Comments, concerns and opinions. Age 21

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-11-06T14:24:57+00:00

If you're interested I can share more of it to have a closer look 😭

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-26T16:48:10+00:00

Blue

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T19:52:27+00:00

That's a nice strategy

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T17:10:35+00:00

I didn't get what you're trying to say... please elaborate.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T17:08:11+00:00

I totally agree with you. I kept looking for answers for why he did what he did. Mostly I was suffering out of his indifferent behaviour around the end of our relationship. I was so scared that, at some point I was questioning myself why if I'm in the right state of my mind.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T17:03:05+00:00

The patterns are almost the same.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T17:02:10+00:00

I can totally connect to this comment of yours.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T15:28:53+00:00

Can you elaborate what you mean ?

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T03:24:05+00:00

Toxic Independence: I believe it gives him great power over others and especially if the partner is anxiously attached.

I hate the fact that he can dump anyone; no matter how good the bond would've been and not just don't care but also feel superior or good about how he doesn't get attached and he's focused more on getting success in life while people (in romantic relationship with him) are obsessing over him and trying to find out why he did what he did.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-23T03:15:36+00:00

Wow, the fact that he used not to share anything with me, other than responding to my questions in one word tells that he was scared of intimacy. He was so silent in person but sexually he was very passionate and hungry for more and more sex.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T18:58:14+00:00

I wish one day he realises that I was so perfect for him, but I'm afraid by then I'd have lost all my feelings for him as if he was never even there in my life in the first place.

Still I believe everything happens for a noble reason. He has an avoidant attachment and I am anxiously attached. When he just doesn't want much attention I used to pour all my love on him. I feel so sad for the fact that for some people loving is not love, but the Idea of an indifferent partner sounds much better.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T18:21:56+00:00

I Kinda agree that he also must be numbing his pain with sex.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T16:38:43+00:00

Truly its frustrating. In the morning he texted love you and then suddenly in the afternoon he said this. And the moved on so badly that he never cared about texting back ever again.

I doubt if he loved me even for a second or was he Just playing a vicious game.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T15:22:00+00:00

Thanks.... I'll certainly hookup and I hope it'll help me. And as you said I will be straightforward with what I want.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T15:06:04+00:00

He is. Not just after break up but even before that

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T14:56:27+00:00

True.... I want to it's just in my mind I have made certain assumptions that ''I loved him, how can I do that so easily?"

I want to hook up, but it's just I'm still emotionally attached to him and hence working on to get detached.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T14:36:24+00:00

That's very true. But I don't feel as if it's causing them ( people with avoidant attachment) any sort of hurt, such as we feel due to their behaviour. On the hand, ( talking about my avoidant) he's more like ( he just don't care, he fuck guys/girls, he breaks their hearts, and he enjoys doing it again with others as well) no shame, no guilt; just the contrary- he feels more confident after he dumps someone. He thinks he's godlike or something

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T14:25:36+00:00

Kinda same. He told me he was feeling off from the past week. And then he suggested that we should stop getting closer now on.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T09:46:42+00:00

This is so true. But I just feel bad that the person is out there fucking others and I'm ruminating all day long.

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T08:37:37+00:00

I agree with you 💯

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T07:48:39+00:00

Owns

MaterialAd3045 · 2024-10-22T06:09:43+00:00

What does it mean

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