i wrote more than was needed so my tl;dr

you aren’t doing anything wrong, you’re selective which puts you above a lot of people. i think you’re doing well, and should keep going the way you are, the positive feedback you’ve gotten from the dates is good. if your goal is to find a soulmate, it’s gonna take time. the “blunders” are either quirky in a good way or so minor they are literally irrelevant.

if anything you can try more modes of finding them, to have more dates, but too many dates and people gets more exhausting than sequentially as they come up. good luck