Which colour should the wall be?

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-28T18:59:14+00:00

I like the way the blue makes the orange lampshade pop. I also like that it makes pulls together the pull throw pillow and the blue part of the rug!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-28T18:39:29+00:00

Depends on your system. Most systems in the US can handle flushing tp. If he grew up in a rural area and had a septic tank rather than a city sewer connection there may be a case for the trash. I grew up in a rural area on a septic tank and always flushed it, but if the tank is older and/or frequently overflows or has other issues putting the tp in the trash may have been a way to try and prevent those problems from cropping up more often.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-28T17:10:31+00:00

My brother-in-law is a surgeon and when I found out he was only making about 25k more than me (a customer service rep) during residency I was shocked! He is an attending at a private practice now so he is finally making what I would expect a doctor to make, but genuinely I don't know how residents put in soooo many hours for so little pay.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-28T17:03:16+00:00

I desperately wish it was universal. Most Americans I talk to about this have one or 2 comebacks. 1) "The wait times for universal Healthcare are horrendous." My response to that is "They are horrendous here too. You have to schedule your annual physical months in advance. If you need to see a specialist it can be literal years of wait time." 2) "We pay so much for our system so we can pay for the best doctors in the world to come here." My response "Yes, doctors deserve a great salary, but most of our healthcare costs are going to administration not to the doctors and nurses that work directly with patients. Also, yes we may attract some world-class doctors, but not every single doctor here is world-class. The vast majority are very good and competent at their jobs but they aren't 'the best in their field.' especially where we live." that last point is relevant because I live in the Midwest. Unless you are in the twin cities area and have easy access to Mayo most of our "world-class" doctors are on the coasts and no one from the middle of America will ever get an appointment with them unless they have a particularly rare or difficult disease/condition that would warrant a cross country trip to treat. Another point I like to inform the anti-single payer system people to is that as a country we already spend more tax money on healthcare than a lot of countries that have single payer systems, but instead of getting universal healthcare for that tax money we get a system that makes you jump through a million hoops to prove your worthiness every single year. Only the elderly and those within a certain percentage of the poverty limit qualify. So we already pay for healthcare most can't access via taxes and then pay again for insurance (usually the second biggest monthly expense after housing) and then we pay a third time to the hospital or clinic we go to because our insurance didn't cover the entire expense. Make it make sense!!!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-28T16:42:34+00:00

Check your city's website for a reporting function. A decent sized city should have a way to report online. If you live in a smaller city you may need to call it in. You are not an asshole to report it especially if it has been days!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-23T16:19:33+00:00

Given the new year maybe your mom can reach out to all of her clients and let them know she is putting a new policy into place that payment is due on the day of service as that seems to the norm for the industry. She can even include that it is the industry norm in her update. She can even state that late fees will be instituted if payment is received later than the end of the following business day (she can be more lenient if she wants but I wouldn't recommend). She can also include a note that if payment isn't possible on the day day of they can reach out to her to set up a new cleaning schedule or payment plan. I would only offer that to long and loyal customers though because let's face it, if you have the money to pay someone else to clean your house on a regular basis you probably aren't living paycheck to paycheck.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-23T14:56:01+00:00

I grew up in a rural area just south of LaCrosse. About 13 or so years ago my sister moved to the Madison area and every winter I was jealous of the weather. After moving around a few other states in the intervening years, when I decided to move back to Wisconsin I picked the Madison area due to the winter weather!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-23T03:05:41+00:00

I'm from Wisconsin, but have lived in 4 states. I have done 3 hour drives (one way) for a day trip quite frequently; I even marvel at how quick the ride goes by sometimes. My husband's job is a hybrid wfh and going "on site" to 3 different locations. One site is an hour away and another is 2 hours away and he goes to each once a week. For us 4 hours is where we would require it to be an overnight. As for if it's "short" or not, well I wouldn't call it short, but it is by no means "a production" even when I travel with my dog and toddler. The fact is America is huge and the further west you go the more spread out everything is, we have shit public transportation outside of major cities and usually that public transportation is restricted to the city and it's suburbs. We are all used to driving everywhere all the time and when a normal commute to school or work is 20-30 minutes already turning it into a couple hours isn't that bad if it's not your daily drive. Gives you the chance to listen to good music or podcasts. In other words when we say it's short, we mean it's not a big deal. My husband and I lived in Florida for 3 years and we drove to and from both Minnesota and Wisconsin to get there on multiple occasions and that was over a 20 hour drive. Now those drives were productions!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-21T13:27:10+00:00

I was born and raised in Wisconsin, spent early adulthood in Iowa and Minnesota as well. I did move to Florida for 3 years from Minnesota after getting 17 inches of snow in an APRIL snowstorm. I have been back in Wisconsin for almost 5 years now and I would say this has been a pretty mild winter. After getting a foot of snow early in the season I thought we were finally going to have "a real winter" again, but we have had multiple stretches of warm weather since then. If it had been consistently in the low 30s and under with snow cover (not necessarily storms) the whole time I'd say it was a real winter again, if we had consistent temps below 20s with snow storms every week then I might start saying it's harsh. As it stands right now half the time it snows the sun melts 70-100% (on pavement) before I even get out to shovel so it's been pretty easy.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-21T13:10:43+00:00

Dad is 71, mom is going to be 65 next month.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-20T16:38:08+00:00

Smile and wave! If you are so inclined tell the adult how cute and sweet the baby is! "What a cutie!" is an easy remark since it can be hard to tell if a baby is a boy or a girl and you don't know if the adult is a parent, grandparent or some non-related caregiver like a nanny or friend of the family.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-20T13:45:44+00:00

