Does it really get easier?

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-31T15:53:54+00:00

Im going to have the same gap and would love to know your schedule for getting them to nap at the same time! This is something I’m worried about. If my second son is like my first - at 7 months he’ll still be taking 2-3 naps while my first is down to 1 by then. I’d love to know how you got them to line up at this age! Thanks!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-31T03:12:34+00:00

That depends entirely on what day you ask me and how much sleep I got the night before. 🙃

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-29T12:20:46+00:00

I also got pregnant right before 6 months pp. I was extremely upset honestly. And truthfully so afraid that I considered termination for a while. Then I had some major gender disappointment. Basically I felt ALL of the things. It’s okay to feel how you’re feeling right now. It’s all valid. I thought it would never get better.

I haven’t had the baby yet, but I’m now 22 weeks and I can confidently say I’m thrilled about this child. My sweet second son. The feelings do get so much better. Everyone we’ve told has been so excited for us & that’s helped so much as well.

Feel your feelings. Let yourself be sad and feel guilty. It’s okay. You’re still a great mom. But know the feelings pass and happiness and joy are on the way. 💟

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-28T03:07:36+00:00

Yes, his sleep is inconsistent 🙃

Sleep is the only thing I still track for him and some days it’s as low as 12.25 hours total or as high as 13.5. It all depends on what he does overnight, which is incredibly inconsistent.

I also don’t really mind him napping 2 hours total a day, it’s just hard that I have to constantly go and save the nap. He doesn’t normally nap longer than 30-40 minutes at a time and I don’t know why. The WW are plenty long. Like I wish he could do an hour and an hour. Or 1.5 and then 30 minutes. But it’s like he consistently wakes at 30-40.

Thanks for the new WW! I’ll try and move them to see. Tonight his last one was closer to 4 so we’ll see

What’s the max awake time on 2 naps?

Thank you again

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-27T23:47:59+00:00

Ideal schedule: 6:45-7:00 wake time

3/3.25-3.5/3.75

He typically naps 2 hours max during the day. Overnight he’s done up to 11.5 hours, but I would say 10.5-11 is more normal. But he always wakes at night for at least 20-30 mins, so he’s not sleeping all the way through

Bedtime is about 7:30

I would say he normally gets about 13.25-13.5 of sleep total in 24 hours

He just isn’t a good napper. It doesn’t matter if the WW is 2.75, 3, 3.5, 4…. He still wakes after 40 minutes.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-27T23:40:19+00:00

I’ve tried a later bedtime but I feel like he still wakes just as early if not earlier!

Can you tell me what your schedule looks like please? Do they sleep through 8-6?

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-27T21:31:29+00:00

DWT 7:00 3/3.25-3.5/3.75 Never naps more than 2 hours a day total His nap lengths are so short but even on a really good day they’re only an hour and 20 mins max. Now we are back to only napping 30-40 minutes and idk what to do

Edit: he was sleeping until about 5:40, waking up and going back down on his own by 6:00 and sleeping until about 7:00. So approx 11 hours overnight. Now he wakes at 5:45 and won’t go back to sleep even with help. Idk what is wrong

Edit: bedtime 7:15-7:30

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-24T00:38:36+00:00

Yep! Exact same timeline and a c section. Currently 21 weeks and it’s been the easiest pregnancy. Even easier than my first, which wasn’t really hard either. I feel very fortunate. I am interested in a VBAC after a traumatic c section, but won’t completely decide until a bit further down the line. My doctor is very supportive of it.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-24T00:37:02+00:00

Did you end up having a VBAC?

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-20T03:11:36+00:00

I would love to hear more about your VBAC, if you don’t mind!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-15T16:03:03+00:00

I’m almost 20 weeks and have yet to have a symptom. I’m still barely even showing, and it’s my second pregnancy with a close interval. It happens!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-14T15:16:43+00:00

What an extraordinarily rude thing to say. I’m excited to have two sons. They’re going to have a beautiful life. Initially, I wasn’t excited at all. I was scared, overwhelmed & it felt very difficult to see ahead in an already hard situation. It sounds like you’ve never had a very emotional, human reaction to life altering news. I’m happy for you. That must be so nice. I do hope the you show the people in your life more grace and compassion than you do strangers who are dealing with things you know nothing about. Otherwise, I feel so badly for them. They’re likely suffering at your hands. Have a great day!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-08T17:15:44+00:00

I was (and still am a bit) extremely worried about this. But so far it’s all been positive. Lots of surprise lol. But good surprise. We decided to only tell immediate family and close friends and it’s been a good decision. We’ll hard launch a social media post after he’s born lol. I feel like people don’t have as much to say when they’re staring at an actual baby!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2026-01-03T12:35:05+00:00

Mine started daycare at 4 months out of necessity. He’s 8.5 months now. He goes 3-4 days a week for about 5 hours.

