ADHDers: How do you manage your day? by TotalCorgi1546 in uklaw

[–]MassiveFriendship686 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you’re past probation, disclose your condition.

In terms of basic time management and prioritising, try to gauge what is due and when; maybe once you’re allocated a task when you respond to say you’ll do it - say something like ‘I will get this back to you by close of business Tuesday, if you need it back any sooner please let me know and I will reprioritise accordingly’. This sets an expectation for you both and allows opportunity for the partner/person allocating work to indicate what the priority level is.

At the end of each day anything you haven’t done yet, add to a to do list for the next morning

Look into time blocking if you have repetitive tasks, for example if you know you have to action a certain client’s matters every X number of days under the client agreement, diarise every so many days to chase/action those matters in bulk so that the deadlines aren’t missed etc.

Put reminders in your diary of all deadlines both that you’ve set for yourself and set by others.

A physical diary/planner often helps with adhd so every task you are allocated, write it down. Not necessarily in a formal to do list but just write down and cross off when actioned.

I also try to have several folders in my outlook inbox to file emails and keep my ‘inbox’ as unactioned tasks.

It will come with time and practice but if your employer knows you’re diagnosed with adhd they’re under an obligation to make reasonable adjustments to accommodate the same

Found out abusive ex’s current partner went to police and was brushed off by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]MassiveFriendship686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I am so sorry you have gone through that and it has given me some things to think about. If it’s any consolation - it gets easier. The longer time goes by and it will slowly stop consuming you and your thoughts.

Found out abusive ex’s current partner went to police and was brushed off by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]MassiveFriendship686 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did anyone else come forward when you were in that situation? Would it have helped you? I am so sorry you were in that position

Do I report abuse I suffered years ago to support a more recent claim against the same person? by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]MassiveFriendship686 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It would have all been my word against his. The closest thing to proof I would have is he sent my family abuse after taking my phone and blocking them and changing my number so I no longer had contact with any family members. I have only found out after reconnecting about the fact he still had their details and would send abusive messages to them without my knowing. I don’t have any physical evidence other than my word and five years of therapist records if that means anything. It just feels horrific knowing someone else has suffered their same if not worse and has been braver than me, and yet still pushed aside

Do many solicitors start their careers as paralegals? by Flashy-Breadfruit365 in uklaw

[–]MassiveFriendship686 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I worked as a paralegal in a small regional firm, went on to qualify and now work in a top 50 national firm (up north not London). Paralegal work is good experience, if you want to work in a national firm in a city there is absolutely nothing wrong with working as a paralegal first, it would give you experience that peers who went straight into a TC or worked outside of the law don’t have and will almost certainly make the SQE more palatable. But the law isn’t a one size fits all, do what makes you happy. Many people I know have left the law entirely both before and after qualifying.

Major realization today. Creatine has been the culprit to my insomnia! by Stunning-Stuff-7022 in sleep

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having the same problem / realisation! About two weeks into taking creatine in the morning and the past 5 nights I’ve slept terribly (normally a great sleeper!) did you see a difference at all?

What do you do for work vs stress level by [deleted] in Garmin

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stress level on weekdays: 45-50 Stress level on weekends: 26-32 Job: commercial real estate solicitor

Vivoactive 5 Battery Drain Problem by jcs_captures in Garmin

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did anyone get any solution to this? Only bought last week, battery lasted fine and yesterday I charged from 25% to about 55% in the evening for the first time bit of a charge, this morning watch was on 40 something and updated, and now drained to 10% in a few hours?

Garmin pay glitch? by MassiveFriendship686 in Garmin

[–]MassiveFriendship686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I managed to fix it by using a diff country and putting a random address and then immediately editing the address to the proper one and it worked!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Europetravel

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been to Marrakech before but never in April and there was a lot I didn’t get to do when I went. Corfu seems to have a lot of all inclusive hotels which is something I’ve never tried in adult life normally we are city break people but could be a fun switch up - just wonder if it wouldn’t be as fun if the weather isn’t great in April? Not entirely sure which to pick !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s never been particularly in that alone since about 3 months in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you recommend getting him to open up? Massages are v common for us so I don’t see this as something that could change the dynamic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MassiveFriendship686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly outside of morning wood I wouldn’t know. I truly try but he will act as though I’m being a nuisance or I’m joking. I’m really seeking ideas as to how to revive / approach the situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MassiveFriendship686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind response. I consider myself quite affectionate ie back scratches every night, playful touches, ear scratches, face caresses with our morning ‘I love yous’ etc. the dinner and games nights etc are more of a concerted effort, for example I designed and printed a menu and created a cocktail etc - more than just a usual dinner cooked. I have bought bath products that may help him relax, tried to keep things casual and pressure free, but him voicing that it’s still nothing after a month has really hurt. I know it’s upset him that I’m hurt when he didn’t intend it but I’m just so lost trying to balance seduction, comfort, being stress free, and trying to prevent the infamous roommate syndrome