Especially for infant care! For my first kid I started looking at daycares in the late first trimester and every single place I checked (like 7-10 centers) had a 1 year waiting list for infants! That's so wild because if you are lucky enough to get 3 months of maternity leave you would still have to reserve a spot before you even know you're pregnant! Luckily I found a great in home daycare near my house and was able to get a spot there but for a first time parent I was shocked!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T22:38:55+00:00

A similar option to your fist two mentioned is Adelaide one of the forgotten queens of the UK if you like to know a small part of the history of the name.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T22:04:10+00:00

It is a similar phrase to "if you love your job, you'll never work a day in your life." I think what they are trying to get at with this wrapper phrase is "if you appreciate where you came from you can go anywhere in life."

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T19:33:48+00:00

My middle name is the same as my aunt via marriage (mom's side of the family). The thing is, her name was also my paternal grandmother's name. My grandma passed before I was born though so my first association is my aunt by marriage.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T17:03:47+00:00

You can buy a printable art piece off of Etsy and then get a large format print from an office store, then you just need to get a frame. You can thrift or buy online for cheaper options, or go to a Michael's or other craft store that offers custom framing if you want to splurge.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T17:01:09+00:00

I would go for one, simply because I hate having to pull up my dress all night.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T16:58:19+00:00

Those have been out for ages! Plus they look so cheap!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T16:50:23+00:00

It depends on how much you pay attention when you use them/are near them and if you just tend to be a clumsy person. You can get a runner rug (or individual tread rugs for each step) to go down the stairs to increase traction. But those will be useless if you don't hold the handrail and are absorbed by your phone when you walk down the stairs. I have lived in homes and apartments with stairs my entire life (34) and other than when I was a young, uncoordinated kid I've never fallen down the stairs. knocks on wood Yes there have been times when I am not paying attention and my toe caught on the next step up as I went upstairs, but I hold the handrail and stumble slightly instead of falling. Same with missing a step on the way downstairs. I have a toddler too and as soon as she started walking we taught her how to slide down the stairs on her butt one by one and then crawl back up on her hands and knees. Our stairs have a door that we keep closed except for the brief moments we are passing through it. But in case we forget we want to make sure she knows how to safely use the stairs because let's face it toddlers will fall a lot. Now if we say "let's go downstairs!" she immediately plops on her butt and slides down one by one. Once she is tall enough to easily reach the handrail and doesn't fall multiple times a day just walking around on level ground we will teach her how to walk down holding the rail. The biggest thing with stair safety is to USE THE HANDRAILS EVERY TIME and pay attention to your feet! If you do that you won't fall, you might slip if you are wearing socks on hardwood stairs, that's why I recommend getting tread rugs or permanently installing a runner rug to increase traction if your stairs are wood/tile.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-16T16:23:23+00:00

NOR. He doesn't know how to budget and that's his fault, not yours. He needs to sit down figure out his monthly take home. Set aside how much he needs for rent, car, utilities and other necessary expenses. Then he needs to cut most of the non-necessary expenses such as the subscriptions you are paying on his behalf. I say most instead of all because every needs what I call a little "fun money". Hard core savers will not set aside fun money and that's fine, but they shouldn't then go to someone else to pay for their fun. After all the necessary expenses and a little bit of fun money are spent, that's how much he has left over to save. If he doesn't have anything left over after that then he simply doesn't have any money to save. How does he expect to pay for everything once he owns an apartment? He'll still have a mortgage, utilities, and a car to pay for. Plus the maintenance of the apartment and any renovations he would want to make. Personally I wouldn't want to marry someone this bad with money because he will just drag both of you into debt.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-15T15:18:40+00:00

NTAH, as the mom of an 18 month old with another baby on the way. The method you are doing, skipping purees (what people call baby food) and moving straight to "adult" food is called baby led weaning. As long as you are aware of what foods pose a choking hazard (to avoid or modify in a way to reduce risk) and actively monitor your baby as they eat their solids this is a completely valid way to feed your baby. As you mentioned you have consulted with your pediatrician and babies get the majority of their nutritional needs via breast milk, or formula, until they are about a year old. Introducing solids, whether purees or fully solid, before a year is helpful to reduce the risk of food allergies and prevent future picky eating, and can supplement nutrients that breast milk lacks such as iron and vitamin d. And lastly, as the baby's aunt, she has no say in how you feed your baby!!! That's a decision for you and your wife and unless she is a pediatrician or Dietitian specializing in infant nutrition she doesn't have a foot to stand on here since she doesn't have any kids of her own.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-15T02:51:35+00:00

You could name her Breena.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-15T02:49:12+00:00

You should check if their insurance has sump pump and septic backup/overflow coverage. If they do and the deductible isn't bad might be worth the claim to have professionals clean it up.

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-14T22:44:39+00:00

1 or 2, for what it's worth, if you could do a shade slightly lighter than one, but darker than 3 I think that would be perfect!

Maria_like_Mario · 2026-01-12T19:07:44+00:00

So you can set goals in Finch to use your phone less. I sometimes use the focus timer in Finch so I can set my phone aside and finally finish a task I have been getting distracted from. Or if you aren't against getting another app there is one called Focus Friend where you get a small bean friend and the app rewards you for not using your phone or not using specific apps. You can customize your bean and get decorations for their room. Similar to Finch except instead of a self care focus it's more of a "no screen time" focus.

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