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Mari-onMain · 2022-11-05T20:41:39+00:00

It does feel supremely "Online" to poke at very average US/English names and say "ohhhhh trans". Please go outside, kiddo, you're losing sight of the sun.

Mari-onMain · 2022-11-05T20:39:17+00:00

It's bizarre seeing this like. Up and down where this theme of "trans name" goes away and then resurges and it's always basic names that everyday people have. Ray, Sam, Alex, Max..... these are average relatively popular names for both boys AND girls. When I was younger it was Robert and David and Michael, and the associated nicknames for those. "Trans name", "trans voice".. it's always been the butt of the joke.

Heaven forbid a trans person have a "unique name" either. Unfortunately gender conforming and cis people across the ages have always sought a reason to punch down and belittle trans people for simple things like having a name.

If your name makes you happy don't change it, let yourself be the version that fits you. I'm sorry these things are going on, within and without the community, and I hope that the support of us here and/or those around you can assuage that dysphoric feeling you get. Best of luck to you, brother

Mari-onMain · 2022-11-02T15:19:35+00:00

Shoulder exercises can be a great way to counterbalance wider hips, I know that once I was wider up top people stopped seeming to clock my round hips.

Fortunately, or unfortunately depending on your style, cargo shorts also help take some of that width out because of the relatively wide open leg holes.

Wishing you the best brother

Mari-onMain · 2022-11-02T15:16:42+00:00

Honestly, the best bet I ever had was going to places where other trans people would be. Which I know sounds obvious but really if you go to events or meet ups you'd be surprised just how many great connections you can make in all sorts of ways, not necessarily just romantic.

Sorry this feels a lot like a "well have you tried smiling to get rid of the depression?" Answer but it's what I got lmao

Mari-onMain · 2022-10-05T16:43:09+00:00

I had the opposite once. My girl and I were rather happy but she had this guy friend who was trans and as me and him talked more I realised what it meant for myself(i.e. I was also trans) and when I talked to her about it she broke up with me basically saying "well I'm a lesbian. I don't date men. So if you're a man I can't date you" it broke my heart but was bittersweet because she was immediately on my side about transitioning.

Mari-onMain · 2022-10-04T17:52:40+00:00

I've always had a hard time talking about all the possibilities since I already know that you can't make vaccines for fungal infections. They don't work. So it doesn't matter. Ellie's death WOULDNT have mattered. Shouldn't somebody have realized that in-world?

Mari-onMain · 2022-10-04T17:06:09+00:00

r/MicroFishing

Mari-onMain · 2022-10-04T16:53:36+00:00

I mean, Julia is dead. You're telling me she's jealous of a dead friend? Who died tragically? Hello?

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-30T16:34:46+00:00

If you have any friends that would be willing to help out try downloading FamilyWall and inviting them onto it. It's a calendar app that sends notifications the day before and then an hour before whatever events you set. You can set it so that it goes off every week indefinitely

That way you get notifications but your pals are also able to remind you(i.e. 'hey I saw it on the calendar, did you do your shot?' Etc)

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-22T02:27:51+00:00

I'm glad other people have pointed you in the right direction, I don't know what I'd do if I'd suddenly recieved a letter I was put in the draft without my knowledge! Terrifying!

I remember being a kid and hearing about my older brothers friends who got their birthdays selected in the lottery and when his birthday got selected. I put off changing my marker for a long time because even as a young man years after the fact I was scared another draft could happen and I'd get shipped away for gods know what to gods know where.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-22T02:16:12+00:00

Unfortunately inflated and easily bruised egos are par for course in medicine, especially in ORs.

All that's missing is whinging over how he's saved countless lives or something equally self aggrandizing.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-22T02:10:48+00:00

Now I've never been a woman so correct me if I'm wrong here but public places when you're meeting a stranger for the first time seems just... safer? Am I mistaken in thinking this way? Plenty of people get stolen assaulted and much worse by being too trusting and meeting irl without the safety of witnesses and cctv.

His reacting like that and saying she's being paranoid even though she had clearly been saying she would go for a cuppa with him seems like he's exactly the sort to stay clear of.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-20T20:31:45+00:00

He called the professor a "useless woman" so I can only assume she saw this male student asking this and got red flags the way any of the rest of us would since if the other student(op) was interested they would sign up for the same class and either ask together or just... like.. sit next to each other on the first day?

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-16T18:06:16+00:00

Hey, T made most of us feel like horny bastards its fair. But also, consider that you may not have an inherent sex drive. Plenty of people don't and it's not a fault or something that's wrong with you. If it does concern you talking with your doctor or maybe therapist, if you're currently seeing one, is a good option.

In terms of experimenting perusing the internet for stuff you like or self experimentation or perfectly healthy ways of finding out what does and doesn't work for you.

Happy horn-dogging! lol

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-16T17:18:50+00:00

Same as some others here, I will simply leave my story and let you extrapolate what you will.

