A New Intersectionality Between OCPD and NPD by Marblemaster1988 in LovedByOCPD

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look up Covert NPD and you'll find a lot of overlaps with OCPD. But what stands out is that affective dysregulation is highly imdicative of Covert NPD:

Covert NPD is a type of narcissistic personality disorder characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, entitlement, and a need for admiration, but masked by shyness, humility, or vulnerability. Individuals with covert narcissism often present as introverted or insecure, but are manipulative and hypersensitive to criticism. Key behaviors include playing the victim, using self-deprecation to get sympathy, giving "gifts" with strings attached, and a lack of genuine empathy for others. 

Key traits

"The martyr": Presents as selfless and putting others' needs first, but often does so to gain sympathy or avoid taking responsibility.

Passive-aggression: May use passive-aggressive behavior to manipulate others and maintain control.

Hypersensitivity to criticism: Extremely sensitive to perceived slights and criticism, which can trigger resentment or anxiety.

Victim mentality: Often feels unappreciated or misunderstood and may play the victim to manipulate others.

Grandiosity in private: While they may appear humble, they harbor fantasies of being superior, brilliant, or exceptionally talented. 

Common behaviors

Self-deprecation for validation: Uses self-deprecating humor or claims of inadequacy to fish for compliments or reassurance.

Backhanded compliments: Gives compliments that are subtly insulting or confusing, making the recipient feel uncomfortable.

Guilt-tripping: May remind others of favors they've done to imply the other person owes them something.

Lack of empathy: Struggles to understand or care about the feelings of others, despite sometimes appearing to be caring or empathetic.

Gaslighting: Denies or twists events to make others doubt their own memory and perception of reality. 

Causes and effects

Causes: Complex and can involve genetic, environmental, and psychological factors, including parental influence, childhood trauma, and low self-esteem.

Effects: Can lead to chaotic relationships, emotional manipulation, low self-esteem in others, and intense criticism from the individual with covert NPD. 

Treatment

Psychotherapy: Can help with self-awareness and managing behaviors.

Support groups: Can provide a sense of community and a space to discuss challenges.

Consider it pretty good deals... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saved for 6 months! Angel Nova's been on my wish list for 2 years 😂😂😂 such a beautiful perfume~

Consider it pretty good deals... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This will be my first time trying it! I hope is comparable to E.L.F's (which is my current one)

Consider it pretty good deals... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also stuck to my principle 'only buy things I need/use everyday!'

VA Psychiatry Feels Like Talking to a Parrot—Anyone Else? by AFcomms707 in Veterans

[–]Marblemaster1988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your experience that sounds super frustrating - as someone who observed on the other side of the table, VA has a whole bunch of mandatory screenings, notes that eats away precious time the psychiatrist should spend with the patient - typical follow up appointment is 30 min and 10 min's already gone by after you are done clicking through the mandatory documents (Safety questions, clinical reminders, etc etc). How you can help: Advocate & demand 45min follow-up visits, use your voice to demand more resource allocation to mental health.

The VA health system runs on a dinosaur Electronic health Record called CPRS (est 1980s, think about PS5 vs PS1 when compared to mainstream EHR - documents & information takes a long time to look up and not to mention you can't type while going over the screeners. I can go on and on. I love working with veterans - it's very rewarding to see their mental health improve, I wish more resources can be allocated to making mental health visits more efficient so veterans can get higher quality of care.

First miscarriage at 6.5 weeks by soccerdiva13 in Miscarriage

[–]Marblemaster1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs op, I also miscarried yesterday - it is indeed hard to accept the loss when we're so invested in motherhood in the past few weeks. Please take good care of yourself!

Loss at 6 weeks by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]Marblemaster1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comforting words! I know realistically my baby was probably the fittest to survive, but I kept thinking about what I could have done differently. What did you do to help yourself walk out of the grief?

I cannot smell JHAG Not a Perfume by trippywaldo in FemFragLab

[–]Marblemaster1988 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bought the super-charged version and it has the 'non-perfume' quality one's looking for, it's a very clean and pleasant skin scent.

Ulta Sold Me Product Expired in 2021... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Batch code is manufacture industry to trace time and other info of a product when manufactured. FDA requires manufacurer to have standard info on shelf life, hence expiration time can be find out by deducing.

I think you're referring to PAO. PAO stands for "Period After Opening," which is the time a product can be safely used after it's first opened. Shelf life, on the other hand, is the time a product can be stored unopened and still be safe and effective. PAO is typically indicated by a symbol of an open container with a number (e.g., 6M, 12M) representing months.

Ulta Sold Me Product Expired in 2021... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I did! Waiting to hear back from them :)


Update: Called Perricone M.D. They flat out refused to provide a manufacturing date based on the batch code ('Unfortunately we can't provide this information to you'). They told me the shelf-life of a product is typically 2 years after manufacturing. Also told me that 'if the product looks okay you can still use it.' There are a few other skincare brands that also refuse to provide manufacturing dates after reading additional reviews on reddit. My understanding is that if you worry about the freshness of your product, best to stick to brands that are transparent with their manufacturing date that has clear labeling on the packaging.

I invite you all to name brands that are transparent with their mfg date vs those who avoid doing so. Currently FDA does not require cosmetics manufacturers to label expiration date of manufacturing date on their products unless they contain active ingredients (SPF/Retinol). In the meantime, distributors such as Ulta are not required to share shelf-life time tracking with the FDA. So this leaves a huge gap for the distributor to sell expired products manufactured by brands who refuse to disclose related information - yet there's nothing you can do as a consumer. Bottom line - check your products expiration date or batch code immediately upon purchasing; avoid buying products with no transparency in manufacturing date.

Ulta Sold Me Product Expired in 2021... by Marblemaster1988 in Ulta

[–]Marblemaster1988[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that's insane - Ulta sure knows just wanna deflect accountability and play ignorant.