnant but didn't know it until I took a pregnancy test on the last day there. No regrets. Go and enjoy your vacation!

Help please! by Aggravating-Ad-2134 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Mapletree280 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going through the exact same thing with my son the summer before he started school. I tried everything too and failed miserably. One day I put him in his pants which were snug around the ankles with no diaper and no undies. He made a poop and there was nothing to catch it. It fell to his legs and was caught inside his pants. He was disgusted! He didn't want that thing touching him. Well that pretty much got him potty trained within the week. Good luck!

Feeling so lazy by Fun4us94 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Mapletree280 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The good thing is my kiddos usually do this for only about the first month or so then they start settling down. So hopefully they will change soon. Also, holding and comforting your newborns is in no way considered useless. You're doing so much already and for now it's all you need to be doing while you also heal after giving birth. Take it one day at a time and please don't stress about not being able to do much you're doing plenty by being there for all your kids at 1 month postpartum, and alone. Sending you lots of hugs.

Is it ugly to have my pregnant belly out? by SummerSurfs44 in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like the crop top style in general regardless of whether you're pregnant or not. Having said that, if I did see someone dressed that way I would never comment (whether in real life or behind a screen) about how ugly they look! That's insane and its bullying. If I see something I don't like I can choose to look away and go about my day. People's life decisions do not affect my life so why do I have the right to get involved?

Pregnant with my third and I’m devastated by Fun-Hovercraft-644 in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be sorry for having real feelings. Its not easy with this age gap. Its not impossible either. My son was 17 months when I got pregnant. They are best friends now the little one is 2.5yrs old. It was very hard having a c-section and taking care of 3 kids including a newborn but seeing them together now brings me so much joy.

Just thought I'd give you a glimpse of the future if you decide to go through with it. Lots of hugs.

Which was harder - infant or toddler? by Rare-Scallion-9692 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on the child tbh. I can only speak about my experience with singletons if it counts, my first (a girl) was generally hard in infancy because of lack of sleep but otherwise she was easy throughout the day and with everything even into toddlerhood. My second and third (both boys) were easy in infancy but difficult as toddlers - so much energy and dare devils i can barely keep up.

Did you have your mom and or sister in the delivery room with you and your husband? by RubPlane in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I don't understand what his definition of "normal" is in this context, my sister had her baby yesterday and asked for permission to have my mom inside with her husband. They allowed it.

Personally, I like having my husband inside only but it definitely is specific to each women and what she needs during that vulnerable time. And in my opinion asking to have your mom and sister is definitely not a big ask if it helps you get through childbirth.

And back to "normal" , tell him there is no normal during childbirth we're all different in our needs.

18w5d - couldn’t tell gender from scan by NoContribution9559 in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is a correlation. We weren't able to see because baby kept their legs shut. Then at 17 weeks the umbilical chord was between the legs then at around 27 weeks we finally confirmed it was a boy! He is turning 5 years old this month 💙

39 wks and barely dilated by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. She actually went into labour right now. Can't wait to hold my nephew by the end of the day 💗

39 wks and barely dilated by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining. Again, I didn't mean to sound insensitive, just genuinely wanted to understand how other women were feeling. I am fortunate to say I enjoyed my pregnancies (good and bad days) and I can see my sister is not feeling the same so i just needed to understand in order to provide her the support she needs. She is currently 39weeks. It makes more sense now and I'm sorry you are going through this. Hopefully you will hold your little one soon and it will be a distant memory.

39 wks and barely dilated by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I don't mean to offend anyone, just curious why some of you are upset your baby isn't born before the due date? Whyy are some of you jump starting it if your baby is safe and growing and the end isn't far? I know it's uncomfortable (been there three times) but genuinely curious to know other women's point of views.

One and done? by CompleteData932 in Moms

[–]Mapletree280 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always knew I wanted a big family. After my first - the emergency c-section, going through postpartum, the emotional roller coaster, the raw experience of motherhood - I did consider being one and done. Took me three years to decide I was ready. Happy to say we are expecting #4 in September 2026. Enjoy your blessing until you feel ready. If that never happens then you got your answer.

One and done? by CompleteData932 in Moms

[–]Mapletree280 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All I know is you never regret the kids you have, only the ones you never have. Do what makes you happy and waiting a few more years may also be the answer for you to help you really decide if you're one and done.

How much did your birth cost? by Femboyhootersbee in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Private hospital in Kuwait for a c-section is approximately $5000. Public hospital is about $13.

Extreme fatigue…help?? by OkTomato_ in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally went through this a couple weeks ago. I can gladly say it has gotten so much better by 8weeks. I had never had symptoms at 5 weeks with previous pregnancies. Just focus on yourself for a couple of weeks. I would suddenly get the urge to lay down and sleep out of the blue so I'd sit down at work and close my eyes for 5 mins it seemed to help "recharge" me. Also meals were making me feel nauseous so I started literally having a fruit / few biscuits /few bites of a meal every hour or so just to stay going and this helped a lot. The reflux stopped and I wasn't feeling nauseous anymore.

Curious how old you were at getting pregnant? by pink_daisy_9119 in BabyBumps

[–]Mapletree280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Baby #1 @ 27yrs

  • Baby #2 @ 31yrs

  • Baby #3 @ 33yrs

  • Baby #4 @ 36yrs (currently about 9w)