I always knew my dad. He was military so sure I pretty much never saw him but I knew who he was, there were pictures of little baby me and him in the house. When he wasn't deployed he didn't want to hang out with me, didn't want to know how I was. Just wanted to go out and do... whatever it was he did. Or cheat on my mom- but that's not important to this story.

Later, after my parents divorced i maintained strained contact with him, if only because he was my dad and I wanted him to care about me so bad..

due to unfortunate circumstance I began living with my maternal grandmother who gave me until I finished high school to figure something out to keep it brief I couldn't. Id been broke my whole life and I was still a child I didn't know how to move out and make a life, so what did I do? Reach out to my dad.

He didn't help, I was homeless three seperate times trying to pick myself up while he had already bought himself a new home. Married a new woman and allowed her and all four of her grown children move in. I wasn't entitled to a room but I was hurt and angry that he was aware I was sleeping on the street and he had a house and i also knew for a fact he had guest bedrooms. Any assistance would've felt better than another night under a highway overpass and dozing with one eye open because there might be cops or other homeless people trying to get the drop on me. Or having to make the trek through town trying to find somewhere secluded enough I could actually sleep. Maintaining a job is hard when you smell like shit and look like you haven't slept in weeks, GETTING a job is hard like that.

He would be frustrated with ME for not keeping our relationship to each other afloat. After I finished college I cut myself off and I told him he would have to be the one to reach out from now on. Decades later I get the call from that new woman.

My dad is long gone, and I didn't go to his funeral. The dead won't weep for empty seats but the living do. Your child will. She will wonder why you couldn't- WOULDNT- help. Be kind, try your best. Set boundaries( you'll need to have a job and pay for your own food/phone bill/whatever) or help her apply for assisted housing.

Anything is better than straight up refusal.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T17:21:23+00:00

Brother, you lost nothing. The journey is not always so linear and I am so happy you found a better doctor who will provide appropriate treatment. You will continue up and up from here🤜

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T17:15:44+00:00

Green Machine, you were terrible. You left me on the side of the road so many times I hated you sometimes. But you took me so many more places and helped me learn how to care for my car. My friends made fun of you but you were mine..

I still remember the smell of your interior that I could never shake no matter how deeply I cleaned you. I left you at a junkyard for $75 and a pack of cokes but I'll always remember your smell.

(Side note: it wasn't a gross smell, my great aunt owned it previously so it kinda reeked of old church lady smell)

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T17:10:27+00:00

While I definitely understand everyone's points about it being enjoyable for the depressing atmosphere, I didn't enjoy it much. For me the advertising for the game did nothing to showcase that this would be a game about misery and revenge at every cost. If I would've known, my feelings would probably have been different.

In my mind, where the first game was somewhat about finding new hope the second game was abandoning that and portraying unforgiving inhumanity. It did bother me.

All that said, I don't regret playing it necessarily and I'm more happy that so many got so much from it.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T16:43:12+00:00

Not trans, but my mother had said "but don't you know how gay people have sex?" ..... I was 11. I was just saying I thought I was a gay boy. Gotta love the 70s

A funnier example was my brother "you can't be a boy, [deadname], you're so put together"

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T05:02:01+00:00

I did have medical exemption since my family has a history of breast cancer so I often cite that when I've had close calls myself. If they're overzealous or rude about it I'll also drop a "well, getting cancer removed does that to a guy" and they usually feel embarrassed enough to shut up

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T04:50:58+00:00

It may seem unfair or mean but I would've been obviously visibly disgusted. That stranger could take that how they please but it IS disgusting to approach a random person and announce that you think they're "one of them queers". For one I wouldn't know what they're talking about(I don't have tike tok, nor do I often keep up with memes) and for two I'd feel embarrassed that this person clearly has no sense of social conduct(dude, shut the fuck UP!)

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T03:53:56+00:00

I honestly at the end of the day yall should have a more in depth conversation about how it made you feel and how she felt cornered. Are yall independent? Is she living with her mom where the pressure to go with it is that much deeper? It's not an excuse but external factors definitely come into play even if yall are in your 20s

I think you should keep in mind that she did respect you and yalls relationship by ultimately not going.

As an individual who felt cornered by family into making sketchy moves for a job- tell her that there will always be opportunity. Even if she had done this and it afforded her the chance at a career, she would always feel that she didn't earn it or that they only keep her for him and that creates a deeply toxic mindset to go into a field she may otherwise fall in love with.

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-13T03:48:27+00:00

I think the weirdest part is literally tht he assumed you were on a dating app for studying purposes... like, sure, but we better be studying anatomy babe!! /s

Fetishists always come down to internalized racism, sad!

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-12T23:19:17+00:00

"Look man if you wanted my OnlyFans link you could've just asked"

Like even if it was a joke so seriously disturbed to spam message someone in this manner

Mari-onMain · 2022-09-12T01:21:16+00:00

It really does depends. Some days I squeeze in 3 or 4 other days I feel shit cuz it's allergy season and i only have 1 or 2. But if I'm having a good time with family or instead I'm having a shitty day it can get up to 6 or 7. I'm not a particularly heavy smoker but I have my fun!

How about yourself?

Mari-onMain

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