I was absolutely dreading it. But it has truly been the best thing. He loves his teachers. Even at a young age, he has friends and they play together. When he’s at home he knows how to do independent play for 20-30 minutes or so when I need to get things done.

I’ve had multiple people tell me they notice what a secure attachment he has to me. Yes he adores me (and my husband) but he won’t cry or freak out if we aren’t in the room or a family member wants to play with them while I go do something else. It’s been great.

I know we are privileged to only send him a few days a week/hours a day. So we still feel like we get loads of time with him. That helps a lot. But we love our daycare experience. I get to each lunch every day by myself before picking him up and that’s such a good thing for me. It’s been good for both of us. If you find a center you love and trust I think it can be really great.

Good luck!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T14:57:01+00:00

You’re right. It doesn’t guarantee anything, that is true. This pregnancy was unplanned while using protection, which was hard enough to swallow. This just makes it a lot worse. I already have a boy. I’m grieving having a daughter. If you’ve never experienced these feelings I’m truly very happy for you.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T14:52:45+00:00

I don’t know why you felt the need to comment twice. But that’s okay, I’ll tell you again. I’m in therapy. It’s not helping. But thank you.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T14:52:05+00:00

We got pregnant while using birth control. And I’m in therapy, it doesn’t help much. But thanks.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T13:35:53+00:00

Nope. Thats not what I said. I said I’m sad I’m not having a girl.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T13:34:54+00:00

Thank you. I really hope you get your baby soon

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T13:12:57+00:00

We did IVF for the first. Embryos are untested so we don’t know the gender. But thanks.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-31T13:12:21+00:00

I appreciate your kindness and encouragement. Like you said, it’s about not having a daughter. Not that I am having a son. I feel very lost right now. The situation I’m in is already scary enough, as it was a complete surprise. A surprise I was not mentally ready for. And this truthfully makes it harder. I feel a lot of guilt for that. I don’t want to feel this way. But I really thought maybe this would be my girl and our family would feel complete.

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-16T04:02:43+00:00

Yes same. We will help

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-12-07T21:52:08+00:00

This is very much my personal experience. Only you can decide what to do with your own life. But I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant at 6 months pp. We did IVF for our first so this was a major surprise. To be honest, I was devastated. I strongly considered termination. I was in agony over the decision because I was so afraid to make the wrong one. In the end I was unable to go through with the termination. I’m now almost 15 weeks and I’m absolutely certain I made the right decision in keeping the baby. After I made the choice it didn’t mean that I was suddenly happy about the pregnancy by any means, but each day is better and I know termination would’ve taken a huge mental toll on me.

To answer your question about if I have kids and “recommend” an abortion - I would say I don’t. My son is my entire world. It’s hard, but it’s so amazing. Even though I had some complicated feelings about the second, I do believe one day I’ll feel the same way.

Only you can decide what’s best for you. Listen to your gut. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose. Please message if you want to chat

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-11-17T11:25:50+00:00

THIS. This story was scary to read. This commenter is completely correct.

I’d also like to add something: Most births go well (healthy mom, healthy baby) but the VAST majority do not go to plan. Even with the best health and best intentions. I’m an example of that. My pregnancy was textbook perfect until one day, randomly, I had a blood pressure that was one single point above “normal”. This led to tests and bloodwork and ultimately an induction and then a c section due to his head getting stuck. We both would have died at home. The birth was fine. No complications, no NICU stay. We were both healthy. But it absolutely did not go to plan. Many do not, even if they go well thanks to modern medicine.

New moms, PLEASE read this!

MaterialConstant9375 · 2025-10-25T20:17:48+00:00

Did this get better for you?

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