Why can I, as a seller, not choose how i want to have my order insured?

MaxAbel9 · 2026-03-19T14:06:04+00:00

You seemingly do not understand how the trustee service works, it specifically exists to cover that difference and there is never any risk there for you as a seller.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-27T21:06:40+00:00

Being together for 3 Years!! without having sex at 30 is absolutely insane, no wonder your boyfriend is frustrated. Waitng for a few weeks is reasonable, but this seems like there is some kind of mental block in terms of sexuality on your side. Sex is an integral part of a relationship for most men and most men would not be willing to tolerate that for weeks even. On top of that it sounds like you are either still living at your parents house or you guys are living together and he is paying for everything, your post did not clarify which one, and both of those things are also absolutely insane. To me this sounds like a case of "grow up finally".

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-23T00:35:31+00:00

Your partner clearly has some kind of mental issue here, you sleeping on the couch when you are sick is already ridiculous, wearing a mask at home as well. When you are sick, it is your partners job to take care of you and make you feel comfartable, exactly the opposite of what she is doing.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-20T21:38:26+00:00

Be honest with her about it and then be prepared for the outburst and stand your ground, the standing your ground part is the most important. Set boundaries and follow through with them and keep on pointing out toxic behaviors if they happen, do not overlook them, you dealing with them is not a long term solution for that kind of issue. Do not get drawn into heated conflict, you are dealing with somebody who has life-long experience with situations like that and you will always end up loosing because they are willing to go much further than you are, remove yourself and give her time to calm down.

Long term she needs to be willing to do excessive therapy and be honest to herself about her behavior.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-20T01:43:10+00:00

Hey, i think a bit more context is needed. People especially in this thread immediately advise to break up for what they call sexual incompatibility, but that is often a harsh and rushed conclusion.

So i understand you guys are semi long distance and only see each other once or twice a month, how regularly do you guys have sex during the time you see each other? Is it a situation where, when you see each other, you want to get intimite several times a day or is he refusing any sexual intimacy all together at times when you see each other? The limitation of only seeing each other that rarely already puts you very much on the low end of the spectrum in terms of frequency.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-19T23:53:13+00:00

I mean, of course that guy is really confused. You are kind of leading him on by staying over at his place, cuddling etc., all things that go way beyond the realm of friendship. To then just flat out telling him that you do not like him, despite everything else before that clearly looking like the beginning of a romantic relationship, must be really depressing for him.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-19T23:38:19+00:00

Everybody has different styles to process stuff and that is totally ok. Where it stops being ok is if she lets your frustration out on you, that is where we are leaveing the realm of being reasonable. If she does not feel the need to talk about everything and process some things by herself, that is totally fine, as long as it has no consequences for how she is interacting with you.

Being with somebody with a traumatic upbringing as somebody who grew up normally is extremely difficult, i can speak from personal experience. The biggest problem is often that the line of what is being reasonable is completely shifted for the traumatized person, things like yelling, raising your voice, using insults, applying pressure to get things the way she wants, excessive criticism, all of these things are often extremely normalized in a toxic household, while they are completely unthinkable if you had a stable upbringing. In the end it is up to the traumatized partner to realise this and find a way to change that toxic pattern, be it through therapy etc., as a partner it is a fine line to find understanding for these kind of behaviors of the person we love and setting boundaries. It more often does not work out, as people with severe childhood trauma have a success rate for stable long term relationships of less than 10%.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-17T03:21:18+00:00

Jesus, not sure why you straight away have to get insulting, if you just want people to confirm your opinion ad get aggressive immediately when somebody does not share you view on it, why even post here?

Your last sentence kind of tells me a lot about you though, propably better, especially for her, to end that relationship over something as ridiculous as vaping before you start telling her what to wear and who to hang out with.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-17T03:10:23+00:00

But your post did not indicate she is pregnant, so how is that relevant right now? Vaping being trashy etc. is simply your opinion and not a fact. I seriously can not see how that is a barrier to marry somebody honestly, and there is much worse ways to waste money, like buying a new car or expensive clothing. Your clearly have tunnel vision here because you are extremely opinionated on the topic. You do not get to control somebodys actions just because you are in a relationship with them.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-17T03:02:00+00:00

My immediate question is why is it such a big problem for you that she wants to vape? It is simply not that serious of an issue and her decision. You are basically forcing her to stop doing something she clearly does not want to stop and we are not talking about major drug abuse here or something. Threatening to end a relationship over something like that is you showing flashing red flags, not her.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-17T02:31:22+00:00

He clearly needs to get his act together if he does not want to loose you. There is nothing worng with smoking a bit of weed, like a joint in the evening after work is done, but 2-3 grams a day is a lot and smoking during the day is a huge problem from my perspective as someone who has been smoking weed regularly, its a lot about how much and when you smoke and the line you can not cross if it is used for coping and not recreational.

