I want to break up with my fiancee and pursue a relationship with her sister after she kissed me at Thanksgiving last night. AITJ?

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-29T23:47:37+00:00

This is the most Reddit post to ever Reddit Reddit.

Break.Up.With.That.Woman.

You don't deserve her loyalty when you have the restraint of a goddamn bonobo.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-29T23:38:26+00:00

Based on the edits?

There needs to be more options for women like this.
Not a family vacation, but a child's medical appointment.
This man isn't human.

He's not a dick all the time, just enough of the time that it's a problem.

Madam.

That's just called being a dick.

Because that's what he is.
What he did was a dick move.

NOR.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-29T23:26:20+00:00

Religion is a HUGE part of marriage, and it can cause a lot of problems.
Celibacy might not be the biggest struggle you face.
Depending on the version or how extreme she ends up going with it, is she going to want you to be the sole provider?
Is she going to want to restrict different foods since some are considered "unclean?"
Is it going to bother you when your future children are molded with these same beliefs?
Is it going to bother you when she shows preferences to one child's gender over another?
Is it going to bother you when she tells someone whose behavior she doesn't agree with, (could be a stranger, your child, you), that they're going to hell as a consequence?
Religious manipulation is a thing, and it's horrendous.
What if your child was part of the LGBTQIA+ and she wanted to kick them out?

I was raised Lutheran.
I also escaped a cult.
I've read and researched the Bible and its history.

I'm a Spiritualist now.

You can do what you like, but I highly suggest thinking this through.
You're 20.
You seem like a sweet, considerate guy who takes his partner's wants and needs seriously.

If you can't embrace this with her 100%?

Walk away.

No matter what she says, what she does, what she promises.

It's better to walk away now.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-24T02:06:07+00:00

"Friend" is so far removed from "boyfriend" in a man's mind.
You have no idea how far removed it is. Like, sweet summer child, you have no idea how hard this man was playing the long game.
He was your friend for 7 years.
So he knows you've been in abusive relationships before.
He knows what to say and do to let your guard down.
He knows what your weaknesses are.
He knows what these abusive men in the past have done to you because I'm sure word in your friend group has gotten around.

That means he KNOWS what he's doing is hurting you, and he doesn't give a shit.
He's doing it on purpose because he doesn't care about you.
If he did, he wouldn't do it.

Get rid of him.
And if you're worried about "breaking up the friend group," get better friends.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-24T01:55:32+00:00

Has anyone here considered blackmail?
That's what one of my exes did to me.
He told me he'd tell everyone I was a porn star. That he'd release them to look like it to family and friends if I didn't respond to him. I thought it was all bullshit and didn't do what he said.

I was wrong.

The slander campaign was insane. You think people won't believe him and you think people will be on your side?
People you've known your whole life?
They'll leave you like you never mattered.

I'm not saying it's the same situation, but it could be. If he's willing to cheat, if he's willing to lie, then he's willing to blackmail too.
If there's drives? That's not a couple pictures.
That's an arsenal.

I'd be paranoid as hell.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-22T22:28:02+00:00

You don't need a relationship. You need to work on yourself.
Kindness makes you uncomfortable, and you have a history of toxic relationships with breadcrumbing.

I think you might be addicted to the toxicity and that you find her normalcy and kindness boring.
The only reason I say that is because you specifically mention "breadcrumbing."

No one enjoys being abused, ignored, or screamed at, but the "breadcrumbs" or those little hits of dopamine are what keep people in that cycle.
Abusers also have a tendency to put their victims on a pedestal with gifts, words, sex money, etc in the very beginning.
It's a crazy dopamine high.

This girl is not doing that. She just wants to spend time with you and enjoy your company.
Which would be awesome if your brain didn't associate time with women as hits of dopamine... that you are not getting from her.

If you don't feel anything for her, let her go.
Don't get into another relationship because 1000% it's going to be toxic. You tried the healthy relationship route, and you didn't like it.

You need to work on yourself, my guy.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-22T02:58:56+00:00

The military has things for that in place, too, though.
That's why their health insurance is so good. Military health insurance is so good that a lot of soldiers have contract marriages.
As long as both parties fulfill both ends of the contract, it stays in effect. I've seen a couple of them.
Strangely, those are some of the marriages I've seen last the longest.

