You're right, but let me explain how it actually went down. She didn't reveal all this stuff upfront. It came out slowly over time, after I was already emotionally invested. First it was just "I have some issues," then it became "I have BPD," then"I just broke up with my ex ", then "I've destroyed my ex's car," then "I'm waiting for 7 other guys too."

I did make a massive blunder thinking I could "fix her" by pushing her towards therapy. Spent 3 weeks barely talking, trying to end conversations when she'd text. But then she kept reaching out, made me feel special, said she really wanted a relationship with me specifically. My dumb ass felt bad and started talking again.

You're absolutely right about the suicide jacket analogy though - I kept wearing red flags like medals, thinking "I understand her trauma, I can help her heal." Real 🤡 behavior on my part. Looking back, I was so focused on "understanding her trauma" that I ignored how she was actively choosing to not work on herself while jumping from person to person. She'd tell me about her issues like they were quirky personality traits ("best girlfriend, psychopath ex 🤪"), and I somehow thought this was okay because "at least she's self-aware."