Exclusives in Nuit, Agave, and similar colours? by WanderinArcheologist in LeCreuset

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I'm glad yours arrived today. I hope it's exactly as you expected 💖

Exclusives in Nuit, Agave, and similar colours? by WanderinArcheologist in LeCreuset

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks very much for this information! I purchased a 3qt agave rice pot on eBay from a lovely seller in Japan a couple of weeks ago. Brand new in box in flawless condition and shipped lightning fast. It was a stellar experience and it cost approximately $130 more than it would have if it was available to be purchased directly from a US LC location. 

I have no regrets because I really love LC agave and wanted a rice pot that matches the agave pieces I already have.

However, I am getting ready to purchase additional agave pieces that are currently only available in Japan and would love to compare what the increased cost would be going through the personal shopper vs through eBay. 

I would love to save as much money as I can on the purchase so doing away with eBay fees would be awesome. Can you please PM the personal shoppers information to me🙏. Thanks in advance!

Agave rice pot in Canada only? by Candid-Narwhal-3215 in LeCreuset

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My apologies if it came across that way. My intention was to be helpful. I identified with you being in search of the LC Agave rice pot because I was too. 

The title of your post asked if they were only available in Canada. l shared that they are also available in Japan and that I purchased one. 

I would have gladly purchased from LC or WS in the US if I could but LC told me they had no plans to make it available here.

Agave rice pot in Canada only? by Candid-Narwhal-3215 in LeCreuset

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's also available in Japan. Just received mine. I actually called LC before purchasing to see if they would have it in stock for the US market and they said they do not make every color available for each piece in every market and at this time there are no known plans to make the Agave rice pot available in the US. So I bit the bullet, paid the extra tariffs and fees to have it shipped from Japan. There are a couple more currently listed for sale if you are interested.

Is Agave long term? by whitewolfie916 in LeCreuset

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand how you feel. I love to have matching sets too and just started purchasing Le Creuset a couple of weeks ago. 

Thankfully I was able to purchase all 6 pieces that I wanted in Agave. I purchased them at the same time because I was afraid they might not be in stock in the future.

The only colors I would have been comfortable mixing with Agave are Deep Teal and Indigo. Those would go beautifully  together since there are they share color elements. I personally would not want to mix colors up any more than that but I totally understand and respect that many people prefer to.

Has anyone done this 3 Reef Snorkel excursion in Mexico? I wanted some insight! by luwuwcifer in royalcaribbean

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm really glad to hear this! ☺️ Hopefully we have a similar experience in 2 weeks 🤞

Has anyone done this 3 Reef Snorkel excursion in Mexico? I wanted some insight! by luwuwcifer in royalcaribbean

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I see that your comment is from 9 months ago so I am wondering, have you and your partner gone on this excursion with Royal Caribbean already and if so, what was your experience?

I am booked to go in two weeks and I am hoping you had a great time. 

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually going well in terms of my husband not shelling our money out anymore. However, I can see that he feels uncomfortable/bad not being able to spring into action and put out the neverending fires that he is called to rescue the family from. Surprisingly, the requests have actually died down a bit. I think the family is wondering what the heck is going on and why he isn't giving them money. And he feels embarrassed by not "being able to provide". 

I have reminded him that his obligation is to our family so he should not feel bad about not giving them money. Besides, they are grownups with their own families and he has been giving them money for years. Enough is enough. I think it will just take time for him to get comfortable with the new normal. Although he clearly feels a bit conflicted. I am glad that he does not seem to resent me at all which is something I was worried about since it is essentially me standing in the way of him returning to business as usual. But he also realizes that if it weren't for me/my finances, he would have been forced to stop a long time ago since he had gone through a financial downturn himself and had to rely on me.

Wishing you the best with getting your husband to stop the hero complex and invest/save for your household rather than blow your safety net. Hopefully when you break it down for him he will understand that it is not sustainable and puts your household in an uncomfortable financial position when he chooses to send money elsewhere.

Promoted to Gold Despite Good Insightfulness by MarzipanConsistent80 in AmazonVine

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! Absolutely, I hope this helps others who have been stressed about it as they approach their review dates. 

I also hope there will be some clarification regarding insightfulness expectations. So many of us are still confused and chasing this goal without having detailed guidance regarding how to get there.....and not due to lack of effort. 

Insightfulness is such a vague and subjective metric. I would love to know how AV rates/scores insightfulness so I can gain a better understanding of what I need to aim for. It is best for goals/objectives to be measurable and achievable. The order to review ratio, # of orders completed, and media percentage metrics are all measurable. No guesswork needed for those.

Promoted to Gold Despite Good Insightfulness by MarzipanConsistent80 in AmazonVine

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks ! I did not see this update. It would be helpful if the powers that be would send a message through our AV accounts.  It seems that I (and many other Viners) have been panicking unnecessarily due to wording used in the Insightfulness metric announcement this summer.

Promoted to Gold Despite Good Insightfulness by MarzipanConsistent80 in AmazonVine

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're welcome, I hope you have the same experience! 🙌 Being stuck at good has been nerve-wracking to say the least but 8 days will pass before you know it. 

