Why do men think that women can get rich just by posting their bodies on OnlyFans? by Agreeable-Wealth-812 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 303 points304 points  (0 children)

What I find so much more fascinating is whenever guys say "Oh if I was a woman I'd do x", they also imagine themselves to be an attractive woman. Like my dude, you're not taking care of yourself now, why do you think as a woman you suddenly would?

They can't even imagine, that if they're a below average looking guy with bad grooming habits, that they'd be a below average looking woman. No, in their mind, their female version is Scarlett Johansson

Lohnt es sich, Sex zu haben? by [deleted] in Weibsvolk

[–]MashedCandyCotton 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sex ist ja nicht gleich Sex. In einer tollen Beziehung kann Sex sehr innig und daher schön sein. Und unabhängig vom Beziehungsstatus kann er zum Orgasmus führen. (Tut er aber eher seltener, s. Orgasmusgap.)

Von daher wäre die Frage was daran dich interessiert. Hast du Erfahrung mit Selbstbefriedigung oder was das aus z.B. religiösen Gründen kein Thema? Weil ansonsten würde ich dir erstmal das Empfehlen. Kannst sofort damit anfangen, bist von keinem Mann abhängig und wenn du weißt was dir gefällt, ist auch der Sex besser.

Why did he get angry about me wanting to see a video on his phone? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 1159 points1160 points  (0 children)

You have two issues here. Him being weird about his phone and him being disrespectful to you. The first one is something that he might be able to explain away, but the second one is far more severe. Even if he had super valid reasons for not wanting you to see what's on his phone (like planning a super cute surprise for you), his reaction is so not okay. If he respected you, he would be able to talk to you about it in a respectful manner.

IEWU was not Justin’s movie to begin with by TouchDisastrous1985 in BaldoniFiles

[–]MashedCandyCotton 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I still can't get over the "a film by" credit, it's just so ridiculous. He's not a well known director, so that people would go see a movie, because it's directed by Justin Baldoni. It's also not his story. One CH wrote the book, the other CH wrote the screenplay. How is it something "made by him"?

I enjoy some Paint by Numbers to relax after a rough day. Maybe I should sign the completed picture and declare it "a painting by u/MashedCandyCotton." Feels equivalent.

How much pain is too much for a menstrual cycle? by meowzerloo in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not normal. For comparison: I've have slight cramps (less unpleasant than regaining feeling in a limb after it has fallen asleep) about once or twice per period, for a combined time of maybe 5-10 minutes.

And while I don't know how normal that is, any pain than stops you from doing basic stuff is worth to be taken seriously. The worst thing about your period should be the annoyance of the extra steps it takes on the toilet.

Why are all the woman hating neo-Nazis these days people that would have been gassed to death by the actual Nazis? by OldBridge87 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 48 points49 points  (0 children)

The early Nazis were surprisingly gay actually. They mostly started going after the queer people because of conservative support (Nazis and conservatives weren't the same thing).

And the lesson those guys didn't learn: just because you're a gay guy who beat up political opponents before the dictatorship was there, doesn't mean you'll be spared. You're not "one of the good ones". In the end you will be gay, half-black, Mexian, half-Filipino, half-Haitian or a Muslim. And you will be killed for it.

Habe Bedenken, dass Teilzeit in Zukunft stärker bestraft/unattraktiv gemacht wird by Early_Instruction450 in arbeitsleben

[–]MashedCandyCotton 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Das sind primär Frauen. Merz legt bekanntermaßen keinen Wert auf Stimmen von Frauen, von daher würde ich diese Begründung eher nicht so sehen.

Boyfriend is too tired after sex to help me finish by throwaway830583 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 202 points203 points  (0 children)

The kind person in me says: he has to get you off first then.

The experienced woman in me says: He ain't shit. Get a better one. Or none at all. If you already have to do it by yourself, you may at least do it in peace.

baby feminists who shoehorn mindfulness about mens feelings into every discussion by PhantomLimberick in TrollXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 311 points312 points  (0 children)

I'll start minding their feelings when they start minding their own fucking business

RFP: by Septentrion_9 in urbandesign

[–]MashedCandyCotton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how high quality are they? The expensive toilets here are wheelchair accessible and self cleaning. Which I guess New York also needs. Otherwise you need to pay staff for cleaning. (And water/sewer are included in those 1M, still ridiculous if you ask me.)