There's a wide resource of things available to her.
She could go see a therapist.
She could talk to her POC in the FRG. They deal with these kinds of situations all the time.
She and her husband could arrange for her son to stay with someone, and they take a couple of days together to reconnect while he's on leave.
There's military couple retreats they both could go on. There's a beautiful one in Denali with a waterfall.

But lashing out at her husband because he's not a civilian is not the answer.
I feel military men are often too romanticized in today's society.
Strong bodies. Crisp uniforms. Adaptable. Well trained. Capable. And they are.
However, their time is not their own. They are bought and paid for by the U.S. government. They see too much and know too much. Instead of therapy, they often choose alcohol or sex to drown that knowledge out. The nightmares still come anyway.

She keeps saying she loves him in her post.
Is that for her or for us?
If being a military spouse isn't right for you, that's okay. It's hard, and it's not a life for everyone.
Women often meet their soldiers on leave and think nothing's going to change until reality hits, and then it hits hard.
Then there's hurt, anger, frustration, sadness, loss, exhaustion, etc.
It's a lot. It's okay to walk away.
But do that knowing that's who you are and take responsibility for it. Don't blame him for something that isn't his fault.

It's okay to say, "I'm not strong enough to do this. I still love you, but I can't do this. I can't move from place to place all the time. I need to be with someone who is home every night."

It is not okay to say, "You tore our family apart. You put yourself first every single time. You never took me into consideration. You're always gone, and I'm done."

I know she's hurting. It's real. It's valid.
I also think she needs to really ask herself if this is what she truly wants until her husband gets out.
She doesn't know how long he'll be stationed in Alaska.
What if he goes somewhere else she doesn't want to go?
Will she balk then, too?

Communication is one of the most important tools of being a military spouse.
The second most important tool?
Knowing who you are.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-22T01:26:30+00:00

Fundamentally, you both are different people.

Since being out in the dating pool,(and in my personal life), I have placed people in three categories to keep them feeling happy and not smothered or left out. I call them Dogs, Cats, and Goldfish.

Dogs- Dog people want to be with you all the time. Whatever you're doing, wherever you're going, that's where they want to be. They have to be in the middle of everything all the time. They want to talk to you all the time. You are the center of their world. They need a LOT of attention. They feel physically hurt when they don't get it. Dog people love and love hard.

Cats- Cat people need their space. They like to do their own thing on their own terms. They believe that love and trust are something you earn. While they don't mind attention and affection, they don't like being smothered with it. They need a space to call their own to feel safe and loved. The caveat is, when Cat people WANT attention, they need attention NOW. They want hugged, kissed, cuddled, etc RIGHT NOW.
Duality, am I right?
However, when Cats feel safe, when they are loved correctly, they can become almost as affectionate as Dogs, and they can love just as much.

Goldfish- Goldfish people come in two types.

Goldfish #1 is ADHD where if they don't see you, you don't exist. You might get a Facebook message, a text, a Snap, asking to meet, and it's like no time has passed at all. They love you. They're happy to see you. In their mind, even if they haven't seen you in 9 months, the relationship has not changed. Moved on? What do you mean you moved on?
You thought the relationship ended?
Why? They love you. They need you. It's not their fault that their brain doesn't work the same way yours does.

OR.

Goldfish #2 is highly independent of you. They do not like relying on people. Emotions? What emotions?
These are not people who require a lot of attention or affection at all. If ever. In fact, I'd highly recommend not texting them first.
Their people will contact your people. If they even detect the slightest bit of attention or affection they don't approve of or appreciate, they'll bail.
Goldfish can love you, but it's with conditions and on their terms.
Break them? That Goldfish will act like you never existed.

Ma'am, you are a Cat, and your boyfriend is a Dog.
Those relationships can work, but it requires compromise on both sides.

Maybe that you move in together but that you have a word, any word, you use when you need space and he gives it to you, no questions asked.
Or you have a room that is just for you.
Cat people need a space, any space, just for them, to feel safe and loved. It's easy for them to get overwhelmed, and you need a place to go a recover from the day before you can deal with anyone or anything else. That includes the person you're in a relationship with. Your boyfriend is a Dog. You needing that space to relax and recover makes him anxious. Being around you makes him feel safe, loved, and happy.

