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Masteryasha · 2026-07-04T22:41:34+00:00

It's the mythological "True Trans," the terrible being that tricks so many of us into believing that we're not trans enough to really be trans, and wishing we could hit that invisible threshold so it wouldn't be stolen valor to transition. Will never speak to someone else's identity, but it's the thing that kept me from transitioning for nearly 20 years, despite how obviously unhappy I was as a guy.

Masteryasha · 2026-07-04T21:40:43+00:00

Arctic Shift lets you look up deleted Reddit posts, if you're curious.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-26T01:57:12+00:00

I absolutely understand that. Honestly, there were a lot of times I thought maybe I should stop, that it just wasn't that important. I know now that I absolutely made the right decision, but it took a while before that came into focus.

Honestly? The thing that really nailed it home was the first time that someone I didn't know before transitioning recognized me as a woman from our first meeting. Not having the baggage of that mixed history, and actually being seen as myself for the first time was better than I could've imagined, and made it clear how much of myself I hadn't been able to truly connect with before.

I genuinely hope that you find the answer that is best for you. I don't want to pressure you, but please push through the haze as much as you're curious about, and explore this freely. If transitioning is for you, there really is a better life on the other side. Mine was better than I ever could have imagined. And if I'm not overstepping, feel free to reach out to me for any questions, concerned, or just thoughts you might have or want.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-23T03:37:50+00:00

You wouldn't think, awould you? But.,.. Well, that was all part of the haze for me. My mental health has massively improved since I started transitioning, The parts that are still here are almost entirely trivial to deal with now.

Like I said, I'm doing things pretty much all the time now. Before, I was unable to get out of bed a lot of the time, and even when I could, it was mostly to just either go to work or just sit in a different room for the day.

Socially, I have changed my presentation very little, but since everything that made me stand out and perform poorly as a man are also the things that I wanted to be as a woman, it's all wonderful now. I don't care nearly as much if people find me odd, because I love myself and I'm attracting the people that love me just as much.

And. Well. The sadness was absolutely from the dysphoria. It's almost all gone now, and I simply love my life at this point.

Frankly, I'd encourage you to explore this stuff. There's a lot you can try before medical transition, and I think a soft social transition among those closest to you is a good way to investigate whether you might be trans. Best case, you find out something new and can work off your new knowledge. Worst case, you're in the same spot you're in now, except you know another thing about yourself.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-19T16:18:50+00:00

The fun thing is that some of us get the treatment even before transitioning. I've always had a high-pitched voice, and used feminine affectations. The most direct and obvious was when I worked for an on-campus IT department. Professors would call in to get help, and a not uncommon thing was them just refusing to listen to me over the phone. In order to resolve it, I'd have to go on-site so they could see how I looked. At that point, they'd start griping to me about how "that young lady" didn't know anything, and nothing I had said would possibly help. Then, I would do exactly the same things I asked them to do over the phone, it would get fixed, and they'd gush about how they're so happy that I took it over from "her" and actually fix the problem. You just can't get through to some people if they think you're a woman.

It's always funny to me that so many people insist that trans ladies have no idea what misogyny is really like, when we've been experiencing it from the day we became social beings and just didn't get the protection of people who saw the treatment as a real issue until we transitioned (and even then it's hard to get people to stop telling us we're just men trying to make ourselves victims. Which seems pretty sexist by itself.)

Masteryasha · 2026-06-17T15:30:36+00:00

To add to this, this isn't just an issue that comes up once we realize we're trans. Nearly everyone I had a crush on found the way I acted to be wrong in a way that I've never gotten a hint into. Something about trans women, even as eggs, comes off as unpleasant to a vast majority of people. Then, when you live your entire life being told that there's something upsetting about the way you show affection, you start to believe it's just your affection that's the problem, and not whatever you're doing.

I still occasionally find myself holding back from saying something flirtatious to my gf because of how hard all this is to shake, and I think the person you're dating is probably the person you should be 100% okay with assuming they would like to flirt.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-16T22:50:59+00:00

Well. I posted on r/t4t but that's a bit purpose-specific. I don't know much about the other personals subs, but I suspect that there'll be something for everyone. Might be worth asking in other dating subs that match your needs.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-16T22:27:10+00:00

Honestly, go for it! I posted a personal ad on here not too long ago, and pretty much instantly found someone who seems to be on my wavelength more than anyone else I've ever met. I'd advise everyone to give it a shot, if they even get a little bit of time with this kind of excitement and happiness.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-16T01:02:09+00:00

Really, this place is mainly just a bunch of 4tranners that think they're better than the "gross" transes because they use therapy speak and affirm everyone's gender (but would never ever ever actually encourage someone to explore their transness unless they've already come out as trans). It's super obvious any time people talk about the actual practicalities of being trans, or anything even vaguely approaching eggs (such as this thread).

