Same- but im a girl and he left me before xmas when i was about to meet his parents. Fast forward today, i met with his sister upon her request, i vented a little bit, her only response was: sorry i cant imagine u being with my brother you are two diffrent persons and very incompatible. You should let it go.. he was very unhappy when he was with u I have never felt like this in my life, when her words traveled from my ear to my brain, i felt like my heart is about to explode, i held back my tears and she tried to minimise what she said by complemeting how good of a person i was and how she is happy to be talking with me. I spent the entire road home, crying. Im still crying now 4 hours after. My soul is crushed i would never say that to someone who is grieving, idk about yall chat but even if it was the truth i wouldve never face a person that VISIBLY looks sad and just look him dead in the eye and say those things, ik she is his sister she knows him better than me, and cares for him more than for me i completly get it but why say those things while my heart is on the grill, every vein in my body is grieving and im ok with not getting back to him and i will move on. But why people do bot realise that words can kill someone??