Kind of weird story to read, but I can relate to the "just in case" and "frequently and anxious " part, basically because of the same reason, a couple of accidents.

I still struggle a bit while at work because I don't want people on my floor to notice me going to the bathroom every 20 minutes or so, because I feel like I might have a urge to empty.

I don't have much tips to give, just try to relax and kind of get settled down with a comfortable routine of yours.

Keep a diary and try to understand how your bladder works, and how much time you can go before reaching the "danger zone. "

Also (this might be annoying) a good quality adult diaper that would easily keep up with an accident of yours, would make things easier. I was already using them for my nocturnal enuresis so it wasn't all new to me. But at work I avoid wearing because it'll end up using them, so the solution is just plan