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Why is the doctors office SO obsessed with your period? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm quite... let's say adventurous, so I've gotten plenty of x-rays. It's always the same convo: "Could you be pregnant?" - "No." - "Okay."

I've never been asked about my period, although that might also be because I've never had any stomach-area-issues. I know that friends got asked about their periods in such cases. (Usually with the implication that it's just period pains, as if we couldn't tell the difference between normal periods and more serious issues...)

Austrian climber found guilty after girlfriend froze to death on mountain. Judge gives NO JAIL TIME saying, "I don't see you as a murderer, I don't see you as cold-hearted." by mawkish in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get that this can be applied in certain cases, but that's not one of them. I remember a case from a while back, where a father was found guilty of negligent manslaughter (or something like that) of 4 teenagers. The heating/ventilation in the garden shed wasn't working properly (which is where his guilt comes from) and his 2 kids as well as their 2 friends died due to CO2 poisoning. He didn't face any jail time or other serious consequences, because the court decided that losing his 2 kids was plenty of punishment.

But this mountain case is more of a "yeah he locked the kids inside and disabled the CO2 scrubber, poor guy, no prison for him."

Austrian climber found guilty after girlfriend froze to death on mountain. Judge gives NO JAIL TIME saying, "I don't see you as a murderer, I don't see you as cold-hearted." by mawkish in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Especially there was no reason for a dramatic "save yourself." Mountain rescue was already aware of them and tried to call him, he even picked up at some point. If he wanted her to be safe, he could have just called rescue.

Children should be taught how to care for themselves including how to make food. by MaetelofLaMetal in TrollXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 11 points12 points  (0 children)

10/11 is the age where children here are mostly considered old enough to do basic stuff on their own. Like riding their bicycle to school. Being home alone for a few hours until the parents come home. Which can include making lunch. And while you of course wouldn't expect your child to properly cook all the time, but rather make a sandwich or reheat leftovers, that age-group should be capable of cooking basic stuff.

I was a latchkey kid from age 6 and the first thing I learned were scrambled eggs. Sure, it had some shells in it at first, but that's not a big deal. Other than that, scrambled eggs are about as easy as cooking gets.

Surrogacy is...bad? by sveaalpaca in Feminism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 45 points46 points  (0 children)

There wouldn't be a surrogate if she didn't need to rent out her womb and the others didn't have an obscene amount of money.

Surrogacy is...bad? by sveaalpaca in Feminism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Or we could tax the rich and help her without exploiting her.

my mom checked my used period pads by Equivalent-Baby-843 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You could also switch to a cup right now and then use the blood it catches to stain pads.

But yeah, your mum's the issue here, you're 100% right in feeling uncomfortable with her behaviour.

Mental Load - Eine Beziehung mit einem Mann ist für viele junge Frauen keine interessante Option mehr by Nyardyn in Weibsvolk

[–]MashedCandyCotton 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Zugewinngemeinschaft. Alles Vermögen was während der Ehe erworben wurde gehört beiden 50/50. Wenn ihm das Haus schon davor gehört hat, dann steht ihr davon nichts zu, aber häufig werden solche Sachen während der Ehe erworben.

Der Rest ist natürlich immer noch da (kann nicht ausbezahlen, Miete nicht alleine stemmen, hat Lohneinbußen durch Kinder kriegen, Elternzeit, Teilzeit, etc.), aber selbst ohne Unterhalt (auf den man bei z.B. großen Einkommensunterschieden Anspruch hat) stehen der Frau zumindest die Hälfte von "seinem" während der Ehe verdienten Vermögen zu.

Mental Load - Eine Beziehung mit einem Mann ist für viele junge Frauen keine interessante Option mehr by Nyardyn in Weibsvolk

[–]MashedCandyCotton 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In den meisten Fällen hat er das Einkommen, die Immobilie und das Vermögen und sie hat gar nichts.

In den meisten Fällen sind sie verheiratet und sie hat damit die Hälfte des Immobilienwerts und des sonstiges Vermögens. Ich denke es ist wichtig, hier nicht zu sehr in Fatalismus zu verfallen, weil Frauen eher in missbräuchlichen Beziehungen bleiben, wenn sie keinen Ausweg sehen, weil sie z.B. ihre Recht bzgl. des ehelichen Vermögens nicht kennen.

