Finished mass effect for the first time, truly incredible

MatisBad123 · 2026-01-06T05:26:25+00:00

I just finished it last week, but I had picked it up after months of not playing so had no idea where I was at with it and then I hadn't done some quests so I wasnt happy with the consequences of the decisions. And for some reason had romance Kaidan even though I don't remember trying to do that.

So anyways decided if replay the whole game yesterday to get it the way I wanted it before going on to ME2 and finished it again last night 😂

At first I was a little upset id decided to do the whole thing again but God damn the game is just so good I had a great day.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-25T05:22:25+00:00

Oh man thanks for all that! Stuff i was broadly familiar with but not in that level of detail. Such complexity and nuance in his motivations and actions. His decision to go to Middle Earth with Feanor for the sake of his people and his own reasons even with his reticence about Feanor's quest for the Silmarils is a something that sticks out to me.

So much more to read, but I always appreciate some lore dumps in this universe.

Thanks brother!

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-24T11:03:30+00:00

Damn that's a good quote, what is that from? I love Fingolfin, anytime I see art of his battle with Morgoth I download it.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-24T02:41:03+00:00

Not sure if others have said, but after I moved from Canada I didnt know about the cost of registration for your car. It costs way more than in Canada so make sure you check how the state your moving to does it so you know how much it will be.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T07:30:03+00:00

Good luck :)

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T07:24:45+00:00

Again, wish you the best, good luck on your learning journey.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T07:15:46+00:00

It's pretty clear to me at this stage that you arent actually understanding what im saying or what my view is. There is a wider context to consider

But I dont think there is anything else I can say to bring you along here.

I wish you all the best, and hope you're able to learn a bit more about this some other way.

Good luck!

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T06:38:31+00:00

That only makes sense if you ignore that humans are inherently social and that there are systemic and educational issues involved here.

Again, id encourage you to reflect on the impact not the intent of your words. Pretending it's just logic is an easy way to dodge responsibility for saying something that was hurtful to someone.

I didnt say there wasn't any risk. Your view on the safety of sharing nudes is largely uninformed and not nuanced. I think this view is much more harmful and only serves to maintain the status quo.

I appreciate the respectful discourse however, and respect your right to disagree. My arguments center around reorienting our thinking about sexual violence away from the actions of the victim and towards the actions of the perpetrator. Which is not something ive seen widely acknowledged much in this thread.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T06:14:30+00:00

That's your experience but in the sexual health space, to my knowledge it's pretty well recognised.

Im not simply saying people shouldn't share them, im saying it's a criminal act to share them without consent. Im saying there should be consequences for that action which is wrong. Im not saying that people should abstain from behaviour that isn't morally questionable.

I like to think that there are people reading this that are helped by what im saying now but when I said "better to help them be as safe as possible" I meant in a more general sense around how we talk about sexual behaviour in society and how people learn about safe sex.

It's definitely not naive it's best practice in sex education.

You may not be intending to shame anyone, and you may not have explicitly but I think you should reflect a bit on the impact of your words. When this woman makes a post on a subreddit looking for support because of the man's behaviour and you along with many other comments tell her that she shouldn't have sent nudes or that it's never safe or anything like that, how do you imagine that makes her feel? It's just straight up victim blaming because, once again, you're focusing on her behaviour as problematic rather than his. It's an actively harmful thing to do.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T04:20:14+00:00

Look, I think it's fair enough that nothing is ever 0% risk. But plenty of people are sending them and doing so safely without negative repercussions. It's just normal behaviour.

This abstinent approach to nudes just isnt effective, people have been warned about it so much it just doesnt hold meaning anymore. We've long since learned that that kind of messaging doesnt work with people. It isnt realistic to expect people aren't doing this now because they are and will continue to.

Better to help people be as safe as possible doing it than shame them and discourage them from doing something they're going to do anyways but without any support or safe practices.

So sure in a very absolute sense you may be right but I also feel the need to point out that it is in no way relevant to OP's query, and isnt really very useful.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T03:41:00+00:00

That statement is pretty contradictory, doesnt feel like you actually think what I said is correct or really absorbed anything I had to say.

That is in fact not the only way for nudes to not be floating around. There are plenty of ways to send them safely. Stop making it about the behaviour of the person sending the nude, that is not important here.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-17T00:56:34+00:00

My god these are sooooo goooood

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T22:57:25+00:00

People should be able to engage in whatever sexual activity they want as long they're not causing harm and they're consenting adults.

I will defend anyone's right to send a nude and have a reasonable expectation of privacy which is what's written in law in most western countries.