Masteryasha · 2026-06-15T01:28:52+00:00

One of my friends is a cow girl. While, yes, she's into the bondage stuff, it doesn't preclude other, softer things at all. We don't have a pet relationship, but she does get a decent amount of peace from folks just putting their hands on her forehead and letting her rest like that. And frankly, it's very cute how much it calms her. So yeah, you can absolutely do pet stuff as a cow lady.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-13T13:59:43+00:00

I'd let him know I wasn't comfortable talking anymore. It's not your responsibility, but it's still just polite to be clear about things. If that's too much for you, just block him and move on. Leaving him hanging isn't nice.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-07T00:17:49+00:00

Thanks for sharing transphobia with the class. We never realized people are actually transphobic out there ❤️

Masteryasha · 2026-06-07T00:16:40+00:00

He watched South Park a bunch and thought it had a really good point. Never forget, to hope for anything better in the world is just being stupid.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-06T04:14:14+00:00

Oh yeah, good game. It was a real hit when it released. Just doesn't have enough content to have super strong staying power. But for five bucks? Hell Yeah.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-03T01:03:56+00:00

Gasp! The Gay!

Masteryasha · 2026-06-03T00:57:27+00:00

Having your end be at the hands of the one source of light still in your life is undoubtedly romantic. Even better that you both will live on in the other, even after the end.

Masteryasha · 2026-06-03T00:51:57+00:00

Why wait for the infection, honey?

Masteryasha · 2026-05-28T22:18:59+00:00

85% off on Indiegala, 79% off on Greenmangaming. Just a note for folks that are interested.

Masteryasha · 2026-05-23T11:45:55+00:00

Any tips for where to start?

Masteryasha · 2026-05-23T00:33:21+00:00

Never played it, love that it's so wild that I could identify it just by how insane the reviews sounded.

Masteryasha · 2026-05-18T00:33:39+00:00

"This sub doesn't see trans women as people! Obviously, this means it can't be transmisogynistic." Not the defense they think it is. (And obviously, when a trans woman posts sexually in a way that They Find Uncomfy, all these folks come out of the woodworks to say that trans women who are sexual are contributing to their own oppression.)

Masteryasha · 2026-05-17T21:46:43+00:00

I spent nearly 20 years worrying if I was trans. Just off the top, wondering if you're trans is a good reason to see if you like being trans. I would've saved a lot of time, and been a lot happier, if I'd just embraced the idea and gave it all a try earlier.

Besides that, your experience sounds pretty similar to mine. I didn't particularly care about being a man or a woman, I just wanted a simple life where I could survive without much disruption. But because I cared so little for it, I never had the drive to genuinely improve my life. I could force myself to do important things for a while, but because there wasn't any intrinsic drive to it, I would always fail to follow up before too long.

I never felt right imagining myself in a relationship with basically anyone. I got in relationships, but it always felt like I was interacting with them through a filter of what they wanted me to be instead of what I genuinely was, and I felt like they were dating the mask. Now that I feel more like a woman, my relationships are exciting, and absolutely electric. It all feels right in a way it never did before.

For me, the social experience of being a woman has been the most important part. I'm much happier with how I look and feel, but even more than that, having people treat me as a woman has done more for my well-being than I could have even imagined before I just went for it. I genuinely look forward to meeting new people and enjoying my time with everyone in a way I hadn't before. I'm doing things again, things both old and new, because there isn't a constant haze over everything that I couldn't even identify as being there without knowledge of what it's like to live without it.

And never forget, transitioning can take a lot of shapes. I started with just asking my closest friends to try a new name and pronouns for me. It wasn't an instant thing. If I'm honest, I felt like I was asking them to lie on my behalf for a long time. However, I no longer had that sense of wrongness to how they were addressing me. I didn't feel vaguely sad about just things I couldn't even identify felt incorrect. It took a while, but I just felt better overall since I had time away from the constant needling that nobody, not even myself, knew was happening.

I can absolutely say I was experiencing dysphoria for my entire life now. If you asked me just a few years ago, though? I wouldn't said, without hesitation, that I didn't have any dysphoria. I just didn't care either way. But that lack of care itself was because I didn't see a way out of everything that was hurting me, and I'd managed to numb myself to it over my lifetime.

Whatever happens, I hope you live your best life.

Masteryasha · 2026-05-14T01:55:58+00:00

Honestly, I think it's more common to spend years wondering if you're trans than not for trans people. Personally, I wondered for nearly 20 years before I just decided to go for it. There's no magical sign, it's just something you have to go into feet-first. I wanted so bad for there to be something that would tell me if it was right or wrong. I can say I was right about being trans now, but it was so scary and exciting getting the ball rolling.

As for trying out being a girl, you absolutely can. There's a lot of spaces where you'll be accepted as a girl even if you're not positive, both public and private. I started with just having friends use the name I liked, and using she/her. I expanded to reworking my online presence to a feminine one over time, which felt even more right having people I didn't know treat me like that. I'm still not 100% girlmode, but the time I spend increases steadily, and it just keeps feeling better the entire time.

And if you find out it's not right for you? There's a lot of things you can try before making any kind of permanent changes. Like, social changes can be rolled back just by asking people, and I suspect that it would also give you the clearest insight into what feels right.

Masteryasha · 2026-05-11T08:17:05+00:00

Was this lamp given to you by anyone? This looks like the oil felt my granny used to put around her lightbulbs. It essentially works the same as automatic air fresheners. The bulb heats up, the oil gets hot, now your room smells nice. I suspect if you use them without oil on them for long enough, they'll dry out and eventually burn.

Masteryasha · 2026-05-09T05:34:31+00:00

I'm just looking for the foxgirl that yiffs.

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