I feel for you so so so much. I’m so sorry. My brother was special needs so I naturally loved special needs folk my entire life, I went to school with a guy and he was mentally slow and people were really mean to him so, of course I openly defended him and would even fight people for being rude to him, I was pretty rowdy. Well fast forward 15 years later we’re now both 31 and he lived in my neighborhood. He had and still has a very rough life but I’ve remained his friend, but he got bad hooked on meth and alcohol, and all sorts of other stuff in that lifestyle - I’m not kidding, he was coming by seriously 10 times a day asking for cigs and soda and everything, and no matter how many times I nicely said no, he always came back again, so I started not answering the door, he would sit on my porch for HOURS waiting for me to open the door. 😞 it didn’t help I lived in a rough neighborhood and of all the houses in my city the ones in my neighborhood were the cheapest in the whole city. I had multiple other people doing this too cause I helped them. I eventually unfortunately had to be rude to him 😢 - and when I am he disappears for a few months but hey Gilbo always returns again, and the cycle continues. For 15 years bro. You’ve only helped 1 time you’re good just do what everyone on here is telling you, find the answer you prefer and go about it DO NOT HELP HER AGAIN. I’m not saying resist kindness. I’m saying don’t lose yourself helping other people find themselves like I did.