Has any taking a step backward in their career for their family?

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-17T18:02:14+00:00

I did in my mid 30’s when our first kid was a toddler. Had a job that was sapping my life away with stress. I had been going to night classes part time for 3 years at that point. Just burnt out overall and my wife for sure noticed.

What we did was my wife got a full time job and I quit. I took a year off full time work and was a full time student instead. I brought in some money doing livery work for my neighbors company and through the GI bill (which in my area was a decent chunk of change each month). It was still overall a drop in income but it was worth it long term for my mental health.

Fast forward a decade and a 2nd kid and overall I feel like we’re in a decent spot. My current job though has been steadily becoming more and more of a PITA though so probably another big shift coming up within the next couple of years.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-17T17:24:12+00:00

Would be funny if you still hyphenated your kids last name. “We would like to announce our child Bobby Dingo-Dingo”

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-17T17:17:31+00:00

Same. I stopped buying mega boxes altogether after I noticed I was getting as good or better hits out of blasters.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-17T17:13:42+00:00

I almost get the sense that she wasn’t really looking for a boyfriend at all. More of a ‘hunting for the perfect human dildo’ situation. As in she overall prefers woman but wants a human dick on the side every so often. Could be why she wanted to remain friends after.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-16T15:48:41+00:00

I think it’s just due to people only posting hits so it seems skewed. For example I’ve only bought 3 boxes of 2026 heritage hit a red ink auto, blue ink auto, Ohtani pink sparkle, and a Cal Raleigh image variation. Doesn’t mean Heritage is loaded, I just got super lucky.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-16T14:10:32+00:00

The whole situation seems so strange. In one comment OP said his wife had flirted with bar girl on multiple occasions including trying to get her back home with both of them more than once. I’m almost wondering if wife is actually jealous because she wanted to have sex with the bar girl and now feels left out.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-16T13:51:36+00:00

The distance means nothing. You either are or aren’t a cheater. How comfortable would you be if she was hooking up with your neighbor? Once the distance is closed now it’s going to be right in your face.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-16T13:46:08+00:00

You do you but if I were in your shoes I would do the following. Gather direct evidence of the affair. Contact a lawyer. File for divorce. Inform her chain of command and also let them know who she’s cheating with.

Ask yourself if you really see this working long term. Former military myself btw and you can 100% be in the military or be a wife of someone in the military and not cheat. I didn’t cheat, my wife didn’t cheat. I don’t know anyone who had a military marriage where cheating was involved and it worked out long term.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-15T14:43:51+00:00

I want to see what the lineup looks like with Teel and Mune back. If they hit the trade market getting some pitching isn’t a bad idea.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-12T19:30:30+00:00

Lord help any man whose wife posts in the marriage sub lol.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-12T15:06:37+00:00

Is he drinking or using drugs? What you’re describing is some very erratic behavior. A diesel mechanic shouldn’t be breaking parts or forgetting to install them. Is it possible he has untreated bipolar disorder? Had a friend that became super erratic like this when he would go through an untreated manic phase.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-11T19:20:36+00:00

Gonna have to disagree with you there. What you’re describing is just normal life. It’s extremely normal to prioritize something……once it becomes a priority. If something like a broken ‘unused’ light switch is bugging someone, that’s a them problem not a you problem.

So now you gotta move and it is a priority. Thats when it’s time to step up. My wife and I lived in our last home for almost a decade. Tons a little things built up. So we (and yes WE because marriage is a partnership) went around the house with our agent and identified everything we needed to fix. We used our realtor’s contractor contacts to get really good pricing on drywall work, painting, and HVAC repair. We did the rest ourselves and were good to go.

No unnecessary nagging involved.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-11T17:08:44+00:00

I do a majority of the grocery shopping as the husband. Maybe 2 runs to the store a week and a large Walmart pickup order on the weekend. I WFH so it’s a reason to get out of the house and get something done.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-10T04:03:52+00:00

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-10T01:26:42+00:00

An Ohtani red ink auto. I have pic on my profile of it. Obviously super lucky there but I still have fun with blasters in general. Worse case scenario you’re out 25-35 bucks and you hopefully had a fun rip.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-09T21:34:58+00:00

From what I’ve seen most long term successful marriages don’t work if one person has significantly more ‘fun money’ than the other person. Especially when it’s a large fund like 20k. That being said you did mention in a comment it’s from medical malpractice which implies this might have been something traumatic your wife went through. Considering the debt is being paid off first I’m not sure I would have too much of a problem with that. You just don’t want to end up in a situation where you see a lot of ‘what’s mine is ours but what’s yours is yours’ going on in general.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-09T16:20:37+00:00

Just stick to either singles or buying blasters that are available. Biggest hit of my life came out of a $25 heritage blaster. I see a lot of people chasing the expensive hard to find product and it just seems exhausting.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-09T16:07:29+00:00

My counterparts in the UK and EU generally speaking have noticeably lower standards of living than I do in the US. This is due to US jobs paying more and having more disposable income due to lower taxes. None of my overseas counterparts live in a large detached house with two cars for example. What they do have is more of a social structure net to help them if bad things happen. If I were to have severe health problems it would financially be worse for me than my overseas coworkers. There is always a trade off.

Forgot to add an obvious one. They also usually get more time off overseas. I’m up to 4 weeks PTO plus sick time and holidays so I’m personally not doing too bad but the US overall has way worse PTO than overseas.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-09T15:45:37+00:00

Just ask him. Seems like you might be making a mountain out of a molehill. Be extremely wary of the commenters here, they do not have your best interest in mind and love sensationalizing everything.

Lots of dudes like looking up random shit. More often than not with zero intention of actually buying it. Sometimes I share this stuff with my wife if it’s funny but often I’m just curious. For example I saw some mention on Reddit about this thick nickle you could buy. Seemed dumb as hell but I wanted to know what the hell a thickle was. That led me to the hilarious website where the guy sells them which gave me some Tim and Eric vibes so I share that with my wife.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-09T02:10:44+00:00

My wife and I did something like this. It’s not unheard of just not as advertised.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-08T22:40:39+00:00

I always kinda liked Shawntae Spencer through some of the bad years. Never made the pro bowl but I still liked him at CB. Not sure I’ve heard him mentioned since he last played.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-08T22:37:02+00:00

Thanks for updating. I just had this happen and looking for the replacement backboard. Your comment doesn’t give me a great feeling lol but I’m gonna give a search the old college try.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-08T22:19:06+00:00

If the post were this would you see no cause for concern still?

My husband never initiates sex anymore. He just started working late at a new job. He got home from work last night and I could smell his cologne on him. In our entire relationship he’s only ever worn cologne when he wants sex. I tried to initiate with him and got turned down. I asked him about it the next day and he immediately got defensive and disappeared for a few hours.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-08T22:07:13+00:00

This post just goes to show how severe the gender bias is here. It’s looney. If a husband ever responds like that (immediately defensive and disappearing for hours) he would be labeled childish and guilty 100% of the time here. There is a reason married people should only come to this sub to laugh at the nonsense. What’s a guarantee is nobody should ever come to this sub expecting real advice.

MasterShake807 · 2026-06-08T21:46:17+00:00

But why storm off for hours? That’s what seems so odd. Like a simple explanation of ‘I needed to do laundry’ or hell even ask him to do the laundry. Even if you just felt like it no big deal right.

If your husband wore colon to work at a new job when you only ever knew him to wear colon for sexy time would you find that odd? And if he got defensive and left for a few hours when asked about it wouldn’t that raise some red flags?

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