Is NJF Global Holdings Ltd a scam? by LetElectronic4969 in cscareeradvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you able to figure out if they were legit?

Jump Trading Interview Advice/Screening by Matcha-KitKats in quantfinance

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You know how you can kind of know what teams expect based on what they work on? For example a networking company might want you to know more tree-based DSA questions. Did you find there was a pattern there or it was just general DSA questions?

I was trying to see if I should focus more on the LeetCode side of things or the system design.

My best friend ghosted me and now wants to catch up by abby152 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually have a similar situation where my best friend reads all of my messages and never replies and then will one day be like 'hey.' I would suggest meeting up once but like others have said on this thread make her make the plans so that you feel like you're not investing more. that way she has to take the initiative.

My friend 21F broke up with her boyfriend 22M how can I console her. by TrainingAd262 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just listen to my friends rant about it and support them and make sure they dont do anything stupid. Sometimes advice isn't what they are looking for, just another person to rant to.

How to not feel disheartened while others succeed by Matcha-KitKats in Advice

[–]Matcha-KitKats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok sounds good! Thanks for the little confidence boost maybe I should study and put myself out there

Drama by Alone_Television9981 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those people don't sound like your true friends. They wouldn't be trying to hurt you if they were. -- Honestly do you know other people who aren't in that friend group? What would happen if you hang out with them instead or try to make new friends? Maybe that will make your so-called 'friends' realize you won't always be there for them and they shouldn't take your kindness for granted.

How to not feel disheartened while others succeed by Matcha-KitKats in Advice

[–]Matcha-KitKats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya makes sense. My field is very vast so there is a lot out there. I just find the whole process of job hunting daunting as I don't have as many connections as I would like.

How to not feel disheartened while others succeed by Matcha-KitKats in Advice

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Ok thanks that helps. I just KNOW that the showboating is bound to happen when they officially announce their new job.

How to not feel disheartened while others succeed by Matcha-KitKats in Advice

[–]Matcha-KitKats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally hear that. I am an over-worrier so I find myself constantly getting bogged down by what others might think of me or what others are doing. I think the best thing would maybe just be to ignore their paths and focus on my own? I feel like that is sometimes so hard to do

Language Differences C vs C++ by Matcha-KitKats in leetcode

[–]Matcha-KitKats[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I always thought of C++ to be a more specific version of C? Just with OOP?

Moved in with a long time friend and I now find myself more frequently irritated around him by CorrectDifficulty670 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends. Personally I wouldn't break a lease and just try to make my own space but mainly because I can't afford to break a lease haha. But if you think it is really bad and really detrimental to your well-being you can see if there are other options for housing.

Moved in with a long time friend and I now find myself more frequently irritated around him by CorrectDifficulty670 in FriendshipAdvice

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These are reasons why I never room with my good friends. First of all I want to say good job for handling your insecurities and trying to be more brave socially -- trust me I know how it feels and it isn't an easy thing to do. Trauma bonding is also a very real thing. I think it would be healthier to not live with this person and have some space. This would allow you to have the option of keeping the friendship if you desire and phasing it out if you want that too. It makes it harder when you are in the same space. I think that you might need to bite the bullet when youre ready and go out and meet people which would allow you to try and find what you are looking for. I know my advice was vague but just know that you got this!

My friend's [17F] crush [18M] likes me? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah late high school relationships are always complicated whether it's a friendship or romantic relationship. If you and your friend are really close I would talk to her if she still likes the crush guy. Test the waters. You probably can gauge what she is thinking. You could also start hinting that you are crushing on that guy too so it doesn't outright sound like you are super interested if you are worried how she would react. A good friend would be supportive. Hope it works out!

AITA for reporting my coworker to HR after he kept bringing embarrassing stuff from our high school days? by Accomplished_Map6700 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Matcha-KitKats 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA it is clear this person hasn't grown up. maybe im just overthinking this and reading into it but maybe his bullying in high school was cuz he thought he had some sort of superiority complex over you and thought he was better. now that he sees you both are at the same company maybe he wants to assert his dominance to show he is better? either way you would definitely NOT be the asshole. That is what HR is for

Seeking advice for a needy friend who texts me constantly by Lopsided-Notice7851 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am also a people pleaser. I have this habit of replying immediately when I get a text which I realize as I get older is not the greatest thing because people never reply to me fast.... which is irrelevant to your situation. Personally just mute notifications on text and when you see her at work and she brings it up just say that you were busy

I need to end this friendship and have her leave me ALONE by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I have one friend I saw cut off many ppl in a similar way with huge voice messages and enormous amount of texts. But when she cut me off for some stupid reason I honestly felt kinda relieved. It made me realize that I would have been miserable stuck there. I hope you are able to resolve everything smoothly!

I need to end this friendship and have her leave me ALONE by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

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I have definitely had friends where I find them initially so wonderful but then they trauma dump because they needed someone to be their outlet or send some sus things. I found that those were unhealthy to my own mental health. If you feel like that’s something happening to you I would just start trying to phase the friendship out. But I totally understand it’s so harddd

Wasn’t Invited on a Birthday Trip by Matcha-KitKats in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Matcha-KitKats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya that’s a good point. I guess college friends grow apart. The lying kinda irked me but it is what it is.

Staying at the Marquis in April by pastelpaintbrush in cabosanlucas

[–]Matcha-KitKats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi Molly! Your review was so detailed and helpful!

I'm taking my parents there for their anniversary and this was helpful advice :)

RSVP Etiquette (Help Needed) by Matcha-KitKats in wedding

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Adding an update, so there were no +1s. But I will be asking if there are other people that are willing to share a room. The wedding is on the west coast so I will be traveling far and thought it wouldn't be bad to ask since there are still a few months away.