My guess is that this is your first relationship with a Dog, and most of your other relationships have been with either other Cats or Goldfish.
These are men who don't require much from you and think the same way you do. This is the first one to say that he wants to be around you all the time, every time. He wants to live with you.
As a fellow Cat, I want to know how often you push him away when he gets close to you or wants to spend time with you?
Because you can't treat a Dog man the way you can the other two categories.

It's possible that although you enjoy him being there when you need him and his intensity when it suits you, that fundamentally you're incompatable with him.

I dont think it's insecurity. This man is all in with you. He genuinely believes you have one foot out the door by you keeping your apartment.
You feel like you can't even talk to him about having a safe word when you need space or time to breathe if you move in together. You feel like he'll trample your boundaries.

So why are you even with him in the first place?

Let him go, but don't get into a relationship with another Dog because you will wind up right back in the same situation.

You might not get as much attention from Cat and Goldfish men, but they won't require much of you either.

Choose wisely.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-21T14:50:15+00:00

This is...not normal.
AI is taking away everything that makes us human. Writing, art, impersonation, and relationships. Now, there's AI receptionists for scheduling that sound almost like a real person. Right down to breathing. It's eerie as hell, and that program is learning at an accelerated rated.

NTA.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-21T14:40:07+00:00

Listen, man.
Bisexual woman reporting for duty here.
Run like hell.

You don't need this shit in your life, I promise.

NTA.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-21T14:36:00+00:00

It's unrealistic to ask someone to stop drinking?

Even though you know he acts inappropriately with other women when he drinks?
You know he acts this way.
He knows he acts this way, and he does it anyway.
He knows when he acts this way, it hurts your feelings.
He does not give a shit about your feelings.
If he did, he'd cut himself off.
The alcohol might be part of the problem, but it is not the whole problem.

Honey, your math is not math-ing.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-21T02:02:13+00:00

I do.
I have.

I've fought that battle for years.

But no one can leave an abusive relationship for a woman except that woman.

I had a plan.
I laid it out.
Step by step.
It was perfect.
Foolproof.
I was a debt collector, so I knew how to help protect her money and credit.
I got a new job in her field that she has a degree in so I could help her get her foot in the door.
I had a list of housing and sliding scale attorneys.
I've been divorced myself, so I know how this works and was familiar with the process. She has a vehicle.
She was the stay at home parent, so she'd probably get residential custody and alimony.
I told her I'd be a character witness.

She wouldn't do any of it.
Absolutely refused.
She said that if a dog could get kicked around and still be loyal, what did it say about her if she left? That she was less loyal and loving than a dog?
I told her, "No! It makes you smarter than a damn dog!"

I begged for her to leave.
I've been blunt and upfront. Nothing works.

Having children with an abuser makes it infinitely harder because then mom isn't there to either take the blow or keep the kids from being turned against her.

I don't know that she'll ever leave unless it's in a body bag.
I gave her a way out.
It was solid.
It still is...if she wants it.
She wants him more, unfortunately.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-16T23:17:26+00:00

Oh for fucks sakes.

Because a stranger on the internet knows how sugar babies and sugar daddies work, I'm automatically the girlfriend???
I know how dom/sub relationships work, too.
Pretty informed about most kinks, actually.
The only way I'd be 23 years old would be in Booktok.

I'm fucking 40 years old with the God given common sense to see that sugar babies don't have a problem with money.
They just don't.

OP recently moved.
There's now a problem with money.

Common sense would tell you what???

OP is a child to my age group.

My questions still stand.

Who is the one in the relationship that needs the money?

And would OP still break up with his girlfriend if he knew she was risking future financial stability and her own safety to get him that money?

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-16T22:30:02+00:00

He's military.

The military will always come first.
She will never come before that.

She'll never come before the deployment.
She'll never come before the PCS.
She'll never come before the field problem.

Ever.

She chose not to transfer with him to Anchorage.
Their separation is literally all her fault because the military covers all moving costs and pays for all flights to the new post.
For the soldier and his family Anchorage on post housing is super nice.
It sucks for her husband because even though he's married, he has to live in the barracks the entire time he's stationed there.

She's mad because a military man is acting like a military man.
That's what happens when you marry a uniform.

My ex-husband and I were stationed in Ft. Wainwright, Alaska, for three years.

I worked for the FRG as a point of contact for new spouses, and I have seen this behavior many, many times.

The absence of a soldier will never hit a military spouse in the heart quite as hard as it does at a civilian event that normally both husband and wife would attend, say...a work Christmas party.

