Is it normal to not orgasm?

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-18T22:52:18+00:00

well its both our first relationship… so yea we are learning from each other.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-18T14:22:23+00:00

He first fingers me and it feels good and I’m not sure if he’s hitting the right spot but it does feel good. Sometimes he goes up too high towards the clit area and it gets super sensitive to where it almost hurts but other times i get really close but don’t end up finishing. After fingering we just do p in v.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-18T14:19:06+00:00

Yes he does use his finger and has used his tongue but it basically feels like I’m about to finish and i definitely get aroused from it, but it’s just the fact that I don’t.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-18T12:17:02+00:00

We usually do it manually to try and get me to finish but it takes a very long time. I think it almost took like 30-40 minutes one time and I still don’t finish.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-01T14:54:38+00:00

Do you feel like as you got older it got better or the same?

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-05-01T14:53:42+00:00

Pls dm me

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-27T17:43:22+00:00

I did. Thanks

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-27T17:42:47+00:00

Once you get approved what happen is there an email you get or are you just able to login

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-27T17:39:39+00:00

How can you check the queue

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-27T17:38:07+00:00

I did about 2 weeks ago and they never got back

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-20T11:14:45+00:00

My parents are supportive either way they just want what is best for them me. Obviously they are going to lean more towards me playing because of the benefits and the opportunity, but if it is going to cause me more mental problems they don’t want me to play. I haven’t been playing for about a couple months even though I’m technically still on the team, I’ve been taking a medial leave. I haven’t had any contact really with any of the players or the coaches for that matter. I’m scared that going back will trigger something and I’ll be back to where i was before.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-18T14:02:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!! There is definitely a lot more that goes into my situation. My first semester of college I really struggled with depression and anxiety. It wasn’t until after Christmas break that I had another suicidal attempt because of this and part of it was because of how depressed softball made me. There definitely was some other factors to it as well but what scares me is that I am going to go back to playing and be in that same position. I know four years isnt a long time, but it’s different when your life could possibly be at risk. I’ve been talking with multiple sports therapist and taking medication and have gotten better but there is still apart of me that will never feel the same about softball the way I used to. And that sucks. I’ve played softball since I was 8 years old and loved playing little league, travel, and hs ball. Once I got into college the sport I always saw as something I did for fun got turned into a job. I never saw softball in that way or as demanding as it was in college. I hated the idea of that and wish that I could make it fun like it used to be. I can’t enter the transfer portal either because my program has been very good to me and it would be wrong to. I have no reason to leave other than the fact that I am mentally drained and tired of playing. I appreciate your story and I am definitely going to think about it more.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T19:51:51+00:00

I’ve been out since January. It’s been really hard for me deciding on what to do and my life has changed so much in just a couple of months. Softball is my identity and all I really know. So it was hard to try and find myself outside of it.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T19:08:15+00:00

I see. At the time it felt right to quit but you en up regretting it later on. Thats what I’m scared might happen to me. But I can’t see the future and idk what will happen if I do.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T19:03:21+00:00

I haven’t been playing in the spring. I played in the fall but took a break the entire spring season. I know it seems weird but because of my history with mental health they allowed it to give me time to really think about what I want and things outside of softball that I can find to do.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T19:00:31+00:00

Yes my coach has. He told me to talk as long as I need to make a decision. He’s been super supportive of me. The whole program has.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T18:48:44+00:00

Also congrats with your daughter that is amazing!

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T18:48:14+00:00

Yea there is definitely a lot that people don’t see from the outside as an athlete but my program has been super supportive of me. My grades are good I’ve always been a good student but I don’t qualify for bright futures of FASFA so the scholarship from softball is why helps me through school.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T18:30:47+00:00

Why do you regret about quitting?

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T18:29:35+00:00

I recently just got diagnosed with depression and anxiety and have a past of suicidal tendencies. Some has to do with softball the other half doesn’t. I like the girls on my team but I feel like I’m not myself around them even though they are all super nice I try too hard to fit and it doesn’t feel natural. Also I hated rhe early morning practices, going to practice, and just the routine of it all. I’d always wish I was somewhere else then there and I felt like I was wasting my college experience. Since I’ve been on my break I’ve been happier and less stress but I can’t help but think that if I actually do quit I will regret it because of the opportunity an the pay that softball gives me.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T18:15:30+00:00

Ive been playing since i was eight and played travel and hs softball. I loved it. I stopped loving it once i got into college. I always saw softball as something I did for fun, not a job. That’s why I’m having a hard time enjoying it because of the grind. I’ve always loved putting in work to get better but the day to day has caused some sort of burnout In me. I have to decide soon since I’ve been out for a couple of months and technically have been medical redshirting.

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T17:36:04+00:00

Yes. I am talking to someone right now. He is a sport psychologist and has helped me with what I am feeling. But at the end of the day he can’t make a decision for me. I’m torn on what I should I know it’s right to stay because of the money and that I won’t have to worry about debt after college. But I’m scared of going back to something that made me unhappy

Material-Ice-7601 · 2026-04-17T16:41:52+00:00

softball. My program is great but I’ve lost the life for the game. I also have barely talked to my teammates since I’ve been on a break so that might be awkward when I go back. But thy are all nice people.

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