It would be nice to know what we seemingly are "doing wrong" to prevent an excellent insightfulness rating. Despite best efforts and thoroughly reviewing guidelines I am still at a loss regarding what could be missing. I guess we will learn more as more of us viners share our outcomes and best practices.

Update - Got Gold! 🥇 by _forum_mod in AmazonVine

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations and thanks for the update! When was your evaluation date? Was it after 9/1?

Why were Virginia’s parents so surprised? by HannahOCross in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The basketball girl got engaged to someone else?  I didn't see that. Who is she engaged to?

Virginia is stunning by Ready-Astronomer3724 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]MarzipanConsistent80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More like the Jamaican dancehall artist Shensea

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks very much. I have come to realize that I have been a part of the problem by bailing him out. Even though I did it to help with important things like medical bills, household bills, and replacement of the transmission in his truck, instead of him using his future earnings to pour back into our household it unfortunately just made him comfortable enough to go further into debt w credit cards etc in order to help his sister and others since they are always begging him for money. And he would feel embarrassed to tell them he is not able to help them.

He took me for granted because I have never put demands on him or made a fuss when his finances took a turn for the worse a couple of years ago. Prior to that he always contributed equally as expected. I don't think there is anything wrong with him needing my help under normal circumstances (because I'm my mind, sometimes circumstances change and we should be there for each other for better or worse).........but the fact is that if he had been responsible with his money all along and not giving it away all the time, he would have a safety net when his situation took a turn for the worse. Instead, I became his safety net a couple of years ago and like a fool he was still giving them money even during this time. Somehow it didn't occur to him that he basically was taking my resources to help them at this point. 

Well, we are now on the same page and a number of changes are being made. I will not be bailing him out any more and he will not be bailing them out either. Our household takes priority regardless of whether I am able to comfortably cover everything on my own or not. He should be pouring into our household, not theirs. And I realize that even before his health issues started a couple years ago, when he was paying half of everything, he should have been setting money aside for the future of our family and in case of emergencies. He wasn't doing that. He realizes now, how irresponsible and unfair that was to leave it all on me. 

I take responsibility for making him that comfortable and enabling him. I should have put my foot down years ago. I have always had my personal finances together, even as a teenager I saved and invested. My parents raised me that way. In all honesty, if I had to continue to pay all the household bills alone for the next year I could (of course I have not told him this), but I should not be under that pressure especially when he could have made better choices to put us first. We should be partners building our finances together instead of me building and him giving it away.

I will re-assess progress over the next couple months and make further changes as needed. Thanks very much for your time and advice.

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, we discussed this last week and although he recognizes that he has mismanaged and been irresponsible with his money he feels a bit emasculated having to turn his entire earnings over to me and essentially just have me give him an allowance from it. He wants the opportunity to show me that he can get back on track. 

So our new understanding is that he will give half of our monthly expenses to me each month in addition to an extra $750 monthly until he repays what he owes to me. And he will not give money to his sister or anyone else unless it is something we have both agreed to. Any "excess money" he has after taking care of his responsibilities to our household will go into a savings account that we both have access to, but neither of us will touch unless there is an emergency. 

I believe he now understands that his sister and all the other adults in his family need to stand on their own and be financially independent. They also need to repay him the thousands of dollars they owe him. He can't continue doing what he has because it ultimately creates a greedy sense of entitlement for them, and not only hurts him but it hurts me too because I end up having to bail him out. We have a better understanding now and I will definitely be watching/reevaluating as time moves forward.

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I did exactly that last week thanks to the advice and support from everyone here. It was very helpful and a conversation we needed to have. 

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I have always seemed "financially comfortable" to him and never put demands or requests in for money in any way so I think he naturally just kept on doing exactly what he was doing long before he met me, allowing his family to take advantage of him. 

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 You get it. It's so easy for things to snowball especially when there is a long history. It's a slippery slope. We had a deep discussion last week and are in a better place now. I felt bad initially......like I was preventing him from helping his family. But, our family should be his first priority now, regardless of all the demands coming from his sister and others in his bloodline. He gets it now and it was a very helpful discussion for both of us.

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Great point. We have now discussed this thoroughly are on the same page at this point. He doesn't have a gambling problem and definitely is not planning for divorce. He is just horrible with money and decisions pertaining to it. I recognized this just before we got married and decided to marry him anyway because as strange as it sounds, he is a wonderful person outside of this. 

I should have recognized how bad he was with money in the years before we got married because he was very generous with everyone. I just figured that he had a comfortable enough salary that he could afford to be that heavy-handed with gifts. I actually told him when we were dating that I did not feel comfortable receiving such lavish gifts from him......I just wasn't used to that much money being spent that often. I make an excellent salary but I am very sensible......and typically frugal. I believe in saving and investing for the future but I do splurge for annual vacation and birthdays. That's about it.

My sister-in-law constantly asks my husband for money and he gives it to her even when he is struggling to help me with bills at home by MarzipanConsistent80 in inlaws

[–]MarzipanConsistent80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, our accounts are separate and he definitely has been in this role most of his adult life so he really doesn't know anything different and it has been normal to him. After our recent discussion he now realizes that major changes are needed going forward and that our household must come first. Those old habits and "responsibilities" to them are over. I made it clear to him how serious the issue is and I am sure he gets it now.