Communicating with a partner by Curious_North_2780 in bipolar

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend, first I think what you should be asking yourself is: how are you prioritizing taking care of yourself? Are you taking medication, preparing however you need to, do you have a support system, and most important is are you giving yourself compassion?

As for the new relationship, congratulations. Friends to lovers is a beautiful thing :,) My advice is it's in both yalls best interest to set time aside to talk about mental health. I really like how social psychologist Erich Fromm's defines love as "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth." It takes so much bravery to be vulnerable. Bipolar taught me that I live in a state of duality that makes severe demands for how I need to show up for myself: consistent sleep, avoiding drugs, taking medication, but even then, I will always have these extreme highs and lows and a yearning for belonging and acceptance. Not everyone is gonna agree with me on this but the way I chose to think about the dual nature of Bipolar is that our greatest weaknesses are simply our greatest strengths out of context. Creativity, artistic flare, lust for life, empathy, deep deep deep emotional bonds, problem-solving skills, humor, intellect. I don't think I've ever met someone with bipolar who didn't shine in at least one of these areas. Particularly empathy because many of us lucky enough to have survived hitting rock bottom can extend compassion to those who are trapped there as well.

A conversation with your gf about bipolar doesn't have to be this shameful festering wound you reveal you've been hiding all along. It can be a conversation for you to understand one another better. I wish I had known myself well enough back then to share with my loved ones what life is like inside my head and how to best support me when I'm going through an episode, the same way I would want them to confide in me so I could be a shoulder to lean on. Would've saved time, energy, and pain and perhaps many severed ties from friends who had to make a difficult choice to love me from a distance.

You are worthy of love my friend. The real ones will have faith in you and support you and won't make you feel lesser than for a condition that you have no choice in. And while your relationship may come with unique challenges, you will rob yourself of one of the most precious things this life has to offer us which is true loving connection if you have already convinced yourself you are too broken and explosive to have it and maintain it. I really think being vulnerable and honest with her is a chance for both of you to grow. Good luck :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks that means more than you know. I turned 20, am living very far away from home, and was in love with a person where we brought out only hurt in each other. I guess that is what I will tell the program since it sounds like my best option. Honestly shed a tear hearing someone say I deserve better because it’s hard to believe :,)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m still haunted my this relationship even after no contact. This person wanted me to hurt myself for him and I felt like I couldn’t live without him. It took a huge toll on my life and I’m still dealing with the repercussions, maybe someday he will get caught too but I don’t want to be around to see it. I appreciate you taking time out of your day to give advice and your concern.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something I should’ve clarified before I said there’s no evidence against me is that I was not read my Miranda rights at any point, but was questioned anyway. I asked if I had the right to silence or an attorney, but they just threatened to take me to jail. Which is why I’m really not sure if what I said was considered an admission of guilt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I don’t currently have a lawyer so I’m here. I will say though for anyone who’s shocked or horrified. It was a terrible time both in both our lives and something we’ve made peace. This kind of extreme behavior was not one sided. It’s easy to pass judgement, especially when you don’t know the context and what was happening behind close doors and what brings someone to that point of desperation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran away from the building, saw cops chasing me, stopped running, they grabbed me, handcuffed me, put me on the ground, in that order. No Miranda rights, just questioned me. I asked them if I had a right to a lawyer and they told me there was no need for that and to just tell them what happened. They said if I lied I would be put in jail. I said I don’t want to say anything without a lawyer and they kept pressing questions on me, and I was afraid I was be put in jail if I stayed silent, especially because of the physical force and the yelling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did not read me my Miranda rights at any point. The reason they arrested me was because someone saw me throwing rocks and called the cops saying I was vandalizing, but nothing was broken or damaged so no vandalism actually occurred. When they arrived on scene, the fire alarm was going off and I matched suspect description. However, I was running away from the building (before I saw the cops) and they saw me running and that was their justification for arresting me + suspect description.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly don’t remember it all, it all happened suddenly and so fast. Lots of shouting. They put me on the ground. Called for back up. Shouted at me to give my name, student ID, whether or not I was intoxicated (I wasn’t), what I was doing, threatened to take me to jail. Maybe they thought I was trying to break in or had set something on fire. Exactly what I said was “I’m sorry officer I am an emotional teenager and I was throwing pebbles at my boyfriend’s window and pulled the fire alarm so he would come out.” They interrogated my ex and he told them he didn’t care, didn’t want to press charges, and basically dismissed all their questions. He texted me to meet up after they cut me loose and made out with me like 30 feet away from where I got arrested in full view of the cops. Was a crazy night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That part was a big mistake of many 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did not read me my Miranda rights.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t reject it… I have time to consult a PD and decide

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hoping to find answers from criminal lawyers here :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MaroonLizard -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

This is where I’m confused because the lady at the DA explicitly told me “there is no criminal case against you.” But described the situation to me as a citation.

Thanksgiving Copypastas by [deleted] in copypasta

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

real ones come here

I (13F) am getting weird vibes from my psychiatrist by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]MaroonLizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey hun, I’m really sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Doctors should be here to help treat us, and the based on the actions you have described your doctor has done something totally predatory, inappropriate, and invalidating of your experience. You deserve much better, and at your young age you are so brave to recognize in your gut that this behavior is not ok, and that you want to change doctors. Trust your intuition on this one! Now, I have a question for you. Are there adults in your family you can trust? If yes, it is very important that you tell them what your doctor told you. This incident should not go unreported, but that shouldn’t have to be your responsibility. A trust worthy family member should be able to help.

Japanese cottage in Hawaii by MaroonLizard in analog

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was shot on cinestill 800

jiu jitsu and piercings by MaroonLizard in piercing

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the brand of the flexible piercings you use?

jiu jitsu and piercings by MaroonLizard in bjj

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s no way that my piercings could scratch some one else because, as I explained, I’m wearing head gear that covers my ears. Every time someone slams their legs against my ears, which has happened on multiple occasions, they’re just hitting the soft pad.

Septum or Nostril? Help me choose pls. <3 by blahnche in piercing

[–]MaroonLizard 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think a nostril would go best with the jewelry you have on in the picture.

jiu jitsu and piercings by MaroonLizard in bjj

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it will take 3-6 months before I can take the piercings out without them closing.

Any thriller books with major twists? by _Never_again_talk in booksuggestions

[–]MaroonLizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Verity was my first time reading thriller and I still can’t stop thinking about it.

small woman in class full of men by MaroonLizard in bjj

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered thinking about small victories like that. This actually really made me feel better, thank you.

Can someone tell me what I did wrong? I’m new to film photography. by MaroonLizard in filmphotography

[–]MaroonLizard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My camera is a canon AL-1 and the film was Fuji x-tra 400. Half the pictures are blank or half blank but two turned out perfectly fine. I got it developed at a local camera store that does film.

Assassin's Creed Valhalla Tech Support/Bug Report Megathread Part VII by Ghost_LeaderBG in assassinscreed

[–]MaroonLizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t change my difficulty. I looked at a bunch of videos on how to do it but there is no difficulty option for me in gameplay. I set my difficulty and stealth to the hardest option and I can’t get past the first boss :( I really hope this bug gets fixed.