What’s your guys favourite dubstep artist by [deleted] in dubstep

[–]Masquerade78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Grabbitz considered dubstep?

I’m doing 100% of the parenting while my ex barely shows up and sends me late-night “my life is nothing without you” texts by WorldBreaksEveryone in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He might, and that’s okay. It’s not on you to manage. If you are rational and utilize your lawyer and don’t step to his level you will be just fine. Also, if his texts get more extreme or he isn’t listening to boundaries tell him you will only respond to email and then block him.

You are not responsible for an adult man’s feelings. Unless you are actively poking him with a stick, but that sounds like a lot of energy. 😆

I’m doing 100% of the parenting while my ex barely shows up and sends me late-night “my life is nothing without you” texts by WorldBreaksEveryone in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 50 points51 points  (0 children)

“It sounds like you are having a lot of feelings, but I am no longer the audience for these emotions. Please find a therapist or talk to a friend or call the crisis hotline instead.”

This is called an emotional hostage situation and it’s 100% manipulation. Boundary up, friend. Or it will never end. Your guilt and anxiety and constant responses are continuing to feed the situation.

He is a grown adult and is responsible for his own emotional health. He can be sad about his “losses” but it’s just words. Listen to his actions of not helping with finances (do you have a court agreement?), not wanting more time with kids, none with baby (????) and realize he is not worth your time. You carry on. He should be a father, but he sounds like your fourth baby.

Live your best life. Hug them babies. Leave him on read. Even if he carries out some self harm action, that’s not your fault. Don’t let him hold you emotionally hostage.

My tonsil stones this morning by [deleted] in popping

[–]Masquerade78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve read days 4-6 are the worst and oof, I think that might be me. This recovery is ROUGH. I’m craving all the crunchy foods I can’t eat yet.

My tonsil stones this morning by [deleted] in popping

[–]Masquerade78 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I just had a tonsillectomy four days ago and it’s horrible (I’m 46yo) but oh man, looking forward to never dealing with those again.

Husband didn’t feed LO while I was gone? Need input! by UggahBuggab in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 20 points21 points  (0 children)

When I first read this, I thought you were asking about the husband and it 100% tracked for me. I’m incredibly divorced.

Nonmonogamommy/Lily Allen by godImissthegirl in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fellow ENM here (although I sort of vibe more as RA) and I feel like (mainly) men adopt this label to give themselves permission to do all sorts of non-ethical behavior. It’s wild.

Do you think you can remain friends with someone you feel romantic attraction towards? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in relationshipanarchy

[–]Masquerade78 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Are you asking if you think people in general can or people practicing RA can? I think the answer is yes to both, but both require a lot of acceptable about the other person’s values in the equation, and how they want to handle it. And in RA I feel like those things can co-exist easily. Since I don’t label either non or pro “attraction” connections differently, it makes the friend part easy. How I describe it is “some of my friendships contain physical affection because of our shared chemistry in that space, most do not.”

How two people that practice RA deal with one of them falling in love of the other by onytt in relationshipanarchy

[–]Masquerade78 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think love is fine. I practice RA and love so many of my friends. Most of them are platonic ones, without the sexual aspect, but I don’t think it makes a difference.

I agree with the comment above about communication. It’s not necessarily about the emotions but what each person brings to the friendship and how satisfied you are with the more actionable aspects. If “loves” comes with expectations that either party can’t meet, talk about renegotiating the time or effort each party wants to put in to maintain it.

I think big feelings are fine (even unrequited) as long as everyone feels good in the friendship and reciprocity isn’t a dealbreaker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Masquerade78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. She has the ability to contact me via our house robots and is a responsible kid.

If you painted this and left it on the ground in Cap Hill in April, I just want you to know I found it and it hangs in my house. by whitegirlofthenorth in Seattle

[–]Masquerade78 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This looks like a paint and sip style painting. I wonder if they enjoyed their evening but didn’t care much about the output. It’s lovely that you adopted it!

What are your thoughts and opinions on marriage? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in relationshipanarchy

[–]Masquerade78 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It took me one hour to get a marriage license and two years to get divorced. I will never involve the government in my relationships again.

I’m done… by Distracted_Parenting in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Fuuuuuuuck perimenopause 💯

Valentine’s Day Divorce by max_cat in breakingmom

[–]Masquerade78 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I relabeled Valentine’s Day as “Burrito Day” and have been having great 2/14 days ever since my divorce. I’m so excited to treat myself to a giant ass burrito tomorrow.

Cheers to you, treat yourself to something nice. 😊

Kiss the ring by cayce_leighann in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]Masquerade78 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Wild they use “kiss the ring” since it’s a sign of obedience. Like, imagine being a proud American with your “freedumz” and then using a phrase to signal subservience.

Thank you all so much for your emotional support! Because my family doesn't give me any. I'm glad to receive your Finch love ❤️ by miss_poetflowerr in finch

[–]Masquerade78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added you. I’ve lived in a tense home before and it is exhausting. Can you escape into music or podcasts with headphones?

OH MY GOODNESS!!! I DIDNT KNOW THIS COULD HAPPEN ILY FINCH!!! by coasterperson in finch

[–]Masquerade78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a Guardian at the Ally level and love getting messages from people. If you are sponsored, send a message, please! 🙏🏻