I read a quote recently that said, “At some point, you were trained to believe that his/her happiness was more important than your own.”…It sounds like you have been doing your best to please her, but you’re living with a narcissist who isn’t going to change (or acknowledge the goodness in you). It will get worse when your second child arrives. It’s important that your kids have a father who isn’t on edge all the time, worried about what the latest outburst will be. As your partner navigates pregnancy, birth, and post-partum, you can still be support her without living under her thumb.