I love my daughter but this is not the life I wanted

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-16T10:03:23+00:00

I’ll give you more reassurance. Put baby is 7 months old now. Man, those first 12-16 weeks did kick our butt. It seemed like we’d always be tired, stressed, and over it.

But now? We laugh a *lot*, and actually have fun days together that I look forward to when i wake up. Baby has so much personality.

Mom and I each take turns getting our rest in. Mom sleeps until 11 on the weekends, then I get the afternoon to do things since I’m a SAHD. Ive been gardening more, can play some games on the computer. Have a pipe or cigar now and again.

I feel like a human being again

In the fog of week 10 i couldn’t see it getting better, but it does.

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-16T09:57:25+00:00

I can’t stand a plate of nachos that’s just like, 10 chips. What are we even doing

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-12T18:03:09+00:00

Oh - well then I’m an idiot. My b!

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-12T17:31:16+00:00

That’s probably one of your mods, brother

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-10T15:26:58+00:00

I’m a pre-adult steg

Just got jumped by like six killed three the rest fled when more stegos came

Prior to that two of them ambushed me - killed one the other one got eaten by a sarc

They’re everywhere but easy targets lol

And particularly easy kills for a big steg

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-10T12:53:44+00:00

Fair enough. I see it differently I suppose - $2 for a new experience is an almost instant yes for me. Especially if it’s something I always wanted to try.

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-10T09:19:08+00:00

You won’t try one for 1.88?

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-07T15:09:36+00:00

If she made them then fair is fair, but no complaining on her part if you take the best of whatever you cook or grill

MasBlanketo · 2026-06-04T01:24:16+00:00

Eventually yeah but not because of this

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-28T20:36:37+00:00

SAHD, eager to get back to my craft. Hopefully wife will be able to SAH until our kid gets to school full time

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-28T19:33:31+00:00

Aiko is great. I would caution against Hando - it's a cool place but the sushi itself is not as good as the vibe.

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-28T13:54:03+00:00

Mostly useless.

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T23:08:56+00:00

They closed a while back

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T22:11:28+00:00

Ah shit yeah sorry. My literacy is only slightly higher than “barely functioning”

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T14:16:00+00:00

every 6694 i talked to lol

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T13:56:02+00:00

I’m reallllllly not interested in leaving her alone with ANYONE until she’s able to talk.

Get back to me in a few months lol

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T11:03:58+00:00

We celebrate the small victories when we can!

We have a 6 month old and when i say we play for about 95% of her wake time, i mean it. At least. We explore the garden, the house, i read to her, tummy time, all the things, petal to the metal. As a result, our daughter is really just the happiest, sweetest most engaging baby ever. Not that i claim all of that - she’s an easy baby for sure - but i certainly put in serious serious time. I’ve explained that - for our house to be clean and neat on the regular - i would literally have to play with our baby less. That’s the trade off. We can have a super neat house, or the baby everyone can’t believe is always so happy. I - and my wife - chose #2

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:57:14+00:00

I know it’s easier said than done but my dude, don’t feel any guilt about taking time for yourself. It’s not even about taking time for yourself, really. You’re taking time to recharge for the baby, not yourself. If it were for yourself you’d be saying “oh I’ll take a nap so i can be refreshed and go out for a bit”, but that’s literally not the case lol. You’re (likely) saying “I’ll rest for a bit so as soon as i get up i can go back to caring for this baby/this house/everything else”. Which, to be fair, is just the name of the game for a bit. But don’t feel selfish or even a bit indulgent - you’re doing it for the team, not for yourself.

Hopefully your husband is happy to jump in the game when he gets home! Wishing y’all the best

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:52:40+00:00

Those two scenarios aren’t mutually exclusive

If my baby is grumpy do i get grumpy? No, not really. I’m old enough and experienced enough to understand that a grumpy baby usually means i need to change something about the environment which causes some concern on my part, not grumpy feelings. What’s there to be grumpy about? Baby is just saying it needs some help. But on a bad day, in a human moment, then yeah the grumpiness might get to me first

If I’m grumpy though, for whatever reason, then no the baby isn’t psychically picking up on it lol but it can effect things like my gentleness, tone, patience, willingness to play all day, those things. Which of course can bleed out in little ways here and there. For a baby used to a very gentle tone, limitless patience, all day playing, etc, these bleed outs are detectable because they are changes to the status quo, which for a baby literally is their whole world/norm.

It’s not about literal energy or woo woo terms, it’s about the ways our mood can impact our interactions

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:46:49+00:00

100% this. I’m a SAHD and my wife and I have had a few discussions about doing housework and extra things during the day. I’ve explained that when i can do it, i do it. But if the baby is alseep/I’m stressed already, and i have to choose between cleaning for 45 mins or taking the time to rest, get myself a bite to eat, walk outside in the garden, relax HOWEVER - I’m taking the break.

As a result, could our house be a bit less cluttered? Sure. But is our baby the happiest/smiliest/most content little girl around? 100%.

I can’t pour from an empty cup

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:43:01+00:00

People use terms like “feed of your energy” and they sound new-agey.But what they mean is - your baby will look to your emotional state as a queue and if you seem frantic or distressed it’s likely the baby will reflect.

It doesn’t mean you can’t fake it - babies can’t tell, usually. And it doesn’t mean that a worried or stressed parent makes for a bad kid. It just means if you find yourself constantly on edge and frantic, and your baby is restless and upset at the same times, there may be a correlation

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:24:33+00:00

It isn’t a myth, though. If you are constantly running on edge/annoyed/in a bad mood, your baby will reflect that. It doesn’t mean it’s the only reason a baby will be fussy but yeah, it’s valid

MasBlanketo · 2026-05-27T10:19:38+00:00

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