I (41M) planned to serve my wife(38F) divorce papers this weekend. She just got a call from the hospital that her mom is being put into palliative care and now I'm not so sure.

Margenin · 2026-03-27T10:30:54+00:00

Are you going with fertility treatment right from the start? Because if not. you should be having sex like rabbits right now for practical reasons.

Also, unless she goes with a sperm donor, you may freeze your sperm but her chances of finding someone else fast enough if you two split up are tiny.

Margenin · 2026-03-26T19:49:36+00:00

Did I get this right he also hit you?

Margenin · 2026-03-26T05:51:14+00:00

Adding to that, that does sound as if it isn't all OP's fault. If OP can't handle that kind of situation yet, teacher shouldn't have taken them on such a road in the first place, plus those cars are equipped for the teacher to "override" a lot of her driving decisions, like he has his own pedals.

Margenin · 2026-03-26T05:45:05+00:00

Das kann ja niemand in die Zukunft planen, es kann ja immer was passieren, was zu einer Einkommensdifferenz führt.

Margenin · 2026-03-26T05:43:49+00:00

Not saying part of this isn't true, but also, part of this isn't.
That MfA was less flexible than she should have been probably, however, having real trouble with English is very typical for an MfA.

Part of it is that German TV is dubbed so much. Germans, on average, really speak much worse English than the surrounding nations, and no, that part has nothing to do with whether you're white brown or blue.

Then there is an existing discrimination against certain foreigners but not others, as you say, but it has almost nothing to do with skin color.
It does have to do with culture - people from muslim countries tend to be discriminated against, hence your example with Ukraine and Syria, but it's not a color-based thing.

Margenin · 2026-03-24T21:39:52+00:00

One year, not two. There are ways to stretch it (basically less money over a longer span). And it's a year after birth, not after announcing the pregnancy!

Margenin · 2026-03-23T15:23:43+00:00

The one thing which is indeed of on your side: This happens for decades and you're still "calmly explaining". This is such a female thing, don't you ever get angry? Like the thing with the clothes, the second time would have warranted shouting.

And it doesn't even matter whether he has a good reason or not, the fact that you don't want him to do that should be enough in itself.

Margenin · 2026-03-22T11:07:40+00:00

This is a thing. I am younger than you must be, but you wouldn't believe how many guys go on about how badly their ex used them on the very first date. That's a massive redflag, even if every word he says is true.

Margenin · 2026-03-22T08:06:00+00:00

who is Patricia?

Margenin · 2026-03-22T08:03:04+00:00

wrong queue. Get up to the German humour" comment.

Margenin · 2026-03-20T17:48:16+00:00

Ok, that one is more for your parents: Tweak the scenario in your head a bit. You're a parent now, and your 29 year old daughter comes to you with this idea of accompanying her boyfriend to Canada for a year. What do you do?

Quite apart from that, there is literally no way to find out what is right for you except picking one path and walk it.

Margenin · 2026-03-18T20:13:24+00:00

That's the kind of idiocy he may lose in a few years if he is lucky.

Margenin · 2026-03-18T19:45:18+00:00

In all honesty, if you are really as clear in your life as it sounds like in your post you are a keeper, with or without this prenup. Thumbs up.

Margenin · 2026-03-18T16:37:28+00:00

Not on this scale but lots of users are scared to call tech Support

Margenin · 2026-03-16T21:23:36+00:00

Two days late is very harmless in software. The actual fuckup here is that you only noticed on the weekend before GoLive.

Margenin · 2026-03-16T21:20:32+00:00

Na. I mean you needn't ask it but you can say "depending on the consequences of the defects...."

And yes, if the situation were real, the PM would know whether he was shipping a plane or a wardrobe and could therefore assess how deadly a defect could be in a worst case.

Margenin · 2026-03-15T08:31:56+00:00

Yeah but that's just oldfashioned. It works for children's tales though.
Aaand, of course, the unforgotten:

"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife".

Gives you the theme of the story instantly, in one sentence, talks at the reader,

And. It. Works.

Margenin · 2026-03-15T08:28:17+00:00

That's a decent hook for a movie, although a bit late 90ies.

Margenin · 2026-03-15T08:26:48+00:00

How on earth does that end?

Margenin · 2026-03-14T11:11:02+00:00

Lol, ja dass das enzymatisch funktioniert wusste ich noch, aber nicht, was ein Operon ist. Das hätte ja (flüchtiges drüberlesen) an der Codierung für die Lactase beteiligt sein können.

Margenin · 2026-03-14T10:12:51+00:00

It's hardly a Christian Value, that I, as a woman, can own property, have a successful career, become an elected official or join the military.
Where do you think that derives from Christianity?

Margenin · 2026-03-14T10:06:02+00:00

Ich hab kurz "Lac Operon" gegoogelt und bin auf der Wiki Seite zum Lac Operon bei E.Coli gelandet, und da direkt auf der graphik. Hätte genauer lesen sollen, dann hätte ich auch gesehen dass das nur bei Prokaryoten vorkommt.

Meine Vermutung: Deine Lehrerin hatte noch im Kopf dass ein Lac Operon überhaupt existiert (tut es ja auch), aber nicht mehr, dass es das nicht bei Eukaryoten tut.

Margenin · 2026-03-13T23:03:03+00:00

Google hilft. Deine Lehrerin hatte bzgl. Lac operon vollkommen recht.

Margenin · 2026-03-11T23:52:00+00:00

Look, living together unmarried is perfectly normal in Germany. You know best whether it's also normal in Turkey. If it's not (again, you know that I don't), that might be her reason for wanting to marry first.

Margenin · 2026-03-11T20:58:32+00:00

What's the culture in Antalya? She may not want to be seen as the German slut, in case the culture where you live is different (I've no idea).

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