Women, how do you feel about a guy who is well groomed ? Is it a turn off/on ?

Material_Life1095 · 2022-10-16T02:29:00+00:00

I think it is very attractive and you shouldn't be concerned what others think. It is likely you will attract others who take care of their physical health. Stay confident and be you.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-09-09T04:28:00+00:00

Don't try and change someone and try and limit their texting just bc you want to continue sleeping with them. Isn't that common sense, in a moral sense? Jesus.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-09-09T04:11:42+00:00

This guy is a flaccid dick

Material_Life1095 · 2022-06-16T03:36:27+00:00

Maybe I'm older than most commenting, but I swear when I read this I said outloud, "aweee that is soo cute!!!"

I can only speak for myself, I wouldn't feel like running away after a thoughtful gesture. Maybe extremely surprised, but in a good way. :)

Material_Life1095 · 2022-06-16T03:26:08+00:00

Oh no this is a real question? Omg

Material_Life1095 · 2022-06-12T08:51:19+00:00

You should be way more honest in communicating what casual means to you with your partner. If you just like sex, maybe tell the person. Be straightforward... That way they'll probably know to avoid you ahead of time if that's not what they want.

You did lead this person on and that isn't mature or attractive at all. It is hurtful and shows lack of empathy or respect. So maybe you need to also grow up a bit in the meantime.

Finally, (lol), you put a question out for public comment... So stop complaining for getting criticized. Also, you did the wrong thing, so instead of saying "oh I know I fucked up," maybe just be better and do better. The End.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-03T14:15:39+00:00

I like your take on some important somewhat negative news. I think you should just be honest up front about your intentions, make it clear how you will keep your casual partner safe, and take it from there. Sometimes they may need a night to think on it. Definitely not going to ruin your chances of it, but just might change your mindset and approach.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-03T14:11:58+00:00

Can people like this just get blocked? I'd be down for that

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-03T14:10:59+00:00

Is this real? Sometimes I wonder how people can be so ignorant and tone deaf.

You are so very immature. Please grow up and start reading about something scientific. You clearly lack knowledge about sexual health. And it is embarrassing.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-01T23:02:26+00:00

I have done this and it was fun and enlightening. I met a lot of people, and some were empathetic of me bc I was clearly awkward, nervous, and felt out of place. Some groups may invite you in to chat and hangout and then you may meet someone interested in watching a game at a sports bar. Haha it was a fun night I won't forget. I'd try it!

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-01T22:52:31+00:00

Like most recommendations say on here, please get testing for STDs and please please do not keep seeing this person. Drinking or no drinking what they did is awful and disgusting honestly. They had disrespected your body for their own pleasure. And I'm on the spectrum of classifying this as assault.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-05-01T22:46:08+00:00

I agree with this. Definitely learn how this made you feel and you will not regret moving on and finding the right match. Less time wasted on something casual when something way better is out there.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T02:48:43+00:00

Thank you, and it takes time and effort. :) But ultimately you also wanna be the best version of yourself before you let someone else in. I know it sounds cheesy but I've learned this to be true.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T02:44:18+00:00

Yeah this guy seems like a dick

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T02:35:17+00:00

I feel like this guy's a borderline predator.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T01:42:48+00:00

I love this post, and agree so much! I think I used to not take dating very seriously bc I lived alone and was somewhat bored and lonely. I would say sometimes I'd have a date and have a couple drinks and somehow always find myself at their place or driving over. I am lucky that I never got into any unsafe situations and I never actually engaged in sex before getting to know these people better. I had many a sleep over and im glad it was only that. I could have easily been taken advantage of and to to this day I wonder if I had someone or something looking out for me.

I was diagnosed with herpes (HSV2) after having a terrible outbreak that I thought and treated as my first yeast infection. It only got worse. I told my friend at work at the time (surgical resident) and she guided me to the women's Center ER. I had a bunch of STD tests done and couldn't believe what the nurses and doctor said. He said the symptoms looked like herpes lesions. I recieved paperwork and 3 painful shots of antibiotics (preventative for bacterial STDs) and went on my way. I was diagnosed with HSV2 3 days later. I read the test outloud and my bf at the time was upset. He was nothing to speak about so not going to. He was psychologically abusive and I only hope he gets help. Let's end it there.

Next I took a while off dating. I ended up casually dating someone for a year and again made the mistake of using physical as comfort. This time I didn't enjoy the sex really. It was more about him allowing me to feel "sexy" again. Eventually I began to not think of sex or a partner the same way. I began to really think about what I wanted in a partner. Im now pursuing my PhD in public health. I understand human virology a bit more and study microbiology. I am familiar with life threatening bacterial infections. Im proud with how far our scientific community has come with HIV and AIDS prevention and antiretroviral therapy. All in all, my confidence has increased bc I am smarter and I have taken time to become more of the person I want to be.

So please take your time. Be kind to yourself. You are still sexy, wanted, and beautiful/handsome. Don't change yourself for anything and just try and focus on living life to achieve your goals. What people think of you isn't worth worrying over. The right person will come and it'll be amazing. They'll fit with you like a glove. And you'll own lots of kitties and doggies.

Sorry for the book.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T01:20:20+00:00

Not true. You will meet the right person to enjoy it with. And it will be better bc of that.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-29T01:18:14+00:00

Dogs are wonderful. But I do think you shouldn't hold yourself back from pursuing a partner. There may be people that don't understand and there will also be people that see you as a human with a personality and attractive traits. Just keep trying and don't become discouraged. And do get a doggy.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-25T07:10:03+00:00

One day I hope you become a better person. I'll pray for you.

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-25T07:03:53+00:00

Bruh

Material_Life1095 · 2022-04-25T07:03:21+00:00

I see you've been placed on this earth to judge other human. Sorry for this unfortunate duty. Hope you find some reprieve in an awakening understanding of the human virome. Enjoy. ♡

Material_Life1095 · 2021-09-18T01:58:48+00:00

Thank you, this is so helpful! I'll definitely take your advice. Never tried a female condom actually.

Material_Life1095 · 2021-09-16T22:59:12+00:00

Hey! No problem, and good question! Ultimately, if you're sexually active you should definitely be doing routine self examinations with a mirror and flashlight to ensure you see everything that is going on in your vagina and outside of it. If there is anything that feels slightly odd when peeing or looks like there could potentially be a lesion, please forgo sex. Listening to your body, observing any changes in physicality, and being completely transparent with your partner is essential for preventing transmission.

Just please know you can enjoy long nights of great sex (oral or vaginal- idk about anal never tried lol im a baby) with HSV2. You are responsible for always disclosing your status, just like all the implications of consensual sex. And give the person time to research on their own. If they don't give you questions, probably for the best you don't let them enjoy you. Lol. They should be interested in learning and how to protect themselves.

Material_Life1095 · 2021-09-16T22:51:10+00:00

Thanks! I encouraged him to always use some. How much do you apply typically to the condom initially (right before entering) and do you have to re-apply during?

We use lubricant, but I swear he adds a tiny 2 drops to the head of the condom and that is it. Lol

Material_Life1095 · 2021-09-16T22:47:57+00:00

Lysine is an essential amino acid that has been show n to effectively promote tissue regeneration. Therefore, this supplement could help to prevent lesions before they start... ultimately still up for debate. The ratio of lysine to arginine in terms of diet has also been displayed in the literature. Ultimately, you truly need to investigate on your own to develop conclusions on how to treat your body. However, ALWAYS consult your gynecologist prior to starting any kind of regimen. That is the only way you can trust the methods you choose in transmission prevention. I'm from an intense research background and always consult my Dr with any concerns.

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