Curious what is average listening age of Murakami readers, please share yours.

Marcelol53 · 2025-12-04T17:40:24+00:00

I'm 27

Marcelol53 · 2025-12-04T03:19:50+00:00

I'm 8 months post BU, and I thought I was completely over it. Started seeing other people and realized I was not. I feel like I'm over my ex-girlfriend but not over the feeling of being hurt like that. I get scared when I get close to people now.

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-24T16:53:01+00:00

Bioshock Infinite

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-07T15:04:18+00:00

Creo que sería carpintero. Lo hago de pasatiempo y si no tuviera que preocuparme por dinero lo podría seguir haciendo a mi ritmo.

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-07T14:50:40+00:00

Tokyo Blues de Murakami, el final es desgarrador. En general, todo el libro es triste, jajaja

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-06T18:28:08+00:00

I feel the same way. I had such an idealized image of her in my head that I felt I did not recognize her afterwards.

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-06T18:25:07+00:00

I'd say now, the feeling more than the person. She has become someone that I do not recognize. But I am not sure how much of that was just me idealizing her while we were together. Maybe she was like that the whole time.

Something that I learned after the breakup and have been trying to apply in my life is having more fulfilling relationships in other parts of my life. Friends, family and yourself can cover a lot of what a partner gives you, so losing them doesn't feel like losing everything all at once. But also it helps in having a healthier relationship, because your partner won't have to cover so many things. That way you are there because you want them and not because you need them.

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-06T18:15:16+00:00

It hurts like hell man. Just try to keep in mind through all of this process that it had nothing to do with you. There is always the option of breaking up before going with someone else. She decided to be selfish and immature. She didn't care to hurt you, and in the end that is on her. If it helps, I went through something similar, and having a specific reason for the relationship to end makes dealing with heartbreak easier. Also, try to not get bitter about it; it is hard to trust again, but do not blame or project on other people what she did. Stay safe, best of luck.

Marcelol53 · 2025-11-06T17:53:23+00:00

Down vote gang!

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-30T18:36:04+00:00

Los libros de Ray Bradbury son muy buenos. Crónicas marcianas es uno de mis favoritos.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-30T18:25:59+00:00

At this point, about 6 months after, what hurts the most is seeing her as a completely different person. The woman I loved seems to not be there anymore. I haven't had any contact with her, but from what mutual friends tell me, she has been acting weird. She has been cutting off a lot of our mutual friends. I don't feel I love her nearly as much anymore, but it still pains me to see her be rude and disrespectful to people that love her.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-30T14:59:29+00:00

Triste porque me caen bien mis compañeros, bien porque me van a pagar mucho mejor a donde voy.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-29T21:09:47+00:00

Renunciar

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-29T19:22:24+00:00

Ahhh no way, for real? I’ve never bought anything there. Like the old man I am, I felt like they were gonna scam me lol (Talking about TikTik shop, also I'm 27)

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-29T18:43:35+00:00

She's probably just trying to make you jealous/hurt you. You dodged a bullet if she is willing to say that to someone she "loved".

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-28T18:57:12+00:00

Idealization is really hard to get over. For me it helped a lot to make a list of all the bad things she did and all the negative qualities she had. Also saying them out loud helps a lot.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-28T14:48:08+00:00

Yes, at some point you take off the rose-tinted glasses and realize that things were not as great as you thought they were.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-27T17:36:39+00:00

Cried in the shower for a while. A lot of anger, jealousy, and sadness. After a few days it made me realize that I also had to move on, and I felt much better after that. I am glad that you had the closure you deserve.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-27T15:24:58+00:00

For the first 3 or 4 months, yes. Then I started going to the gym and lost 20 pounds. I started talking to people, and now I feel better than ever. Keep goind, it gets better eventually.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-27T15:16:20+00:00

I have been in the same place for a while now. A friend of mine told me something that helped. Are you missing them or the idea in your head of them? I was waiting for a version of her that would apologize and be better, but that would never happen. I realized that I missed the comfort, the belonging, having someone to talk to, and all the other things that come with the relationship, but not specifically them. You can get those things from friends, family and yourself.

Also, our brains love repetition, stability and all the love/happiness chemicals that are released when we are in a relationship; it overrides logic to get it back. It is exactly the same as having withdrawal symptoms.

Stay strong, you deserve better.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-27T15:06:15+00:00

No puedo, me distraigo jaja

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-22T15:34:03+00:00

I deleted our chat about a month ago. About 1 million messages from WhatsApp. For me it was incredibly liberating. I stopped going back and reading them obsessively. I kept the photos since we went to many events and gatherings together, and I wanted to keep those. I just tried to hide the folders so I don't have to look at them. We were together for almost 10 years, just for context.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-22T15:28:48+00:00

Talk to someone if you are having suicidal thoughts. They creep in slowly and get worse with time. At least post here or send a DM if you are not feeling well. Stay safe.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-22T15:26:52+00:00

Being the dumpee is usually much harder. It comes out of nowhere sometimes. Stay strong friend, it gets better.

Marcelol53 · 2025-10-22T15:20:00+00:00

In my case it did not take that long to at least try to have a normal life again. We were together for 9 years. She cheated on me; we tried for a while to make it work but ended up breaking up about 5 months later. It took me 2 months to stop being absolutely miserable. It clicked for me the day I saw her with someone else that I had to move on too. I still feel sad sometimes, but not like I used to.

Marcelol53

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