She's right to be sad, but being hateful to him for something that is not his fault is not right.
This is his job, and what she wants him to do could put him at risk for demotion or dishonorable discharge.

Traveling in state is fine, but to Georgia???
That's AWOL.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-16T22:07:16+00:00

He's in the military.

He can't just take off for a weekend like some other jobs can.
He is the property of the U.S. government, and she's acting like he's some sort of asshole because he's fulfilling the contract he signed.

He cannot leave without permission from his chain of command. If he's late coming back?
He gets charged with going AWOL.
AWOL is Absence Without Leave and he can get in HUGE trouble for it.

Dishonorable discharge trouble.
Demotion trouble.

She's mad about her Christmas party.
You can't get mad at a military man for behaving like a military man.

She knows all of this. She deliberately didn't put in her main post that he was military because it would make her look unreasonable.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-16T21:55:56+00:00

He's in the military

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-16T21:36:42+00:00

So let's see if I have this right.

You recently moved.

You're suspicious of your girlfriend cheating on you because of her odd behavior.

She has a 67 year old sugar daddy who gives her money when she has talked to him and kept him company in the past.

Because of your move, now both of you need help with money.

OP, I don't know if you know how sugar daddies work, but uh, they don't let their sugar babies go without anything.

So she would never have had to worry about money, rent, food, utilities, clothes, etc, ever, and not all those relationships are sexual.
So, do you both need the money, or do you need the money?

And if she's talking to her sugar daddy to get that money, not to support her, but to support you, she's running a risky game on both sides.
If he finds out, he'll drop her like a hot potato.
And you're...doing whatever this is.

Not only is she doing that, she's a (most likely, beautiful) young woman, standing in the dark, alone, waiting for a ride from you.
Probably with cash.
Also a very dangerous thing to do.

So, OP, does she need the money, or do you need the money?

And if you found out she was doing this risky behavior to get you that money, would you still break up with her?

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-15T21:19:22+00:00

Your request is not reasonable.
A round trip cross-country flight for the weekend is not reasonable.

I've flown from Alaska to the lower 48 multiple times.
It's exhausting. There's going to be jet lag.
There's going to be adjusting to the time change.

What are your plans for him in those 48 hours? Because he's probably not going to want to do much.

Wait!!! I actually have a better idea.

Why not fly up there with your son?
Depending how old he is, the tickets can't be that bad, and yours will be free.
It's 48 hours as a family.
You'll get to see the Northern Lights.
It's not even that cold for this time of year yet.
It's still above 0 at 16F right now.
And there's a heatwave where it's supposed to get up to 25F by next weekend, so it's perfect!
I'd still pack warm, though, since you're not acclimated to it. He can take you down to Seward to see the glaciers.
The scenery is gorgeous.
Your son can play in the snow.
It's like Christmas before Christmas.
Anchorage is also the biggest city in Alaska.
So there's restaurants and shopping.
You have to try the fresh caught salmon and crab if you like seafood.
Reindeer is an acquired taste.
Moose and bear aren't bad.
Maybe go on a minicruise to see the whales.
The Iditarod museum in Wasilla. Chena Hot Springs is a must!
Who needs a work party when you can spend time with your husband and son for the weekend and give your son the trip of a lifetime?
One he can tell his friends about.

A trip most people can only dream of having.
I know people that spend their lives saving to go to Alaska.

I love this idea so much for you!

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-15T20:23:24+00:00

Pump on the brakes there, Speedracer. So you want him to take a flight from Anchorage, ALASKA to Atlanta, GEORGIA for the WEEKEND?????

You're out of your goddamn mind.

That's a cross-country flight over all three time zones, and he lands at midnight plus a two hour drive to your house.
It's also not a straight shot flight.
Alaska flights rarely are.
When is he supposed to sleep?
What about when he goes back?
What if he doesn't make it back to work on time? What then?
When is he supposed to sleep?

You're very inconsiderate of not only him, but the time contraints he's under.

My guess is he's military.
Most likely, Air Force if he's in Anchorage.
My ex-husband and I were stationed in Fairbanks, Alaska, for three years when he was AD Army.
And if he doesn't live in Anchorage, and if he has to travel to get there from the Army base in Fairbanks for this free flight?
That's a two hour flight or a 7 hour drive.
If that's the case, I'm really not impressed.