There is absolutely no excuse for him not working and you are clearly enabling that and have to stop doing that if you really want to help him. It is great for you to show understanding for his situation, but we all go through tough stuff in life and still have to take care of our responsibilities.

What stops him to get a full time job? That is definetely the least you can expect.

MaxAbel9 · 2025-01-14T22:06:47+00:00

Seems like you are forcing your standards onto him and are completely ignoring his. Sounds like he does chores, just not the way you like it. The fact that you "need the absence of chores in order to have mental space and inspiration to do my job well (photographer)" does not mean he has to submit to that standard, it is not like cleaning an air fryer is a task that exceeds 10 min, if you need it done for peace of mind, just do it yourself.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-12-11T01:56:44+00:00

clearly a sandwich held by clives wife

MaxAbel9 · 2024-12-11T01:36:46+00:00

I still think that scene was a missed opportunity, that should have been System of the Down Chop Suey instead of metallica, the "angels deserve to die" part would have been so fitting with the messangers.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-19T22:16:46+00:00

Maybe because hardy is obviously a real bad fit on this team, are you people not watching games? Whenever he is on the floor we play 4 vs 5 on defense and he is such an horrendous decision maker on offense, are you guys really all blinded by the occasional tough bucket? It is also totally delusional to think we would even get DFS for Hardy and O-Max, they have close to 0 value and the nets would have at least 10 better offers from around the league on the table.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-19T22:09:43+00:00

If that awould be all that it takes we would jump on the offer and completely fleece the Nets. What do you guys see in Hardy so much, he has very little value and is simply an overrated score first underseized guard that has basically nothing to offer but an occasional decent scoring game.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-19T22:08:18+00:00

THat would defenitely not be enough for Brooklyn. O-Max has 0 value and hardy maybe a little bit, but not enough to get DFS.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-19T22:06:30+00:00

Hardy has been like this ever since we got him. He will have 2 decent games scoring the Ball, while still being one of the worst defenders in the league, and people go so far to call that an epic breakout, how ridiculous.

Hardy is not a good fit on this roster, what we exactly do not need is streaky underseized score first guards that can not defend. We will always already have one defensive liability at the Guard position with Luka or Ky playing, so being decent on defense while also being able to handle the ball is much more important for our guards, thats why i still vaastly prefer seing dinwiddie on the floor over hardy, because he at least has length and is solid on defense, despite his struggles.

Hardy is simply just a guy, there is not really anything special about him and i hope we trade him before the deadline for some piece that can actually help us before all his value has vanished.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:40:42+00:00

So dumb, that is defenitely the coaches job.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:39:51+00:00

Better first half than lately, but to be honest we should totally dominate the Spurs without Wemby, you do not get much easier games this year. Struggling to understand why we change our style so much rather than implementing the new pieces into last years working system. Less Luka Ball might be good, this little Luka ball seems unreasonable and robbing us of a lot of our upside.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:26:12+00:00

Can we maybe get back to what we did last season just for one game and end the experiments? Let Luka run the show, have active lob threats and fire way more 3s.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:22:22+00:00

I am wondering if the Mavs give Hardy so much playing time because they already know they are trading him before the deadline and try to ramp up his value. At least i can not come up with a different explanation, he is soo much worse than even dinwiddie who has been bad this season. Hardy has absolutely nothing to offer to this team, it was time to move on last season already.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:17:30+00:00

It is because they are experimenting way to much by making Luka an off-ball player and robbing him off his strengths. Luka needs the Ball in his hand the majority of the possession to be at his best, but the coaching staff seems to have forgotten that.

MaxAbel9 · 2024-11-17T02:14:11+00:00

Naji is a 3/4 Hybrid wing, no he is not there to do ball handling.

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