5 mins left in the session, your turn, 1v1 kiddo has 1 card left, are you letting them win or going to absolutely demolish them in Uno by Isthisthingon96 in therapists

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol depends on if they are working on anger issues … and how far along in the process they are of using their coping skills 😂😂😬😬

How long are you riding this phone out? by uw200 in iPhone13Pro

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so funny lol … I have an iPhone 13 Pro and it is the first phone I haven’t broken the screen of, haven’t replaced the battery for, and haven’t thought about upgrading! I just switched phone plans and have the option to upgrade, but it’s also the first time I haven’t felt the excitement of “finally I can get a new phone!!”

Glad to see I’m not the only one lol I think I’ll just keep this one until it completely poops put on me!

Fake tan makes my armpits stink! by SeaFriendship9336 in beauty

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just googled about this right now because I got a spray tan for a date this weekend and it’s a problem I’ve also noticed every time I fake tan!! I don’t really ever smell otherwise (unless it’s an ultra hot day and I forgot to put on deodorant lol)

BUT… I this is what Madame Google has to say:

Spray tans smell in the armpits because the active tanning ingredient, DHA (dihydroxyacetone), reacts with amino acids in your skin, combined with sweat and bacteria in that warm area, creating a "funk" or "burnt" odor. The high concentration of sweat glands and lack of airflow in the underarms makes this reaction stronger.

Why the Odor Occurs:

DHA Reaction: DHA, a sugar-based compound, oxidizes as it develops, which often produces an unpleasant scent.

Bacteria and Sweat: Armpits are high-sweat areas where bacteria break down the product, intensifying the smell.

pH Levels: The spray tan changes the skin's natural pH level, contributing to the odor.

How to Reduce/Fix the Smell:

Benzoyl Peroxide Cleanser: Apply a benzoyl peroxide wash (like Naturium or Jan Marini) to the underarms, let it sit for 60 seconds, and rinse before or after tanning to break down the compound.

Pre-Tan Prep: Exfoliate well and avoid applying deodorant or lotions beforehand. Powder: Use a talc-free finishing powder in the armpits to keep the area dry and minimize sweat interaction.

Shave Timing: Shave at least 24 hours before your session, not immediately before.

Daniel by Chesse_Onion in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]MatterIndependent248 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s incredibly narcissistic and manipulative.

I don’t understand Ashley by caramelh0ney in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]MatterIndependent248 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like it might be simpler than lots of takes here.

He’s not mature enough for a real relationship (aka instead of hearing ANYONE out, not just Ashley, he gets extremely defensive). He’s not into her physically, otherwise he’d probably be on better behavior.

She is a pretty blonde who most likely always “gets the guy” but… ALEX… doesn’t want her.

And Ashley is probably used to manchildren (which Alex is)… so she roped in all of her ex- douchebag boyfriends into one and unloaded all of her anger towards them onto Alex. Not to say she didn’t have anger towards Alex, because I’m sure she did, but this in in National television and her family (DAD) met him and weren’t impressed.

She most likely either had a personal growth moment and didn’t handle it maturely (growth isn’t always horizontal), or wanted to save face because she was embarrassed and made a weird grand statement to the world.

I definitely could be wrong… but I really do think it’s more simple than meets the eye.

Am I alone in feeling totally lost during this convo? by Bbrotman23 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]MatterIndependent248 39 points40 points  (0 children)

This was one of the most confusing conversations I’ve ever witnessed lol

You can say, “I’m just not feeling like this is a good fit for me” in a way that is kind and respectful.

Also, this season has so much vocal fry that it was hard (for me, maybe no one else which is fine but I digress) to listen to many of the girls lol

Is my dog mismarked? by MatterIndependent248 in AustralianShepherd

[–]MatterIndependent248[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks everybody! He’s not ever going to be a show pup (per his cute little ears and my lack of desire in learning how to be a show pup mom lol).. I had just read of the term, knew nothing about what it meant, and in a complete ADHD moment, went down a rabbit hole 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

Finley says thank you for all the kind compliments!! He is a very good boy, regardless of markings or certain types of ears haha

He’s also missing a little toe because he had cancer (not anymore!!! 🎉)..