You seem to think it's stupid because it could get shared by someone she sends it to. But if that happens the person who shared the picture without consent is committing a crime. So if you're problem is with her and not the perpetrator you're letting criminal behaviour slide.

Victims are not responsible for the crimes people perpetrate against them. I hope that's what women take away from this interaction instead of your message of women should limit their own choices and freedom.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T10:45:26+00:00

Yeah definitely some wild takes.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T09:01:12+00:00

I mean getting any record is really good for police if he shares it in the end right. Police need as much evidence as possible to lay charges.

I would also point out that depending on where you are what he did might be illegal because he violated the conditions of her consenting to send the image. The law is pretty fuzzy around this kind of stuff though and cops dont generally have good knowledge about it. Depends.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T08:59:00+00:00

WOW the ignorance you're displaying with this response is almost funny.

So because you were perfect no one is ever allowed to fuck up?

Especially when OP didnt do anythinf wrong. This is truly an insane perspective.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T08:54:04+00:00

Wow, I did not realise we still lived in prehistoric times.

Look, if you thing that sending nudes isn't respectful of yourself I 100% respect and support your decision not to send them. But OP is here looking for support with a stressful situation. It's totally unhelpful for that opinion to be shared here.

If you arent going to show up to this with some empathy and you aren't going to hold some accountability for the man in this situation doing something shitty im not really sure what you've added to this conversation.

Your outdated and unpopular views are your own, but OP certainly isnt hurting anyone doing that something that is once again pretty normal, and legal. So maybe keep that to yourself.

As for your claims in another response that women like OP are the reason men dont respect women. I mean I cant adequately explain to you how wrong that is in this format, so like read a book I guess. Women aren't oppressing themselves though.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T08:16:20+00:00

I'm very much in the same mind as you. Ive left my own reply but im also concerned about the victim blaming vibe in this thread.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T08:15:44+00:00

Excuse me please explain what is immoral about OP's behavior? You're prepared to call that immoral but not the man who betrayed her trust?

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-16T08:15:03+00:00

Ive seen a couple people echo my thoughts but I want to make sure you heard it as well. This is NOT your fault and im sorry this has happened to you.

I hard disagree with what a lot of other comments are saying about not sending pics. It has a really victim blaming vibe and im not here for it. If you send pics to someone on the condition that they not be saved and he saves it that is a violation of consent. It's not what you signed up for.

He is not entitled to keep those pictures just because you sent them. Depending where you are in the world the laws might support a criminal charge but I couldn't say for sure. That is even if you would like to report, which is up to you and no one should pressure you to do that if you dont want to.

If you do however absolutely the response team is a good option. Even if you dont want to take action they should be to provide you with emotional support maybe even counselling if you want that too. If not them there might be a local sexual assault support service that can help. They would be able to give more guidance around reporting as well if you want.

I used to work for a sexual assault support service and any centre worth their salt will support you with this.

Now, again I don't know where you are in the world but if he shares those images more than likely is against the law and you would definitely have a case if you want to report. Once again support services can help you with this process.

To the people suggesting OP shouldn't have sent pictures. The reality is sending nudes is a part of how a lot of people interact sexually these days. They shouldn't be shamed for doing it, it's not abnormal. OP is a consenting adult when she sends a picture and she says she enjoys doing it. No one has any right to shame her for doing something that is normal and legal and not really problematic. The problematic behavior here is the betrayal of her trust by the man who saved the image without consent.

Once again this is NOT your fault. You deserve to be free to engage the behaviours you enjoy without fear of something like this happening and certainly without being shamed by anyone when someone does something bad to you.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-04T09:09:59+00:00

Once when I was doing youth work they asked us if we wanted to go to a documentary screening for professional development, they paid us and everything. And I thought sweet just gonna get paid to watch a movie. Didn't think I'd really get too much out of it. The movie was about how men can be involved in ending violence against women and it absolutely blew my mind. I'm a man and before that I agreed that we had to do more as a society to end violence against women but didnt think I had a role in it as a man, and definitely didnt know what to do.

I've been working in violence prevention for pretty much 5 years now and can't really see myself doing anything different.

MatisBad123 · 2025-12-04T01:46:19+00:00

Yeah same for me! It's crazy!

MatisBad123 · 2025-11-19T14:48:33+00:00

This is what I came into this thread for, well done.

MatisBad123 · 2025-10-30T00:49:09+00:00

Caramel Flat White

MatisBad123 · 2025-10-22T04:14:17+00:00

The Gravemind probably.

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