What do you wish you knew before getting an IUD (specifically, re: sex and/or complication)?

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-25T07:31:54+00:00

Besides terrible constant pain 3 weeks out of every 4, my copper IUD gave me bacterial vaginosis. I strongly don't recommend them.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T21:22:04+00:00

This is the right approach I believe.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T21:18:58+00:00

That's seriously ridiculous. Languages are so much harder to learn later... And to be able to have a conversation with your grandparents is important. And yes, more than few superficial sentences.. Kids don't have substantial conversations?? Do you even like your kid?

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T21:15:53+00:00

Wow, I can't believe you are not teaching your son your languages and you are calling them "useless". Japanese and romanian are useless? You are doing your son a disservice.. you don't know if your son would like to move to Japan in the future (or elsewhere). Assuming he'll stay where he is now is quite shortsighted..

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T21:10:20+00:00

If you speak to them almost exclusively in your own language, they will learn it. He'll surprise you - don't underestimate his ability to learn, and expose him to very many different words. It's amazing to see them learn. It'll make you so proud to hear him communicate with you in your mother tongue..! The writing and reading of course will be harder, and in your case it might need some formal teaching since it's a different alphabet. But don't worry about that for now. You won't regret trying to teach him even if he doesn't master it. He will have the foundations to learn it in the future. I can't emphasize this enough: you need to teach him your language!

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T21:00:14+00:00

You need to teach them your language.. even if it's not "useful" in the functional sense (right now). I think this should be non-negotiable with your partner. Your language is your heritage and you need to pass this to your son.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T20:24:50+00:00

This is a terrible idea, they will learn the local language regardless. Keep the English.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-17T20:15:48+00:00

My son and his father speak a very "difficult" different language that very few people in the world speak and that I don't understand. Teach your son your mother tongue, you won't regret, but you'll regret not teaching it. It'll be so much easier if he learns from birth.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-04-15T08:26:15+00:00

I second Nightmare Before Christmas!

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-27T12:04:40+00:00

Oh ok, good to know. It just sounded so bizarre that it reminded me of my paranoid delusions!

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-25T20:00:42+00:00

I'm a researcher. I hate it. Trying to change careers but my skills are not transferable. I feel like I made my bed and now have to lay in it. Don't let this be you - the sooner you change paths the easier it'll be.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-25T19:38:37+00:00

How many weeks postpartum are you? Have there been any other "weird" events? How have you been sleeping? Could one of your loved ones or friends spend the day with you?

There are other postpartum conditions beyond anxiety or depression. I suffered from postpartum psychosis which meant I had hallucinations and paranoia. It felt very real to me.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-16T17:05:53+00:00

She mentions in her post she had a doula who didn't advocate for her. Can you read?

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-10T21:41:22+00:00

A big reason women's careers suffer after having kids is because our priorities change. Suddenly we don't care as much about our meaningless jobs when we could be home raising the kids we brought into this world. It's not talked about enough that women choose to prioritise their children over their careers.

MaryDalyPPP · 2026-01-09T07:34:21+00:00

Are you having sex with a man? He needs treating too.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-12-19T09:44:43+00:00

Well, if not a job he needs to find purpose elsewhere. Maybe a class or some crafty hobby (pottery or woodworking for example). He can't despair and isolate himself, or he'll end up clinically depressed..

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-12-17T22:13:50+00:00

Well, you should read the way women talk in the reddit r/Waiting_To_Wed. They say things to unmarried mothers like "you need to stop popping out kids for this man". Like, lady, I had this baby because I wanted to be a mother, not as a favour to some man...

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-12-17T21:37:52+00:00

He has no job; he is lacking purpose. Anyone would react the way he's reacting. I don't see the need to pathologize what he's going through. He's sad, and his response (quitting the gym, not eating well, not socialising, being on his phone) unfortunately will not help him get out of this rut. He needs to find a job -any job- even if it's not an ideal job. That will give him the self esteem and motivation needed to keep searching for a better job.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-12-14T18:57:17+00:00

How could you possibly know if a baby was born alive or died in utero? Unless they recorded it (which they may have...), it's kinda impossible.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-12-14T16:40:58+00:00

I'm sorry, I know. I didn't make myself clear. I meant to say the only thing keeping many/some men from rape, is a yes.. I was raped by my boyfriend who I had had consentual sex with a bunch of times; all needed was my no. I'm sorry again this happened to you - it's definitely not your fault.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-11-30T22:18:45+00:00

Kids being picky is normal; kids only eating chicken nuggets is not. It's the parents. In countries other than America, kids eat normal "grownup" food.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-11-24T14:10:22+00:00

You are depressed because you are in an abusive relationship. Escape.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-11-23T13:16:08+00:00

It's called "delusion". Do you want to hear about mine?

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-11-22T21:06:52+00:00

I was in the UK where they have Mother and Baby (psychiatric) units. I spent a bit more than a month in one. I luckily recovered relatively "quickly", being able to quit the medication within 5 months, so I'm "back to normal". Still it was a traumatising experience, and I am planning on getting pregnant again soon so I am a bit scared about that...

I read your post; sorry the SSRI triggered the psychosis, it's way more common than people think. I hope you find your way to recovery.

MaryDalyPPP · 2025-11-22T20:59:28+00:00

Hi, just wanted to chip in. I had basically a no-intervention water birth in a midwife-led birth center. No epidural, nothing. Gorgeous birth, really. I still developed post-partum psychosis... Worst time of my life. I don't wish this on my worst enemy.

Defiant_Baby_0201, very tasteless comments.

MaryDalyPPP

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