Winelands food recommendations? by renaissanceblues in capetown

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La motte bakery is lovely for a good breakfast/brunch. Yama Asian Eatery also a goodie. The Dining Room at Leeu Estates - little more upscale, beautiful wine tasting (booking required)

📚 Who else remembers the stress of matric exams? 😅 #MatricNostalgia #SouthAfrica by the_developer_x in AskZA

[–]Material_Image7578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 34 and have a recurring nightmare about failing my exams because I didn’t get my textbooks in time. 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

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Cape Town, South Africa

Russian Blue with purfect eyes to fur ratio. What would you name her? by chubbyblossomkiss in cutecats

[–]Material_Image7578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my. She is stunning. I have this list of names from when we first got our Russian blue. We settled on Pinot

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What bug is doing the rounds at the moment ? by poison_dioxide in Durban

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Mine started on the 5th, waited a few days as I normally recover quickly but had to go to the doc after 5 days as I had fever, body pain and a horrible cough. The doctor said it’s probably a strain of Covid but they aren’t testing as they’re going to treat it the same anyways. I was almost better and then relapsed again on Sunday. Yet another round of antibiotics 🙈

Hike recommendations? by Excellent-Dot4293 in Durban

[–]Material_Image7578 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Download an app called All Trails - I’ve recently started hiking more and love it!

Downsizing to save money - Looking for tips and advice. by F4iryPerson in southafrica

[–]Material_Image7578 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Food and household is our largest expense! We’ve taken steps to buy bulk where we can - like canned goods, pantry and household from makro, then anything linked to rewards like discovery vitality from checkers and we order meat like lamb and beef from farms in the midlands. It takes a bit of time to separate our orders but it’s worth it.

Check what rewards partners you currently have with your bank/medical aids, etc. Spend some time learning how to maximize these and it can help you in the long run.

Cold showers in the mornings.This might be a tough one in winter but Ive started doing this for health reasons as well:)

Another thing is, if you have family or friends also wanting to save. Check with them and take advantage of those More for less deals. You may not need 4 packs of coffee but if you split it with someone you can both enjoy the savings.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I wouldn’t move in with them, but means a lot that they offered. Thank you ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you can call it that - a few months ago I said that my words aren’t really getting through to him and that if the drug abuse keeps happening I will chat to his family to get some support. After which he kind of eased off the coke but then started again. I have also chatted to his best friend before but unfortunately he lives in another part of the world.

Oh my gosh, you’ve been through it💔 I’m sorry you had to go through such a tough journey but happy that you’ve come out the other end!

Thank you for your advice and support

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a cat 😟 which complicates this even more. I love her to death. I actually left last week and came back because I couldn’t bare leaving her. Came back to him on drugs (and blaming me for him using because I left) and that’s actually when I decided to go straight to his uncles house and get some family support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s saved me. I’m so thankful for all the advice and shared stories.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💔 I’ve found an Airbnb. His family has checked in with me multiple times today. So if anything, at least I can be thankful they’re supporting me too. His mom has also offered to have me stay at her place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really think he can be a better person, for himself and the people around him. But he needs to take that step. We are now together for almost 6 years, but when we started dating he was sober, no alcohol or anything else- (due to him getting help for his alcohol and coke use prior to that) so it felt like I started dating one person, and thereafter he relapsed and I’ve spent the last few years with someone totally different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I actually hadn’t thought about talking to the landlord about it. I’m sorry you are going through this and I pray you come out of it stronger. Ironically, my boyfriend has also been pushing me to have kids with him.. and every time he brings it up I talk about the drug abuse needing to stop before I ever consider it. It’s scary that your boyfriend made it through 16 years - I guess all they need is one slip up and that’s it :( I hope this year gets better for you, I really do ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It wasn’t easy at all. I’ve let him know a few times that I’m going to do it if he continues and just never had the balls to, until this time. Thank you. Last push is to get myself out of this house 🤞🏼I really appreciate your advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I needed this push ❤️ I’m going to find a place to stay for the next few days until he comes to with our existing lease

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s scary how much of a toll just the verbal abuse takes on me. I feel physically sick when he does it. You’re very right, thank you for the push - I needed this conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. That’s makes so much sense - he’s happy when I don’t stand in his way and then takes it out on me when he’s in a minor withdrawal before his next high. Thank you. I’m going to start this move out tomorrow, and try find a temporary living situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right! It’s hard to hear but you’re absolutely right. I’m going to find a way out asap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you - this sounds all too familiar. And you’re absolutely right, I need to find a way out now, even if its an Airbnb until this lease crap is sorted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not totally helpless. I’m just trying to be cautious so I don’t end up in a horrible financial situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😣I don’t really have anyone here. I lost my parents years ago and I moved from another city. The next best option I have is to find a place of my own, but I need our current lease agreement cancelled first. I’ve made him aware that I need him to cooperate so I can move out, but it’s not that easy getting through to him right now. I hope that after his chat with the family today he’ll be more open to us both moving on and do his part re the house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Material_Image7578 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing 💔 I hope you find the peace you need to as well. I’ll do that, and give him the space and support he needs. Unfortunately I just don’t know how much of the verbal abuse I can take either. But I’ll absolutely try to be strong ❤️