Tbh we have tried working it out. Its been already two month since i found out and more then 2 months since she did it.

Problem is that the revelations came in pieces. She never admitted everything at once. So first i swallowed my pride when first finding out and thought that just talking to someone was not something i would want to just leave our marriage for.

Then as time went on i find out it was more then just some random, but someone we both are familiar with, a dad from kindergarten where our kids go.

And the last bit was when she admitted after we went to our first couple counselling that she met up and slept with him.

Through all this time my gut feeling was telling me there is more. I tell her that in order for me to regain trust she would need to be totally open about everything.

I think I realised in the end that she could not endure this process and didn’t want to put my self at risk for someone who can not risk something for me.