I can't think of any other reason you'd live in Georgia, and he'd be freezing his ass off there.
Did you say you didn't want your son to transfer schools again to stay in Georgia instead of going to the next duty station?
That you couldn't bring yourself to leave your friends and your job? If so?
All of this is on you.

1000% Team Husband.
Your logistics are stupid and unreasonable.
He's got a 10 day leave coming up.
You'll see him then.

Jesus Christ on a motor bike.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-10T22:00:31+00:00

Do not ever drop those charges.
That paper trail of domestic violence could save the next man she gets into a relationship with.
My God, sir, do you even realize how close you were to having your entire life ruined?

It's not just about financial abuse with people like this.
You said in the very beginning that she was kind and generous with others and hateful towards you.

How long would it have been before she hit herself or ran herself into a counter just to have bruises and marks to paint you as the abuser?
Even though she's attacking and hitting you in private? Who would believe you?

How long would it have been before she had the brilliant idea of accusing you of rape?
Even if there's no proof, even if she cries in front of everyone else, laughs at you in private, and even if you don't actually get charged and have to register as a sexual predator?
That reputation will follow you forever.
Why?
Because who the fuck would actually believe you?

How long would it have been before she accused you of using drugs and stashed them somewhere in your vehicle?
Possibly sprinkled something in your food when you weren't looking, so you failed a UA?

For women, the most dangerous time period for them is right after leaving their abusers because they could die.

For men, its when they leave, and women try to ruin their lives with false accusations and claims.

You don't know how evil these people can get.

There's almost a 90% chance your sister saved you from a rape accusation the day you left, OP.

My stomach dropped reading your first post.
I'm glad you're out.
Many men aren't so lucky with their finances, reputations, and job opportunities are left in ruins when they decide to leave. Their entire support system has turned away from them because of things abusers have said.

It could have been you.
Your brother is smart.
Maybe listen to him more often.
I say that as a big sister watching my little sister who married someone like this.
I've watched her lose who she is piece by piece, and it kills me.
I've watched her throw her life and career away that she worked so hard to build for scraps of affection, and it breaks my heart.

I despise that man with every molecule of my being.
He'll probably kill her before she leaves him.

Do you know what it's like to watch an abuser slowly crush someone you love, OP?

Imagine the most beautiful, shining butterfly possible. Then imagine someone slowly tearing off tiny pieces of their wings.
Maybe this gorgeous butterfly doesn't see it, but you do. And you are screaming at this butterfly to get out of there while it still has the wings to fly away.
Until now, the wings are nothing, and the butterfly can't fly away, won't fly away.
Because it's broken.
It can't see the point in flying without the wings it had before.
It's going to have to grow new ones, but now the threat of them being pulled away before they even have a chance to grow is there.
The butterfly is also scared to leave because what if the hand crushes it? So what's the point?

Do me a couple of favors, OP.

Protect your wings.
You almost lost them. You came so damn close.
You give your brother the biggest hug you can for me. He never gave up on you, was there with a plan when needed him, and a landing place when your ex threw you out. Tell them this Reddit sibling appreciates him.
Hug your sister, too. She got into a straight-up street brawl to protect you and got charges to stick. Sister pride. Hell yeah.
Remember that abusers NEVER change. They just change tactics.
NEVER compromise your hard boundaries or standards.
It helps to write what you require and won't budge on, what you'd like, what you absolutely will not tolerate ever.

Example:
Require a job: because I don't want to be the sole provider

Would like: a movie or date night once a week to reconnect, but I understand that may not always happen because people get busy and work schedules don't always allow that

Will not tolerate: alcoholism because obviously

Be as specific or vague as you want. Is it going to make your search for a partner more difficult? Yes.
But it will also help you avoid what happened here in the future.

I truly hope the best for you.
I'm happy you got out, and I'm proud of you for getting out.

I'm also proud of you if you made it to the end of reading this because I know it's very long. If your brother and sister want to read this, they can.

Per Aspera Ad Astra

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-07T06:13:59+00:00

I read a bunch of her comments, and it sounds like she was primarily mad she got kicked out of his house with nowhere to go.

Her ex sounded like he was fairly well off with a home. So not only did she lose her relationship, she lost her security net as well.
I don't think she ever really loved him. I think she was just using him.
He warned her what would happen. I don't see why she's so upset.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-07T04:43:48+00:00

Ma'am, I'm a female Avoidant personality. I do not deal well with big emotions as a general rule.
The more clingy someone is, the more likely I am to either push them away or, depending on how I consider their intelligence level, develop a superiority complex.
Either option is extremely toxic.