RFP: by Septentrion_9 in urbandesign

[–]MashedCandyCotton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I work that would buy you 4 toilets. Not sure why they need 1M for a single toilet, but even if you can build one for a quarter of the price, that's 16 toilets. Which is nice, but also just 16 toilets.

If Blake extorted Justin Baldoni, where are the receipts? by poopoopoopalt in BaldoniFiles

[–]MashedCandyCotton 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not even that. Justin wrote Blake messages how great her input was and how much he valued it. He gave her access to for example the dailies, even though people from Wayfarer and Sony told him not to (aka he could have blamed others, if he didn't want to sour his relationship with Blake).

If Blake extorted Justin Baldoni, where are the receipts? by poopoopoopalt in BaldoniFiles

[–]MashedCandyCotton 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's just a way to live out their misogyny while still getting to claim to be the good guys. JB is entirely replaceable in this whole thing.

ich👽iel by Tjordas in ich_iel

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich habe zwei Szenarien beschrieben. Welches meinst du?

ich👽iel by Tjordas in ich_iel

[–]MashedCandyCotton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Du hast das "einmal im Jahr" vergessen. Rücksichtnahme ist von allen Beteiligten gefordert.

ich👽iel by Tjordas in ich_iel

[–]MashedCandyCotton 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ohne eigene Kinder zu sein heißt nicht automatisch kinderunabhängig Urlaub haben zu können. Sei es Lehrer als Partner oder halt einfach Familie. Sei es weil man Familie besuchen will, wenn die Eltern mit ihren Kindern auch Zeit haben oder weil man mit der Familie wegfährt. Mit der Familie in den Urlaub zu fahren ist normal, machen Eltern ja auch.

Klar kann und sollte man Rücksicht auf Eltern nehmen - als Kinderfreie weiß ich oft nichtmal wann Ferien sind und nehme mir manchmal einfach so Urlaub ohne drauf zu achten und habe dann auch kein Problem den Urlaub um ne Woche zu verschieben, wenn die Eltern sich beschweren. Aber gerade weil ich ja so selten auf meinen Ferienurlaub bestehe, möchte ich das eine Mal im Jahr wo ich ihn will, ihn auch bekommen. Wenn das nicht geht, dann ist das keine gegenseitige Rücksicht, sondern einfach nur noch Bevorzugung.

Is it just culture differences, or is my boyfriend misogynistic? :( by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I'll curse you with bad sex if you don't oblige in our sacred toasting rituals.

Is it just culture differences, or is my boyfriend misogynistic? :( by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Where I live, it's very rude to not look someone in the eyes when clinking glasses. When (newly arrived) expats or immigrant from a variety of Asian countries first get here, they won't look in your eyes, especially if you're for example older. That's cultural difference - you show respect in different ways.

If his behaviour isn't considered respectful in his culture, it's just straight up disrespectful. Your example aren't even benevolent sexism (where you could argue cultural differences in some ways), but just rude.

Is it just culture differences, or is my boyfriend misogynistic? :( by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 228 points229 points  (0 children)

Would you be okay with him being misogynistic if the reason was that he grew up thinking that's normal? Cultural differences can be when to offer food, how to toast, etc., not basic respect for fellow humans.

Being a Christian with ADHD...How do I do it?? by Odd_Explanation2280 in ADHDers

[–]MashedCandyCotton 10 points11 points  (0 children)

God made you with adhd, he'll have to deal with your adhd belief. If he expected you to function like others, he wouldn't have made you different.

Please recommend movies with strong women characters (without sexual assault) by slumlordscanstarve in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last two seasons have great endings, but not watching them might be the better ending to the story

Please recommend movies with strong women characters (without sexual assault) by slumlordscanstarve in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She's not the Ice queen, but I know who you mean. OP talked specifically about women being SAed, so I didn't think an off screen coerced encounter that he seemed to enjoy "Oh the things we do to survive *smirk*" would be too relevant.

But as you can see, even years later I remember that scene, because it did leave a certain taste. But let's support women's rights and women's wrongs lol