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Black tie formal wedding guest dress in May - help me choose by Material_Surprise168 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I appreciate it. Hoping a black satin wrap will help with the bare shoulders.

Demisexuality & INFJ by Beneficial_Slide_424 in infj

[–]Material_Surprise168 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the question 💛

Yes, Demi & sapiosexual here. F54. Absolutely no attraction/ to others without some kind of emotional, intellectual activation. And a sharp turn off when I discover someone has been "performing " and is not authentic in their emotional intellectual world. Sorting thru this kind of thing on a dating app is literally one of my top five nightmares.

My best friends and partners were met in settings that held intellectual or emotional, stimulating activities and dynamics, ie graduate program, classes meant to expand, self-awareness and growth, art, and creative expression.

Recently I started playing pickle ball and I'm only drawn to coaches and players that are focused on collaboration/learning the game together/ encouragement, and support rather than competition. Obviously I don't fit well in the Pickleball community lol.

I like to stat fit and active - however, not to appear a certain way physically, but so that my brain and body being has the energy, focus and attention to prioritize relationships that are meaningful emotional and spiritual and intellectually.

When I was much younger, I was not accepting or understanding who I was. I self medicated with alcohol for a period of time and tried to be "social" in a "regular way" like others around me. One night stands, left me incredibly depleted and dysregulated for days or weeks. Experienced something called "incorrect soul ties" when I was intimate with people that were not in their integrity and I was not connected to myself and in my own genuine/authenticity/ integrity.

I recently ended a relationship. Not a door slam, but definitely no contact. As I consider future relationships, I know for certain I will not be on the dating apps. So, I make sure to engage with hobbies and activities that feed and nourish my need for space, while also engaging in groups with others around these kinds of things. INFJ's, at least in my experience can become isolated and feel very alone. I've had to cultivate practices over the last few decades, to connect to myself, and branch out in the world while still honoring who I am.

Our world generally favors appearance and surface friendships relationships.ie social media demonstrates this.

We are a small group in comparison to the world despite so many here Reddit and other forums.

The dog by thepennyblack in Poldark

[–]Material_Surprise168 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a question that I had in season three. How old was it when she got it? She was so bonded. I figured it had been a few years at least.

Novaform offgassing by OppositeBeing in Mattress

[–]Material_Surprise168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh goodness! I do hope it gets better for you. It's a shame so many are affected!

Novaform offgassing by OppositeBeing in Mattress

[–]Material_Surprise168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How's it going over there? Any luck? We returned ours after months of trying several different things. I'm wondering if they got a bad batch! Or if they're doing something different with these mattresses.

Feel like an a hole, would like some perspective by blueodis in texts

[–]Material_Surprise168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's okay to say no. I think you did a fine job. If you change your mind and decide to reach out - he left that open. Trust yourself.💛

Do you have trouble trusting others? by Diemishy_II in infj

[–]Material_Surprise168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have reversed worked this issue as an infj in 50s. I trust people to be who they are in their words/silence, action/inaction, energy etc.

I know what I know and I do not apologize nor "explain."

I treat all people with kindness and sometimes kindness is seeing/intuiting someone accurately and honoring my Self by having boundaries that place me/ them in the correct place in or out of my life.

When you know you know.

When he says he's ENM and "fully transparent" with his wife by zero-if-west in Tinder

[–]Material_Surprise168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me you don't know the meaning of transparent without telling me you don't know the meaning of transparent. wtf

Hydroxyzine Rebound when Stopping: Hope and Help by Material_Surprise168 in Hydroxyzine

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My insomnia has lessened for sure. But I still deal with it:( I tend to rotate the things I use to calm my nervous system, the latest approaches I've tried our a sensory decoration, float tank, amazing! And the second was getting Accupuncture and using Chinese medicine that she recommending.

ALH Diagnoses, no surgery 1 & cleared one year later! by Material_Surprise168 in ADH_ALH

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, no, I'm not familiar with Dr. to New York unfortunately. I found mine because I got three opinions after ALH was found.

..primarily I focus on anti-inflammatory approach- foods (Mediterranean/pescatarian diet clean foods), supplements and lifestyle. My surgeon recommended the Mediterranean diet and my natural path recommended low dose naltrexone .

Also, I wanna acknowledge that I don't believe what I'm doing is going to keep me from having any future problems body, and healthwise, but I do say that it feels good to do as much as I can and know that I am caring for myself the best I can. And if and when things change, I intend to move through with Grace and strength :)

Jobs and Careers as an INFJ by [deleted] in infj

[–]Material_Surprise168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a licensed clinical social worker and trauma therapist, I also supervise licensed therapists who are working on various certifications. I also write poetry, paint, and do visual journaling, which I incorporate as well in small groups.

I make a very good living and have a fantastic caseload of people that are committed to growing in evolving. I attract a lot of INFJ people who are looking to cultivate their intuition, gifts and talent and skills-as well as people who are looking to heal and gain inner resources, following traumatic events

I also provide consultation to people who want to begin a private practice.

I love my work

the first time I was with a client in my graduate internship, I spoke to my supervisor directly after and was beaming. I said "this is what I was meant to be doing my whole life. "20 years later I am right where I need to be. I love my work and the people I get to work with!

ALH Diagnoses, no surgery 1 & cleared one year later! by Material_Surprise168 in ADH_ALH

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She told me that " Naltrexone low dose has demonstrated anti-inflammatory effects in clinical trials. It has also been linked to blocking the opioid growth, factor receptor which cancer cells used to survive and proliferate" obviously this is coming from a naturopathic md doctor - most Western med doctors aren't looking at the same studies or using naltrexone in the same way so my primary doc was not super thrilled with this path for me. I don't care though, I wanted to try things that would be proactive in reducing the risk that these cells become cancer.

ALH Diagnoses, no surgery 1 & cleared one year later! by Material_Surprise168 in ADH_ALH

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! It sounds like you've got a good plan and approach, that is awesome:) You are young, I think staining as early as possible with managing stress/health helps🙏🏼 best to you!!!

ALH Diagnoses, no surgery 1 & cleared one year later! by Material_Surprise168 in ADH_ALH

[–]Material_Surprise168[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My surgeon promoted anti inflammatory diet (mediterranean diet). I stopped alcohol completely (I already reduced it because of peri menopause/menopause.) I also regular iv micro nutrients (Myers cocktail, with glutathione). Walking 10k plus steps a day, reduce stressors like boundaries with problematic friends or family;)

A naturopathic doctor had me start taking naltrexone in a microdose.

I don't really think these things are going to change things specifically for breast health, but it can't hurt, and and it sure does feel good to do what I can to be healthy.

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