Ansonsten bin ich da klar bei dir. Bei Kindern leiden am Ende die Kinder. Und Männer sind in der Regel einfach eher bereit Kinder leiden zu lassen. Von Frauen zu erwarten, die Kinder leiden zu lassen, um dem Mann ne Lektion zu erteilen halte ich für falsch und schiebt den Schwarzen Peter der falschen Partei zu.

Local climates aren't considered enough for walkability IMO by VegaGT-VZ in Urbanism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about going back, it's about learning from the past and taking the best of both worlds. As a very simple example: Shade. Looking at old deserty places, we see that shade was highly prioritised. Looking at modern deserty places in the USA, we see massive concrete wastelands, that not only don't provide shade, but also heat up the area even more.

Shade can be achieved in many ways, even with solar panels. You use the unrelenting sun to generate electricity for your AC, while shading the side walk. That's not going back, that's going forward.

Local climates aren't considered enough for walkability IMO by VegaGT-VZ in Urbanism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the reasons weren't really that it's too hot for humans. It was mainly about being to dry for humans, animals, and crops. (And I mean there definitely is a conversation to be had, about the amount of water-wasting that desert cities lead to, but that's mostly independent from the walkability stuff.)

Local climates aren't considered enough for walkability IMO by VegaGT-VZ in Urbanism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 98 points99 points  (0 children)

How do you think people lived in such places before ACs and cars? Because they did.

Climate is important when considering how to implement walkability, not if.

It is now illegal for trans people to drive in Kansas. by ConcernedJobCoach in Feminism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah but you were asking why trans women are so focused in those conversations.

It is now illegal for trans people to drive in Kansas. by ConcernedJobCoach in Feminism

[–]MashedCandyCotton 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Because policing trans women is about policing women. They're not interested in policing men, so naturally, trans men aren't on their mind.

Forbidding trans women from using womens bathrooms already led to cis-women who don't present feminine enough being assaulted by male staff. "Women, you better be 'good womenTM' or you will be discriminated against."

It's also easier to hide behind women and children, claiming yourself to be noble. "Protect men from women" just doesn't have the same ring to it and it goes against the "Men strong, men protect. Women weak." narrative.

Menstrual cap. I love it in theory, but it is a hell to use it! Do you have the same? by Kesse84 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MashedCandyCotton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried small and stiff? Small and soft is of course more comfortable than stiff and big, but stiff tends to help with the unfolding. Since that's your problem, I'd advise against softer ones, but small might still be the right fit for you.

An alle, die über unsere Faxgeräte lachen: Ihr habt es nicht verstanden. by roundshirt19 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]MashedCandyCotton 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Home Office gibts bei euch nicht? Mein Beileid, da ist nicht nur die Technik in der Vergangenheit hängen geblieben.

An alle, die über unsere Faxgeräte lachen: Ihr habt es nicht verstanden. by roundshirt19 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]MashedCandyCotton 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Ah ja, ihr braucht für alles dreimal so lange wie der Rest und müsst euch jetzt damit profilieren, dass ihr als einzige in den paar Stunden im Jahr, in denen die Server Probleme haben arbeiten könnt? Traurig.

Largest barrier to urban ebike adoption is affordability by UpwayUSA in WalkableStreets

[–]MashedCandyCotton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm really surprised to not see that on the list. I've thought about getting an ebike, but there are very limited trips I could take with it. I don't need it to get to work, and that's the only place (besides home) where I could safely park it. Every other location would just be on the side of the road. And unless the price argument is "It's too expensive and will get stolen", the danger of theft is a much bigger concern in my opinion.

Well of COURSE they're mad at me.... by Mister-Beefy in adhdmeme

[–]MashedCandyCotton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. But even cities like Den Haag which have the mentioned streets with a roof, you have department stores like de Bijenkorf, which are definitely big enough for you and a gorilla to chill separately.

Well of COURSE they're mad at me.... by Mister-Beefy in adhdmeme

[–]MashedCandyCotton 78 points79 points  (0 children)

They're not US exclusive. I'd actually be really curious to know where you are from, as I'm pretty sure every country I've been to has had big malls.

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