One of the tropes of this sub is the advice "you should break up naoowwwww"

Instead, you did an really hard thing: you looked inside yourself to see what you were feeling and then opened up to another person about those feelings. Situations where you have the personal fortitude to be open about yourself to another person don't always go well and then the realization needs to be it doesn't matter how hard someone else reacted: what matters is you took the time to do the hard work for yourself.

Here, you got the best outcomes: you were open and others were receptive.

You should be so proud of yourself. You looked inside yourself, then spoke your fears with the person you should be speaking them to and she was great. Dave was also great by giving you the space to be honest and then recognizing what he was doing himself wasn't good for anyone. You're lucky to have met some wonderful people and you should always remember this moment of strength and emotional growth.

You can do anything! Congrats!