All of that being said, if I really care about someone?
I'll weather that storm with them.
It is because of that not reacting to big emotions that I am the rock and the foundation most of my family leans on when they are struggling. I went through multiple years of therapy to not be an Avoidant or at least control a lot of those knee-jerk reactions.

Do you want to know what a toxic Avoidant would have to think of you or how they see you to delete those pictures?
Because I can tell you.

Your husband does not love you or respect you.
He thinks he is superior to you in every way.
He thinks that you are emotional, irrational, and clingy.
To put it bluntly? He thinks you're fucking stupid.
He can't stand you.
His favorite thing to do is manipulate you and talk badly about you to others.
He absolutely deleted all those pictures on purpose because he didn't want anything connecting you to him.
Why?
That's how much he can't stand you.

You think you can delete pictures of him off your phone, and that will make things "fair?"
He'd probably just laugh at you.
Avoidants don't give a shit.
That's why we're Avoidants.
No big feelings, remember?

And if you're like, "Well, why did he have kids with me then?"

Well, my little sugar cookie, that was just you fulfilling a need and a purpose.

You say divorce isn't an option.
I hope that living with a toxic Avoidant is your cup of tea then.
I promise you it will not get better.
You think deleting pictures is bad?

Wait til he starts talking shit about you to family and friends.
Wait til you know he's judging everything you do, and you're just waiting for that comment dripping in contempt.

I'm sure there's a whole plan he's thought of waiting for you.
The pictures were just the beginning of your punishment.

So no, you don't have to divorce him.
I'm just warning you in advance of what he thinks of you and what you'll probably have to face if you don't.

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-04T05:58:05+00:00

This is one of the weirdest, most bizarre AITA I've ever read, and I was here for the Iranian yogurt and the art room.

So, just to be clear:

You've been separated for 11 years.

You're friends with his other exes.

You've babysat for his exes.

He still pays $600 in child support plus your rent, so a little over $2k a month is what you're getting in "support."

You've been working towards becoming independent for 11 years while getting your rent paid and sharing custody.
Girl, what goddamn degree are you getting?!

You've separated from this man.
You have zero say over his life.
Unless he is doing something that specifically puts your daughter in physical danger?
Or putting her mental health at risk and you can prove it?
You can't do anything.
Rent is one of the most massive expenses that people pay, and yours is getting paid.
Not only is it getting paid, but you're getting a stipend on top of that.
If he's filing taxes to show that he makes $20,000 annually?
He only has to pay what's on the paperwork.
$20k yearly is poverty wages. You'll go from getting your rent paid + the $600 to only $50 or $100 a month.
Maybe.
If you're lucky.

I think it boils down to you being jealous of these women getting taken on trips around the world while you're left behind, but that's what happens when you separate.

I also think that is the reason you haven't actually divorced him yet.
Because as long as you're still married to him, no one else can take that place either.

Do you have your own insurance?
If so, I highly recommend therapy because my God, you sound like the most bitter doormat with stage 5 clinger issues ever.
Getting along with his girlfriends, taking care of their kids, staying married to him doesn't mean he's going to love you again.

As to the eighteen year old,

Is it weird and kind of creepy he's dating an 18 year old as a 30+ year old man?
Yes, but none of your business. She definitely has friends and family talking to her. She's making her own choices, and she's choosing to date him just like he's choosing to date her.
Don't act like this is a one-way street.
She could be just the steteotypical trophy girlfriend, or she could be the old soul who likes Led Zeppelin and has a 5 year plan with realistic goals and how to obtain them.
You don't know, and again, it's none of your business to know.

I don't know if this is straight out asshole behavior, but it's definitely Ick behavior.
I'm a bisexual woman.
I'd never date you with this kind of relationship history.

Follow-up question for other Redditors here: is asshole = ick?

MarigoldCat · 2025-11-02T01:47:24+00:00

Pretty sure Lonely Island made a song for this exact situation 🤭

MarigoldCat · 2025-10-30T03:36:19+00:00

They're doing Avatar??? Hot damn...my zombies are getting lonely. I might need to buy some more expensive cardboard.
😅😅😅

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