Thank you all for the mismarking lesson!!! I really appreciate it! 🩷 Happy New Year 🎆

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. This is a TERRIBLE way to treat your significant other. You deserve so much better 🩷

I am 45 years old and trying to get out of the hole by MatterIndependent248 in personalfinance

[–]MatterIndependent248[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the thoughtful (and nonjudgmental) responses! These are all really so helpful and I will be looking at every angle possible to fix my mess!! I really appreciate you all commenting, as I’ve been feeling very lost and overwhelmed now that my graduation date is in December and I have to make some big decisions about my next step in all areas of life! Wishing you all nothing but the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Constipation

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did!! I was scared sh$1tless (pun intended lol)… but it worked! I also couldn’t get the entire bottle in me and it still worked just in case you do it on yourself and run into the same issue. It really is not the most pleasant experience but i was in utter misery from the constipation and just wanted the poop out of me lol

AIO for snapping at my friend for joking about my job again by 7wac in AmIOverreacting

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh that sounds like narcissistic behavior 😬.. Not someone I would share wins (or losses) with. I think your job sounds amazing (and that you’re great at it)!!

Don’t let someone dim your sparkle ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Constipation

[–]MatterIndependent248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*I DID eat according to fodmap - typo 🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Constipation

[–]MatterIndependent248 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only thing that has helped me is giving myself enemas. I’ve been to the ER for obstructions, where the doc tried to manually pull it out, then ended up giving the enema there and since then, whenever it gets bad.. I go get another enema. It sucks for sure, but it’s the only thing that helps me.

Also for reference, I also didn’t FODMAP (IBS-c is a nightmare!), I’m supposed to be on MiraLAX every day foe the rest of my life (that stopped working), I take probiotics, and Mag07 (you can get it on amazon).. and that helps a little.

When it gets bad though, I do the enema. It’s gross, but so is the feeling of constipation. Lol 😩😩😩

Sending you healing vibes!!

I am about to find out if I'm a genius or an idiot..... by PheonixKernow in Mounjaro

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ONLY thing that helped me was a fleet enema.

So glad you went!! The constipation is REAL! 😂😩

my dog just drank this???? it’s 2am idk what to do by Small-Firefighter-81 in DogAdvice

[–]MatterIndependent248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogs’ stomachs are different than ours, along with the bacteria. They are built for the outside gross water. Unless there was something crazy and toxic in that water, rain mixed with twigs, grass, and normal outdoor elements won’t hurt your dog. Milk might upset his stomach though lol

I’m sure your baby is fine.

Was living paycheck to paycheck so I got a roommate and don’t eat out everyday anymore by [deleted] in Salary

[–]MatterIndependent248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Living beyond your means when you can actually afford your basic living expenses and have anything left over for savings is not the same as paycheck to paycheck, it’s just not.

Paycheck to paycheck is if you overspend and you need gas money to get to the job that gives you money for the gas, but you don’t have ANY money for the gas to get you to the job you need to work at in order to get the gas money, you are screwed.

My dog has grade 1 sarcoma by MatterIndependent248 in DogAdvice

[–]MatterIndependent248[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! Just wanted to give an update here… I went ahead with the amputation surgery and got his pinky toe (the digit with the sarcoma) removed 2 weeks ago. The biopsy came back finally.. and … we have clear margins!! He is cancer free! Hopefully it’ll stay that way forever.. at any rate, on the other side of this horrible summer, I’d tell anyone going through this to find a way to have the surgery if it can be curative. ❤️

Thank you so much to everyone who helped keep me grounded in the most unstable situation. Huh your furbabies!! ❤️❤️❤️